Girl who schedules you a couple hours later on the same day.

[Warpal]

Today i would go for a walk with a girl around 13.00. she just texted me that she can do 15.00 hour, because she wanted to go train and eat lunch. I said that was not the agreement. She said thats right thats why i'm texting i have different plans. Not asking me if i can do that time. Thats a big sign of disrespect right?

 

[jimwho]

You had an agreement for a walk at 1:00 ish.. ?? Help us understand.

 

[Georgepithyou]

Well it means something more important came up, she could have another date that morning so she had to delay urs

 

[B80]

Today i would go for a walk with a girl around 13.00. she just texted me that she can do 15.00 hour, because she wanted to go train and eat lunch. I said that was not the agreement. She said thats right thats why i'm texting i have different plans. Not asking me if i can do that time. Thats a big sign of disrespect right?

1st date?

Seems like an odd thing to do if shes being genuine about going to the gym... poor social skills.

How would she like it if you told her you need reschedule if washing the car or watching a film.

Maybe it's happened to her previously and she's aware of the effects and trying to get the upper hand early on.

Not sure I'd make a fuss but would annoy me for sure, or ateast raise an eye brow and cause the relationship to start on shaky ground.

 

[Warpal]

it's a girl i dated for a couple of months but we seperated.(low interrest her side) we set up an appointment to go for a walk today at 13.00 hours. Now she texting me this morning that can do 15.00 because she goes to fitness and for lunch with friends. I told her that was not the agreement. And she responded with : thats right, thats is why im texting my schedule is changed.

It feels like disrespect to me.

 

[jimwho]

Unless she showed up at your door, I would never see or hear from her again .

 

[B80]

Yeah she's taking the piss, ego boost thinking she can do what she wants and hopes to get away with it.

 

[Bigpapa]

it's a girl i dated for a couple of months but we seperated.(low interrest her side) we set up an appointment to go for a walk today at 13.00 hours. Now she texting me this morning that can do 15.00 because she goes to fitness and for lunch with friends. I told her that was not the agreement. And she responded with : thats right, thats is why im texting my schedule is changed.

It feels like disrespect to me.

her reply to you saying that this was not the agreement is super b1tchy and totally not needed .

one something happens and you try to reschedule something with someone , you are way warmer and not b1tchy

the problem is that if you reject , she will know that you are butthurt which is not sexy

 

[Who Dares Win]

If its too much of a problem for you just say "no problem we can do an other time "

Personally I dont find anything extremely rude in her behaviour but again Im investing so few in relationships that I take for granted a low investment from others too.

How old are you? and she?

 

[bat soup]

Today i would go for a walk with a girl around 13.00. she just texted me that she can do 15.00 hour, because she wanted to go train and eat lunch. I said that was not the agreement. She said thats right thats why i'm texting i have different plans. Not asking me if i can do that time. Thats a big sign of disrespect right?

I wonder if she's having sausage and eggs for lunch. Maybe you can give her a cream pie for dessert.

 

[Warpal]

i understand your answers. i think i was to little in my context. she already did that once to me and i agreed as the beta buck i was. things didnt get better after that. So now i just say we made an agreement and she didnt kept to it, wich i found disrespectfull. Im 30 she is 23. I told her i cant do that time and said we will do this thursday at 13.00. She agreed.

Respect is everything

 

[firstbornunicorn]

You might be coming off as neurotic. If that time works for you but you purposely said it didn't just to put your foot down, you're losing.

 

[EyeOnThePrize]

@Warpal
Too many guys in this thread are concerned about what she thinks about you and how you might appear to her.

That's a completely useless exercise. So what if she thinks you're butthurt or neurotic? She may hate your guts because you wore a green sweater, we have absolutely no idea.

Remember guys, what a woman or anyone thinks about you is absolutely none of your business.

Speak your truth and own it. The more effortless you can make this for yourself the better. Imo it sounds like low interest. Personally I don't reschedule on the same day, it throws my schedule off and you're right, it shows disrespect.

If she reschedules for the same day I'd simply say 'No I'm busy then, but I might be free later in the week.' I would let her put the effort in of rescheduling since she's the one breaking the date.

Or I might tell her where I'll be and what I'll be doing at her proposed time, basically saying 'I'm not going out of my way for you at that time, but you are free to come seduce me.'

If she doesn't reschedule or tag along with whatever I'm doing at her rescheduled time then bullet dodged, precious time saved. This is my personal style. Some guys don't mind chasing and rescheduling a million times. I do.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

it's a girl i dated for a couple of months but we seperated.(low interrest her side) we set up an appointment to go for a walk today at 13.00 hours. Now she texting me this morning that can do 15.00 because she goes to fitness and for lunch with friends. I told her that was not the agreement. And she responded with : thats right, thats is why im texting my schedule is changed.

It feels like disrespect to me.

You disrespected yourself already by going back to a woman who has low interest.

 

[Bigpapa]

You disrespected yourself already by going back to a woman who has low interest.

sometimes you have to go through this sh1t to get the p8ssy .

but for sure if you put more effort than “come to my place “ for sure you are not respecting yourself

 

[EyeBRollin]

Cancel the date and never talk to this girl again.

 

[Bigpapa]

I wouldn't have re-offered my time. Your time and attention are your two most important assets, yet you're giving them away like candy at Halloween. Why are you willing to re-engage with her? She broke up with you months ago, right?

i think that guys in general should be a little bit pickier on whom they put that efort on .

it is ok to brush off a couple of times when she is acting rude or disrespectful , but once why this happens constantly then you just have to back down , as most likely she is more interested only in the good feeling that she gets when you chase her .

I recently told a girl that I was talking with that I do not see the point anymore of meeting since she is super vain , and I do not find this attractive . She put on the swapping apps her Instagram so she can boost her followers .

then I also added that having a lot of followers is a fake metric, since even ugly girls can have this . I confess , I was bad to the bone when I said this but this is what I felt .

for sure she would have caused a lot of drama due to the entitlement she got from hordes of thirsty low value men

 

[powersize]

You should thank that chick for canceling the date - it saved you time and showed her real interest level. By replying "I am busy at 15 but let me know once you are free next time" shows that you do not care about her decision. Even if she will reach you out in the future it will be up to you to decide whether to meet up. After replying I would personally delete her and move on.

 

[Barrister]

She is low interest at best given this behavior. If this was a 1st date I wouldn't think too much of it (just normal woman flakiness). However, since you stated you dated for a couple of months awhile back this is clearly her showing you that you still aren't a priority. I assume she broke things off with you before as well.

I would tell her that the adjusted time will not work and seek out other women. She may come around. And if she doesn't you shouldn't care.

 

[Black Widow Void]

Your response to this should be:
You: Have fun.
You don't confirm that you'll see her at her specified time. For all she knows, you have a routine and you invited her to be part of it.

Any man with experience is going to encounter this type of situation. Unfortunately, about 75% of the men reading this (even the ones with a lot of experience) are going to continue to encounter this situation more than they should.

Why, you ask? Because of laziness or lack of self-accountability.

To go with the mindset that the girl has no class, didn't respect you etc... is laziness. Oh sure, you can put your foot down after the fact, but if she cancelled or delayed plans to begin with.... do you really think she's going to be compliant when you become (so-called) "alpha?" Think again.

As mentioned above. I've encountered this behavior too. Any man that dates his share will experience this. The tip to reducing this behavior is to look at our own. Ask yourself what you've done that has led up to her behavior.

Did you not size her up properly?
making concessions for behaviors that you didn't like ... or not looking deep enough to see if she was flighty?
Were you too available?
always texting back quickly or letting her end the phone conversations - rather than you?
Did you not leave her feeling good?
being sparing with your time and leaving on a high-note?