Which of these options is the best for a first date

Dam44

Senior Don Juan
Joined
May 6, 2020
Messages
448
Reaction score
127
Hello

I almost got a girl on a date just before Universities were closed. In my school, the options I see are quite few. Which of these options do you think would be best for a first date.

1. A semi open restaurant for a drink(orange juice) and snacks(pies, doughnuts and stuff like that). It's the cheapest option

2. A restaurant for real food. (These ones are abundant on campus)

3. The school's zoo. (It's quite large and has many animals, light food and drinks are available at entry point)

4. A nearby cinema. (Students go here quite often but I don't think it's good for a first date)
 

bcude

Master Don Juan
Joined
May 31, 2019
Messages
762
Reaction score
1,219
Age
42
3.)
Because it has the best chance of creating a memorable emotional experience, where she'll remember you within that context.
Think fun, action, memories, ways to touch naturally and create an emotional connection over external things as in 'we did that'. Like petting the baby lambs or whatever.

Drinks are okay. Food and cinema is a big no.
Also, you go there because you want to, not because you think she'll like it. If you're not enjoying yourself, she won't either.
 

isasda66

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Nov 23, 2019
Messages
239
Reaction score
173
Age
28
1. A semi open restaurant for a drink(orange juice) and snacks(pies, doughnuts and stuff like that). It's the cheapest option
3. The school's zoo. (It's quite large and has many animals, light food and drinks are available at entry point)
My top pick is the Zoo then the drink.

3. Is can be made fun. You can banter and get her laughing, plus its different from most other things guys suggest such as walk in the park or ice cream etc.

1. Is cheap and low effort. Never get more invested than her. Cant go wrong here
 

Young OG

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jun 6, 2015
Messages
1,261
Reaction score
1,070
Location
USA
Hello

I almost got a girl on a date just before Universities were closed. In my school, the options I see are quite few. Which of these options do you think would be best for a first date.

1. A semi open restaurant for a drink(orange juice) and snacks(pies, doughnuts and stuff like that). It's the cheapest option

2. A restaurant for real food. (These ones are abundant on campus)

3. The school's zoo. (It's quite large and has many animals, light food and drinks are available at entry point)

4. A nearby cinema. (Students go here quite often but I don't think it's good for a first date)
I honestly don't like any of the options. You definitely don't want to take her to dinner on the first date (that's for after they put out) and the movies aren't good because you can't talk. The other options sound like they are during the day which means you probably won't get laid. But, if those are the only options then I would pick the zoo.
 

FlexpertHamilton

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jun 10, 2020
Messages
2,711
Reaction score
3,138
Location
US
Something like a zoo/aquarium/park/beach/ice skating/etc is best saved for later dates, not a first one. The first date is just a test to see if you like them, which should be a no in most cases unless you have an exceptional screening process.

Regardless, saving the memorable, fun, "romantic" dates for AFTER sex is better because a) you'll show her you are interested in more than sex and b) having experienced sex already, the date will be more fun and intimate and you can get to see what she's really like.

For me, I have a pretty hard rule where a first date should always be a) straight to your house b) drinks at a bar or c) drinks at a kava bar (if they're under 21). Anything more is a big waste of time, money, and effort.
 
Last edited:

Dam44

Senior Don Juan
Joined
May 6, 2020
Messages
448
Reaction score
127
Hmm, so what are other options you suggest
I honestly don't like any of the options. You definitely don't want to take her to dinner on the first date (that's for after they put out) and the movies aren't good because you can't talk. The other options sound like they are during the day which means you probably won't get laid. But, if those are the only options then I would pick the zoo.
 

Dam44

Senior Don Juan
Joined
May 6, 2020
Messages
448
Reaction score
127
Something like a zoo/aquarium/park/beach/ice skating/etc is best saved for later dates, not a first one. The first date is just a test to see if you like them, which should be a no in most cases unless you have an exceptional screening process.

Regardless, saving the memorable, fun, "romantic" dates for AFTER sex is better because a) you'll show her you are interested in more than sex and b) having experienced sex already, the date will be more fun and intimate and you can get to see what she's really like.

For me, I have a pretty hard rule where a first date should always be a) straight to your house b) drinks at a bar or c) drinks at a kava bar (if they're under 21). Anything more is a big waste of time, money, and effort.
Lol, I do not an exceptional screening process.

a. I'm still young. College student. Stays on campus. School hostel.
b. This is very similar to my option a

I agree! A lot of money/ time should not go into dates especially the first
 

Trez

Banned
Joined
Aug 3, 2020
Messages
473
Reaction score
226
Age
36
The zoo because it's the most action oriented date. Mini golf is better though.
 

Jack12345

Banned
Joined
Jan 20, 2020
Messages
758
Reaction score
428
zoo sounds like a good idea
Cinema also cause it is minimum investment (physical)
 

Billtx49

Moderator
Joined
May 23, 2013
Messages
6,078
Reaction score
5,482
Location
DFW
Oh, I don't play golf. TBH I know nothing about it
You don’t have to know anything about it other than count shots, most people doing it don’t play the real… It’s just fun…
It’s an excellent opportunity to slide in behind her with arms over hers and show her how to stroke a putter…
Whether you get it in the hole or not, show her you have fun playing the game…
 

Dam44

Senior Don Juan
Joined
May 6, 2020
Messages
448
Reaction score
127
You don’t have to know anything about it other than count shots, most people doing it don’t play the real… It’s just fun…
It’s an excellent opportunity to slide in behind her with arms over hers and show her how to stroke a putter…
Whether you get it in the hole or not, show her you have fun playing the game…
Okay. This sounds cool. Thanks
 

Focal core

Master Don Juan
Joined
Dec 21, 2017
Messages
1,537
Reaction score
1,201
Age
44
I would choose the 1 or coffee shop, this way i could isolate any unwanted noise other than focus on the conversation, use this to gauge the quality of the connection you might having with, and escalating later by going to cinemas.. I often go on multiple venues on the same day and close with kiss or more.
 

7onriverI f

Banned
Joined
Jan 31, 2020
Messages
610
Reaction score
294
all are good.

Really it's about just spending time with her. Whether that's just looking into her eyes, listening to her talk about stuff, telling her about your stories, her telling you about her stories, telling jokes, its all the same crap.

What you really wanna focus on though is personal hygiene, dress sense, diet and exercise outside of this. Plus all three of these things can can be ignored and you still get results. Some girls actually find it funny when you stink but other girls hate it. Some girls don't like guys who are better looking than them.
 

Dam44

Senior Don Juan
Joined
May 6, 2020
Messages
448
Reaction score
127
I would choose the 1 or coffee shop, this way i could isolate any unwanted noise other than focus on the conversation, use this to gauge the quality of the connection you might having with, and escalating later by going to cinemas.. I often go on multiple venues on the same day and close with kiss or more.
Multiple dates!
 

Dam44

Senior Don Juan
Joined
May 6, 2020
Messages
448
Reaction score
127
all are good.

Really it's about just spending time with her. Whether that's just looking into her eyes, listening to her talk about stuff, telling her about your stories, her telling you about her stories, telling jokes, its all the same crap.

What you really wanna focus on though is personal hygiene, dress sense, diet and exercise outside of this. Plus all three of these things can can be ignored and you still get results. Some girls actually find it funny when you stink but other girls hate it. Some girls don't like guys who are better looking than them.
I'm working on my body during this lockdown. My abs to be specific.

About that stink part, really?
 
Top