why do girls like losers?

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I have been googling this but not getting any convincing answers

Why do girls tend to like losers?
a) they don't like losers, you are wrong
b) because losers are more carefree and fun. winners are like "I am so educated and I have this bmw" while losers don't care.
c) because they have an inferiority complex and cannot be with someone better than them
d) evolution bro. read up on it.
e) none of the above.
 

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I have been googling this but not getting any convincing answers

Why do girls tend to like losers?
a) they don't like losers, you are wrong
b) because losers are more carefree and fun. winners are like "I am so educated and I have this bmw" while losers don't care.
c) because they have an inferiority complex and cannot be with someone better than them
d) evolution bro. read up on it.
e) none of the above.
Has it ever occured to you they might be losers too? Water tends to find its level.
 

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I have been googling this but not getting any convincing answers

Why do girls tend to like losers?
a) they don't like losers, you are wrong
b) because losers are more carefree and fun. winners are like "I am so educated and I have this bmw" while losers don't care.
c) because they have an inferiority complex and cannot be with someone better than them
d) evolution bro. read up on it.
e) none of the above.
Part of it is subjectivity.

Is a loser someone who has no job and smokes weed all day? What if a girl wants to spend all day with her boyfriend smoking weed?

Is a loser someone who leads a life of crime? What if a girl craves the excitement and danger of being the bonnie to a clyde? Surely theres plenty of women dating police, millitary, Federal agents, etc. For that exact same reason: they want an exciting action movie badass.

Chances are what you think is a loser might not be what she thinks is a loser. Maybe she thinks some generic 9-5 pencil pusher is a loser compared to a coked out rockstar, but the pencil pusher thinks of himself as clean and respectable.
 

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Yeah there's plenty of trashy ass women out there. Just because she's attractive doesn't mean she's not just as big of a loser as her boyfriend. Its a common mistake to value women solely on their looks as opposed to factoring in their morals, work ethic, intelligence, kindness, etc. Only a loser would want to date an attractive woman who lacked any of those qualities.
 

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That really depends on exactly what you think loser traits are, because there are many types of losers and some of them have no trouble getting women while others are also losers in the eyes of women.
 

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That really depends on exactly what you think loser traits are, because there are many types of losers and some of them have no trouble getting women while others are also losers in the eyes of women.
I guess I need to define loser. by loser I guess I mean someone who looks like he is in a gang. tattoos, his pants down to his knees with his underwear showing, he was born in USA yet can't spell basic English. probably she supports him financially.
 

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Define loser. That's a pretty ambiguous word. There's plenty of men that are successful careerwise and financially but are still losers. Or maybe a guy who's not good looking, genetically he's a loser. So be specific in what you mean by loser.
 

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Also life isn't fair. It's cold and unforgiving. And if you're a man for the most part the majority of people absolutely do not care, but you can influence people too so there's that.
 

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I guess I need to define loser. by loser I guess I mean someone who looks like he is in a gang. tattoos, his pants down to his knees with his underwear showing, he was born in USA yet can't spell basic English. probably she supports him financially.
I see, that's the type of loser that (some) women like. Why? Because this type of loser has basic masculinity going for him, that's enough even though he has nothing else going for him. They don't take sh!t and that makes a lot of pvssies wet despite being bottom feeders on the socioeconomic scale.

There's also a type of loser who doesn't get women, those are the spineless guys. Interesting thing about them is that they can be a lot higher on the socioeconomic scale, yet women still avoid them because being masculine is more important than anything else when it comes to attraction.
 

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They are not losers. They are deadbeats. And women like them because they don't care about nothing
 

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I see, that's the type of loser that (some) women like. Why? Because this type of loser has basic masculinity going for him, that's enough even though he has nothing else going for him. They don't take sh!t and that makes a lot of pvssies wet despite being bottom feeders on the socioeconomic scale.

There's also a type of loser who doesn't get women, those are the spineless guys. Interesting thing about them is that they can be a lot higher on the socioeconomic scale, yet women still avoid them because being masculine is more important than anything else when it comes to attraction.
yep.
Part of it is subjectivity.

Is a loser someone who has no job and smokes weed all day? What if a girl wants to spend all day with her boyfriend smoking weed?

Is a loser someone who leads a life of crime? What if a girl craves the excitement and danger of being the bonnie to a clyde? Surely theres plenty of women dating police, millitary, Federal agents, etc. For that exact same reason: they want an exciting action movie badass.

Chances are what you think is a loser might not be what she thinks is a loser. Maybe she thinks some generic 9-5 pencil pusher is a loser compared to a coked out rockstar, but the pencil pusher thinks of himself as clean and respectable.

exactly
 

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It's the same reason why men will choose to settle down with the damaged ex-stripper.

Attraction, Lust, and Free will.

This topic reminds me of a girl I went to high school with over 20 years ago. She was beautiful and had everything going for her. Smart, good family, dated the captain of the football team, etc... One day during our senior year she decided to dump the good guy for the bad boy and change social circles for no apparent reason. Fast forward 25 years to today and she is a single mom ex heroin addict cleaning houses for a living.

Her and I have been friends since childhood, and it really is a sad story. I've even hired her to come clean my house once or twice even though my house didn't need to be cleaned.
 

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Just because a guy is indifferent and not tied to the outcome of a relationship (IDGAF) doesn't make him "a loser."

LOSER: No goals (#1), no $, no property, no drive, no motivation, likely drug user, little or no skills and/or education, no job or low paying job. Notice ALL these things are AFFECTABLE.

Some (not all) women date these guys because the woman's self esteem is very low and it makes her feel wanted and superior dating a man with so many issues. These are also the women who keep going back to an abusive relationship, time and time again, only to have the man abuse her time and time again. Nothing could be more sad.

Related to this are the women who are "fixers"; they seek out "broken" men and try to fix them. Ironically, once the man does get his act together, often the woman leaves him because he's no longer a challenge to her and now may even be superior--and her fragile little ego can't handle that or she just gets bored.

A man who is outcome indifferent when it comes to dating and relationships has the cornerstone of the DJ mentality.
 
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