MatureDJ
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Does dating a single mommy help a man develop as a man?
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Single mothers play too many mind
games for me. I guess they think they can play the games on men that were played on them and get the same results. Doesn’t work, runs me off actually. You start using lines that I know you were told by a man, I’ll ghost you.
games for me. I guess they think they can play the games on men that were played on them and get the same results. Doesn’t work, runs me off actually. You start using lines that I know you were told by a man, I’ll ghost you.
On the real though, the idea of a woman introducing me to her kids is a major erection-killer...... Even worse is that single mothers never shut up about their d@mn kids. The few that I've delt with always talk about their kids' soccer games, or how their kids are on the honor roll, or how their kid is a learning piano, or yadda yadda yadda yadda......
I won't even entertain the thought of a single mother anymore.....
EDIT::: I'll tell you what's even more annoying - it's when she introduces me to her mother who's babysitting the kids while I take her out and I get vetted by the mother on whether or not I'd make a suitable step-father....... like wtf.....???? Grandma is grilling me like it's a damn job interview, and btw, it's an interview for a job I don't want..... I ain't gonna raise another man's kids.....
I'd honestly rather visit a ho0ker or an escort than to deal with single mothers and all the drama they cause.... It's guaranteed sex and zero drama.....
I won't even entertain the thought of a single mother anymore.....
EDIT::: I'll tell you what's even more annoying - it's when she introduces me to her mother who's babysitting the kids while I take her out and I get vetted by the mother on whether or not I'd make a suitable step-father....... like wtf.....???? Grandma is grilling me like it's a damn job interview, and btw, it's an interview for a job I don't want..... I ain't gonna raise another man's kids.....
I'd honestly rather visit a ho0ker or an escort than to deal with single mothers and all the drama they cause.... It's guaranteed sex and zero drama.....
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In general, not really. It's stupid to commit to a woman merely for experience, especially if you don't feel like being thrown into having to take care of kids right off the bat in a relationship. It's different if you're with a childless woman, get her pregnant and have a baby together, you have time to gradually prepare for it.
Now about specific the woman in that post, she's not just a single mom, she's clearly also batsh!t crazy. I probably would have walked out within 5 minutes based on that behavior. So many red flags it's almost impressive.
Even with a nice woman I probably wouldn't go on a date if she had kids, I'm not at all interested by the idea of so suddenly becoming a step dad. No hate, just not my cup of tea.
Now about specific the woman in that post, she's not just a single mom, she's clearly also batsh!t crazy. I probably would have walked out within 5 minutes based on that behavior. So many red flags it's almost impressive.
Even with a nice woman I probably wouldn't go on a date if she had kids, I'm not at all interested by the idea of so suddenly becoming a step dad. No hate, just not my cup of tea.
Dating a single mother is tricky and complicated.
First, you have to get along with a child that is basically no one for you. It's good if you two become close.
Also, there could be issues of "fighting for a mother's attention" in some sort, idk.
You can also be jealous oh her communicating with her ex, so...
You have to be really confident about your feelings if you don't want to hurt her or her child
First, you have to get along with a child that is basically no one for you. It's good if you two become close.
Also, there could be issues of "fighting for a mother's attention" in some sort, idk.
You can also be jealous oh her communicating with her ex, so...
You have to be really confident about your feelings if you don't want to hurt her or her child
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TLDR,
The answer is no, often they wants a man, a real man to take the leads, if youre looking to be groomed into being a man by single mothers youre going to live in misery, they have tons of experience from their top smv in younger days, experiencing a ****ty wedlocks takes tolls on their emotional health.
If you can get a single mothers to submit and heeds to your every needs you need to be a very high value male that she cant compared with another man she has been previously, then youre a king.
spittin facts
Single mothers are jumping from one extreme to another and rarely in between - too much care (comes from a place where they, by some unfortunate circumstances, could not rise their children in a way they feel they should've been) or the care after them (love them unconditionally). Ultimately it all sums up into depression, ocd, bpd and etc.
believe the reason to this is that when their children were young they would let their parents to care after them (sometimes they been manipulated into thinking that this is the right thing to do even if it felt intuitively wrong), and in result could not develop deep connection with their kids, so eventually they suffer from guilt and depression.
complicated stuff. no reason to date a single mother if you dont resonate with this person. If you're a healthy single man, you should date healthy single women (with no kids)
believe the reason to this is that when their children were young they would let their parents to care after them (sometimes they been manipulated into thinking that this is the right thing to do even if it felt intuitively wrong), and in result could not develop deep connection with their kids, so eventually they suffer from guilt and depression.
complicated stuff. no reason to date a single mother if you dont resonate with this person. If you're a healthy single man, you should date healthy single women (with no kids)
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No, I do not think so. Childless men and single moms are generally like oil and water. Childless men should avoid single moms for the most part. I could see a childless man having a single mom as a fucck buddy, but there are usually better uses of time for a childless man than going in that direction.
I could see a man with children from a previous relationship dating a woman with children from a previous relationship. That makes sense.
As childless men age, it does get more difficult to avoid single moms. A 40 or 45 year old childless man will often be dealing with single moms. However, because Millennials have been more childless, a wave of 40 year old childless people will emerge in the 2020s, as the first half of the Millennial generation turns 40 at some point in the 2020s.
I could see a man with children from a previous relationship dating a woman with children from a previous relationship. That makes sense.
As childless men age, it does get more difficult to avoid single moms. A 40 or 45 year old childless man will often be dealing with single moms. However, because Millennials have been more childless, a wave of 40 year old childless people will emerge in the 2020s, as the first half of the Millennial generation turns 40 at some point in the 2020s.
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Here are my thoughts.
The man needs new friends. Dating a single mom doesn't make you more of a msn. It makes you less of a man. She wants a good "softie" cuck to provide resources for another man's genetic offspring. Listen to your instincts generating repulsion to such an idea. Here is the story exactly as it goes. I've seen it over and over all my life.
Woman goes around like a slut f'ing "bad boys."
She gets pregnant.
Sonetimes the "bad boy" sticks around for a little bit, but always leaves.
She finds herself a "nice guy" with more money. Gives him starfish sex once a month at best.
The man needs new friends. Dating a single mom doesn't make you more of a msn. It makes you less of a man. She wants a good "softie" cuck to provide resources for another man's genetic offspring. Listen to your instincts generating repulsion to such an idea. Here is the story exactly as it goes. I've seen it over and over all my life.
Woman goes around like a slut f'ing "bad boys."
She gets pregnant.
Sonetimes the "bad boy" sticks around for a little bit, but always leaves.
She finds herself a "nice guy" with more money. Gives him starfish sex once a month at best.
A man always has to be wary that any woman he's with is just looking for someone to pay their bills. This is doubly true of single moms. They've got kids, but usually no child support since they seem determined to breed with losers who don't have two nickels to rub together. Therefore any time you are with a single mom you can bet your ass she's trying to figure out if you can pay for little Johnnies braces or little Susie's dance lessons. Why get yourself involved with something like that?
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That's beyond brutal.
I've been out with quite a few single moms and have learned that 75% of them are single again or divorced for a reason. They often spin the divorce or breakup to make it look like the guy's fault and at first I gave them the benefit of the doubt but the more I got to know them, I realized their ex's definitely made the right decision in breaking it off with them.
It's always a red flag if a single mom is introducing their kids too soon to any guys she meets. Unless they have been in a LTR for awhile, introducing kids are a no-no in my book.
Single mom's also tend to use their kids as an excuse to get out of things so their time could appear to be busy. There will be some time when this will be legitimate but always look out for cases you feel is suspicious and next her if you suspect it.
Single mom's talking about her kids more than wanting to know you on the first date is a no-no too. Excuse yourself early and get out of there.
Single mom's should start off as a plate material for both of your sakes initially in my opinion. As you get to know her and what kind of person/mother she is may lend itself to grow to something more(25% of the single moms).
Also look to see what kind of existing relationship she has with her ex. If she's on good terms with her ex, there's a chance she can be a decent person.
My $.02
It's always a red flag if a single mom is introducing their kids too soon to any guys she meets. Unless they have been in a LTR for awhile, introducing kids are a no-no in my book.
Single mom's also tend to use their kids as an excuse to get out of things so their time could appear to be busy. There will be some time when this will be legitimate but always look out for cases you feel is suspicious and next her if you suspect it.
Single mom's talking about her kids more than wanting to know you on the first date is a no-no too. Excuse yourself early and get out of there.
Single mom's should start off as a plate material for both of your sakes initially in my opinion. As you get to know her and what kind of person/mother she is may lend itself to grow to something more(25% of the single moms).
Also look to see what kind of existing relationship she has with her ex. If she's on good terms with her ex, there's a chance she can be a decent person.
My $.02
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That frequency of sex is not worth the hassle.
1. In a different context, job candidates always blame their employer for why they were laid off or fired. I would suspect in a lot more of those cases, it is actually true, because a lot of employers are inept. Much of the time, an individual employee's success at a company has much to do with the infrastructure in place at the company rather than anything the employee does or does not do. In general, it is human nature to absolve yourself of responsibility from a failure.
2. Childless women are good at finding excuses to get out of things as well. Dogs are a common reason (see dog thread). Cats, employment, family, and friends are common excuses too. Single moms have a more easily built in excuse than childless women, but it is pretty easy for either childless women or single moms to find an excuse.
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She's probably gonna cheat on you with her ex in that case.