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Banned
So you got bunny boiled.
likely....this sosuave member must have a sister....he's figured some stuff out.Im sure she rationalize this in one way or an other and in her mind its not revenge or butthurt
- Im saving other women from that predator
Or
- he lied to me made me feel like this was going somewhere then ghost.
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I would just restart your account and move on. I was on Hinge at one point to just check it out and it seemed to have a few better options and resulted in a couple of lays.I’ve been on Hinge for maybe two years. I wasn’t in love with the app but compared to Match, POF, Bumble, I liked it the best. I’ve communicated with a fair number of women on the app (had to message a lot though just to get a few hits), but only met 2-3. One girl I did see for about 2 months around a year ago then it fizzled.
This past week, I was chatting with two women, mainly for kicks. I was lukewarm on both. One was a doctor (neurologist), maybe a HB6-7. Had two kids and lived 30 miles away. We talked about motivational speakers and I was somewhat interested in her work, but never asked her out. I let things sit for the past 3-4 days and didn’t reply to her latest message. The other one was younger, maybe a HB7, closer, no kids. I was more interested in her. I asked her out for drinks for Friday and she said she’s not comfortable going to a restaurant yet due to COVID but she’d be up for paddle boarding, as we were talking about going sometime. I let this one sit for the past 3-4 days too and didn’t respond to her last message. I was just kind of “meh” on both women and just not even sure I wanted to date really with COVID and I’m just not all that enthused about the whole dating process. To pull a line from @Glassguy, “but the door is always open a bit,” which is true.
I checked my Hinge account earlier today for a few minutes. Nothing good. I just checked it again and it said I’ve been permanently banned for violating the terms of service. Keep in mind, I haven’t met anyone off of Hinge in about a year, and my messages are all benign chit chat about hobbies and work. I looked up how to contact Hinge’s support department, and they won’t even tell you why you were banned—you just get banned and that’s it.
So my thought is one of the two women I was chatting with, my gut says the neurologist because I could just tell she was very interested in me, got super pissed when I went dark and unmatched with me. When you unmatch with someone from Hinge, you choose why and I think there was an option saying the person was inappropriate on an in-person date or similar. My guess is she said we went out and I was inappropriate and tried to get me banned. Hinge could have easily looked at our chat transcript, which was quite plain and boring, so it couldn’t be that.
I mean WTF? OLD and women have bad enough reputations and now this? The dumb b*itch gets me banned because I didn’t answer her last question fast enough? What a c*unt. Just goes to show how vindictive women can be when you deny or reject them.
I really don’t care all that much, just wanted to pass long the story and see if anyone else has experienced anything similar.
My guess is Hinge is run by a bunch of femi-nazis and beta male wimps.
~Dash~
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I thought about setting up a new acct but f*uck 'em.I would just restart your account and move on. I was on Hinge at one point to just check it out and it seemed to have a few better options and resulted in a couple of lays.
OLD absolutely favors the woman in every aspect.....until you connect and pull them into your frame. Then its game over.
Chief, lol.I'm older than you think, Chief.
They are all like that these days. If you see the people that are in senior leadership and on the board of a lot of these apps, they are the worst females that you wouldn't wish on you worst enemies.My guess is Hinge is run by a bunch of femi-nazis and beta male wimps.
Good post. Not surprised the woman in your group automatically sided with another woman. All you need to have happen as a man is be accused and your royally screwed, innocent or not.Sorry that happened - I know it’s not the end of the world but if there’s one thing that’s frustrating beyond belief, it’s when something unjust happens and you then get stonewalled afterwards and have no recourse.
This reminded me of a group conversation I was a part of. Someone brought up some accusations that were in the media at the time about a woman who accused a man of sexual harassment. This particular accusation was suspect and only one woman was making it. One of the girls in the conversation said “If a girl accuses a man of something, I always believe the girl and so should everyone.” She really believed it and meant it - that if a girl accuses a man of something, she is to be believed without question. When I told her that was ridiculous, she looked at me like she was shocked I didn’t agree with her and couldn’t even begin to fathom why. I think a lot of women feel this way and that’s why you have online dating apps like Bumble and Hinge, which are female-oriented, setup to allow women to self-police it. Having said that, these companies are small and it would be difficult for them to manually review each and every claim of improper behavior so they just figure they will let the women handle the policing. What’s odd is that most social media platforms have something similar but it takes a certain number of complaints before the system will automatically ban a person, which makes a lot more sense than what it sounds like Hinge is doing - single report equaling a ban.
I belive in more like the way to deal with a dating app or site is the same way you deal with night life, aka, put all charge on males and leave females free to join, why? in a bussiness model you want the most effective way to amke money and to do that you need more female then male ratio, talking with one who had a night club he did mention he would always look for ways to let more females then amles in because, if there is a lot of males a chance to have a fight will be higher, and in the end less guys will go with means less money to be made, plus you know how much guys spend on girly drinks for females on these palcesGood post. Not surprised the woman in your group automatically sided with another woman. All you need to have happen as a man is be accused and your royally screwed, innocent or not.
I think what might be happening is that there's a growing trend among women and maybe even some butthurt men that if someone stops communicating with you on OLD, doesn't reply to a msg fast enough, etc., the other person reports them as rude or innappropriate as a way to "fire back" for getting jilted or ghosted. So over time, they do add up and you get banned.
It's like a bunch of snot-nosed brats who can't play nice in the sandbox and then go tattling to mommy and daddy for the most minor of infractions.
I will blame women more for this behavior because their egos are so fragile and they cannot deal with rejection well. Men are far more used to bad behavior and most just deal with it and move on.
How do you feel about this "conformity"?This look alot like the #metoo witch hunt.
Women tend to cope with this kind of strategy.
Coping strategy
Appraisal-focused (adaptive cognitive) strategies occur when the person modifies the way they think, for example: employing denial, or distancing oneself from the problem.
Also there are studies about the more ppl hear of something others do the more they will emulate. Robert CIaldini call it social proof
Suicide wave is a good example, or even terrorist attack.
You remember when out of nowhere there was alot of truck ramming into crowd.
. It describes a psychological and social phenomenon wherein people copy the actions of others in an attempt to undertake behavior in a given situation.
Social proof is considered prominent in ambiguous social situations where people are unable to determine the appropriate mode of behavior, and is driven by the assumption that the surrounding people possess more knowledge about the current situation.
I wish we could spot those delusional women before we start interacting with them.
All you gotta do is look at the beta founder Brandon Wade of that site and that will say a lot.If you think this is bad you should check out the reviews from places like seeking.com, it's loaded with comments from men who paid lots of money (i think it's something like 100 bucks a month) and got banned immediately and randomly accused of harrassment, using sexual language and BS like that. It seemed like the women reported men they were "unpleased" with over random reasons and these men got banned instantly, the majority of them didn't even use offensive language according to the reviews. Poor suckers aren't even allowed to pay for women.
Womans in charge in that pic. She's allowing that position. His hand rests on her thighs as if asking for permission.All you gotta do is look at the beta founder Brandon Wade of that site and that will say a lot.
Monkey see monkey do.How do you feel about this "conformity"?
On the air plane when every one stands up to stress being in the aisle and waiting i sit down and relax. Because mw doing the same won't speed anything up and will stress me like them.Monkey see monkey do.
Id like to think, we should be better than this