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I can tell you a few things. One, the pre-nup will be fought in court and you will have to pay those legal fees. You may also be ordered to pay your spouses legal fees as well during discovery. I know my last divorce, I was required to pay her medical premium and deductibles which was over 600 bucks a month (it was a good plan). Since the plan was cancelled at the end of the year, I was able to get out of it. However, if it wasn't, I was on the hook through the whole divorce process which lasted nearly 1.5 years. Two, Dr. Dre is fighting the same battle right now. His wife, who's also an attorney, also stated that Andre (Dr. Dre) said he "tore up" the pre-nup a few years ago.
Certainly a shame if that comes to pass. I told her to write our legislature for the laws to remove the antiquated divorce laws. I even said, would any dude work then for marriage? She looked shocked. You will have just about all the same rights and privileges aside from legal right or ownership of my assets as outlined in a cohabitation agreement. However, if you want to do a rehab project with me and cover 50% of the costs, I have no problem splitting that down the middle. I said that is fair. Giving you something that isn't yours is not. You can have a party, the religious ceremony, the ring, etc. Are you willing to give that up for a piece of paper? She looked puzzled. I just said think about it and let me know. You know where I stand on this and what I've had to do in the past.
Perhaps, but I still think compromise is the key in any relationship. If we can't, then sadly and unfortunately, we will have to walk our separate ways. Having a fling is one thing. Finding a female that is acceptable to be a mother is completely another. However, it's not worth the hell I went through last decade. I posted about that a couple years ago too.
I agree however with the exception of Marriage and/or Kids. You can't compromise on those two items.
No issues with having kids. Technically, we would be married, just not sanctioned by the State. I do not see the issue.
yeah but to me it seems like she wants that piece of paper which is the issue I was getting at.
She'd get a piece of paper from the Rev. it her choice. I assume it will come to pass one way or another very soon. I am not too confident, but it is what it is, as I've already accepted she may walk; that's her choice. Not for nothing, the last two I had this talk to also walked, then reached out weeks and months later; I didn't take them back. She knows that too. I am more than willing to a make this work, but it has to be fair. Marriage by the State is not fair; nor are the lawyers at 500 + an hour.
That's not cool. Even a slimy toad has some standards.
That's not a "good" thing to do. But it is easier to bang a married than a true single. Smh...
The sad fact is they, whether they know it or not, want to have something over on the other so it hurts to leave should things fail. As hard as it is, and I will not lie, as painful as this may appear, it's better to experience it now than later. I still think there is a chance that she'd come around, but I'm already preparing in my mind that we're going to go our separate ways. Not going to say it's starting to sink in, but unless she comes around, the writing is on the wall.
To discover your connections, whatsoever worth to you, your weaknesses and strengths.
Certainly possible. Or, she wants to go through the whole experience like her friends are going through. She doesn't have a bad bone in her body. The anti-marriage is not against her, it's against the system.. That's what some people forget that I am trying to empathize. So, I understand she wants the experience, but she can have that; just not the "title" of legal wife. Religious wife, yes, legal, no. She can have the party, the ceremony, the dress, ring, etc. I really do not understand what the big deal is. Maybe it is me..
I would argue, her marrying you for your money is actually a better outcome than her marrying you so she can share in these moments with her friends.
Anything is possible, but I've not moved from my position. I've offered a religious marriage when we started to become serious as a compromise.
