Thats something important. I've tried to make semen retention to get completely focused on my goals some months ago, but I couldnt stand for so long. Im now trying to balance that part of my life... Trying to have some dates/sex without distracting me from my business and goals. And of course, without causing me any problems.
I have to be really careful with that so I dont get lost on it. At least for now Im not doing the bullsh1ts I did in the past putting all my time and effort into a relationship and losing a lot of opportunities. Im not proud of those things.
And have to say that dealing with sexual desire is very difficult sometimes. The more I try to control that desire for sex the more I desire it... Thats why Im trying to find a way to balance that part of my life. Idk if this is the best way, if its not please correct me.
Thanks for this warning. I needed to read that.
Nice, I started a streak recently myself, feel free to PM and I will do my best here as well.
There's nothing wrong with having sexual urges during nofap. There's also nothing wrong with fapping when the urge is extremely great and distracting. There's nothing wrong with talking to women when you're horny, in fact nofap can give you lots of confidence you would otherwise not have.
The important thing is to not be discouraged, and to take as many insights from missteps as possibly. Personally I've noticed that if I'm extremely horny and then fap it's a great release, but I notice it makes me more content, and it's not a very good use of that energy.
When I get crazy urges I'll instead focus on releasing that energy more productively. I'll do as many push-ups as I can(burnout set) or plan a vacation/trip, or track down some event that will allow me to network more.
I swear sometimes a really hard workout feels like I just had sex, and I'm satisfied and relaxed afterwards. Think, if instead of fapping you workout like crazy until that energy dissipates. You will workout so much that gains will come naturally. Thus women that love gains will notice, thus game will be more effortless. You'll also have more self confidence every time you look in a mirror.
You can chat with these girls but consider having the motive of getting connections through them. What do their parents do? Their friends? Where do they work or study? Any work or business opportunities if you met these other people? The sex from these girls is always secondary to something much more meaningful to you.
In fact they LOVE when you are so disciplined that they have to work for your love. It emanates from you. You have charm, so use it to your advantage. Not for worthless pus$y, but for what you're really interested in, a stable living, a nice place, solid income, to be a force of nature.
And when your focus is on something higher, something they don't control, their responses will not affect you at all, and you won't spend precious time and brain power with these kinds of threads.
Remember what comes first, you, your freedom, and the effect of your force. Be smart about your attention and time, invest wisely. If something feels like a poor use or your attention, if you feel you're spinning your wheels, then shift to something else. Something that feels productive. Let the sub conscious work on that other task for a while, come back to it later.
You've done great by moving out, but don't revolve around pus$y for validation, you and I both know true validation comes from within. The pus$y will rob your time if you let it. This is what it means to be high value, to be actively choosing the single life because it allows more freedom to get shiit done, to make more money, to do what you want.
And if you are actively choosing the single life, always having no issue walking, then women cease to be a problem, because you are the lowest maintenance guy they will meet, nothing will upset you.
You can think about settling down in ten years, for now focus on building an empire that you can later share with special women that prove themselves worthy.
