nicksaiz65
Master Don Juan
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- Nov 27, 2017
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Intro
Hey guys. This quarantine sucks. It's basically impossible to approach and meet new women. I got so frustrated with it that today, I told myself I would approach some women while I went to go get my groceries. I've been a fan of Roosh V, so I've always done indirect daygame like he recommended. However, I've been talking with @Young OG and I've decided I wanted to do some direct daygame. I wasn't even trying to close today. There's not much of a point, cause where on Earth could I even take these women y'know? I just wanted to face my anxieties head on, and prove to myself that I could go up to a woman and approach her directly.
Approaches
First of all, I stayed a good distance back in each of these approaches. I'm not catching COVID-19, this was just a little social experiment to increase my self confidence.
Approach 1
I saw this very attractive blond in the wine section of the grocery store. I made the rookie mistake of approaching her from behind, I think I startled her a bit. The correct technique is to get in front of her, say excuse me, and then hit her with your opener. It's one thing to watch people do it right in infield videos, but then it's another to actually do it correctly yourself lol. I said "I know this is random, but I just thought you were cute and wanted to say hi." She seemed very flattered. I definitely could've kept the conversation going, considering we were in the wine isle, but I felt kind of choppy and nervous so I just kept walking and moved on lol.
Approach 2
This was a really good one. I saw a cute girl on the produce aisle. I made sure not to make the same mistake as the last one, so I got in front of her, said excuse me, and then hit her with my opener. She had a really interesting bag, so I decided to open with "Hey, this is totally random, but I wanted to say that I liked your style." She was like "oh, thank you!!!" She was really bubbly and enthusiastic, plus she made the conversation easy. I'm absolutely sure that I hit the hook point, cause she stopped what she was doing and took off her mask so that she could hear what I was saying better. I used the "Free Association" technique that I learned, and the conversation was really interesting. We talked about hiking, running, shopping, blowing our paychecks, and all that. In hindsight, I definitely should've at least gotten her number lol. I just ended with "well I've gotta keep shopping, but I just wanted to say that." And she said "For sure! Thanks for coming up!"
Approach 3
I approached a girl in nurse scrubs with the same opener. "Hey, this is totally random, but I thought you were cute and wanted to say hi." She just laughed a bit nervously, said thanks, and kept it moving.
Approach 4
I saw this cute Latina woman in a tight black dress. I used the same opener and told her she was cute. She just stared at me blankly and kept walking. Hahaha. Definitely a rejection.
Approach 5
This approach was okay. I saw a curly headed brunette sniffing sunscreens haha. I saw she was wearing Adidas Superstars. So I opened semi-direct with "I like your shoes. They're very versatile." We had a conversation about that. She seemed decently receptive. I kinda screwed up on this conversation. I could've kept it going by asking where she worked, what she did, all that stuff. But eventually I just ended the conversation.
Self Confidence
My confidence was through the roof on these approaches. For the first time in my life while approaching, I felt like "I deserve these women, and they would be lucky to have me." Not "I'm bothering her," but "I'm giving this girl the unique opportunity to meet me." I know exactly why, too. My theory of "self improvement brings confidence" is absolutely correct. I've been running and lifting hard for a couple of months, so I felt athletic af. My hair was also on point. I've been self improving hard, so the confidence just flowed. I need to keep working out hard and improving my hairstyle so I feel extremely like I am totally worthy of pulling these women.
I still had a bit of approach anxiety, but I still did it. To kill my approach anxiety, I heard AMS' voice in my head, telling me to approach.
What I Could Improve On
I was talking way too fast. That'll fix itself as I do more self improvement, and I approach more.
I wasn't using the breaking rapport tonality. I'll work on that more in the future.
What I Learned
Whether direct or indirect, in your approach, you still need to ramble just like Roosh V says. The only difference is that in direct, you can ask her personal questions right away.
One of my biggest issues has been dealing with my overthinking and anxiety. I'll make more posts about how I've learned to combat this in the future... but basically I've just been thinking about my goals and thinking about them extremely, extremely logically. Then I do what it takes to achieve those goals with zero questions. Instead of all these "what if's."
This approaching stuff isn't that hard haha. With a boatload of self improvement, and some more practice approaching, I can definitely get some fvckbuddies and/or an awesome girlfriend if I want one.
After doing these, I should have no issues approaching in a grocery store, ever again. I've just proved to myself that I can do it lol.
What I Want to Learn
How do you guys talk to girls in groups during the day? I can do it at night, but during the day not so much. I'm going to look at some infields and figure this out when I get the chance.
Conclusion
I think this was a pretty fun experiment. But let me know what you guys think!
Hey guys. This quarantine sucks. It's basically impossible to approach and meet new women. I got so frustrated with it that today, I told myself I would approach some women while I went to go get my groceries. I've been a fan of Roosh V, so I've always done indirect daygame like he recommended. However, I've been talking with @Young OG and I've decided I wanted to do some direct daygame. I wasn't even trying to close today. There's not much of a point, cause where on Earth could I even take these women y'know? I just wanted to face my anxieties head on, and prove to myself that I could go up to a woman and approach her directly.
Approaches
First of all, I stayed a good distance back in each of these approaches. I'm not catching COVID-19, this was just a little social experiment to increase my self confidence.
Approach 1
I saw this very attractive blond in the wine section of the grocery store. I made the rookie mistake of approaching her from behind, I think I startled her a bit. The correct technique is to get in front of her, say excuse me, and then hit her with your opener. It's one thing to watch people do it right in infield videos, but then it's another to actually do it correctly yourself lol. I said "I know this is random, but I just thought you were cute and wanted to say hi." She seemed very flattered. I definitely could've kept the conversation going, considering we were in the wine isle, but I felt kind of choppy and nervous so I just kept walking and moved on lol.
Approach 2
This was a really good one. I saw a cute girl on the produce aisle. I made sure not to make the same mistake as the last one, so I got in front of her, said excuse me, and then hit her with my opener. She had a really interesting bag, so I decided to open with "Hey, this is totally random, but I wanted to say that I liked your style." She was like "oh, thank you!!!" She was really bubbly and enthusiastic, plus she made the conversation easy. I'm absolutely sure that I hit the hook point, cause she stopped what she was doing and took off her mask so that she could hear what I was saying better. I used the "Free Association" technique that I learned, and the conversation was really interesting. We talked about hiking, running, shopping, blowing our paychecks, and all that. In hindsight, I definitely should've at least gotten her number lol. I just ended with "well I've gotta keep shopping, but I just wanted to say that." And she said "For sure! Thanks for coming up!"
Approach 3
I approached a girl in nurse scrubs with the same opener. "Hey, this is totally random, but I thought you were cute and wanted to say hi." She just laughed a bit nervously, said thanks, and kept it moving.
Approach 4
I saw this cute Latina woman in a tight black dress. I used the same opener and told her she was cute. She just stared at me blankly and kept walking. Hahaha. Definitely a rejection.
Approach 5
This approach was okay. I saw a curly headed brunette sniffing sunscreens haha. I saw she was wearing Adidas Superstars. So I opened semi-direct with "I like your shoes. They're very versatile." We had a conversation about that. She seemed decently receptive. I kinda screwed up on this conversation. I could've kept it going by asking where she worked, what she did, all that stuff. But eventually I just ended the conversation.
Self Confidence
My confidence was through the roof on these approaches. For the first time in my life while approaching, I felt like "I deserve these women, and they would be lucky to have me." Not "I'm bothering her," but "I'm giving this girl the unique opportunity to meet me." I know exactly why, too. My theory of "self improvement brings confidence" is absolutely correct. I've been running and lifting hard for a couple of months, so I felt athletic af. My hair was also on point. I've been self improving hard, so the confidence just flowed. I need to keep working out hard and improving my hairstyle so I feel extremely like I am totally worthy of pulling these women.
I still had a bit of approach anxiety, but I still did it. To kill my approach anxiety, I heard AMS' voice in my head, telling me to approach.
What I Could Improve On
I was talking way too fast. That'll fix itself as I do more self improvement, and I approach more.
I wasn't using the breaking rapport tonality. I'll work on that more in the future.
What I Learned
Whether direct or indirect, in your approach, you still need to ramble just like Roosh V says. The only difference is that in direct, you can ask her personal questions right away.
One of my biggest issues has been dealing with my overthinking and anxiety. I'll make more posts about how I've learned to combat this in the future... but basically I've just been thinking about my goals and thinking about them extremely, extremely logically. Then I do what it takes to achieve those goals with zero questions. Instead of all these "what if's."
This approaching stuff isn't that hard haha. With a boatload of self improvement, and some more practice approaching, I can definitely get some fvckbuddies and/or an awesome girlfriend if I want one.
After doing these, I should have no issues approaching in a grocery store, ever again. I've just proved to myself that I can do it lol.
What I Want to Learn
How do you guys talk to girls in groups during the day? I can do it at night, but during the day not so much. I'm going to look at some infields and figure this out when I get the chance.
Conclusion
I think this was a pretty fun experiment. But let me know what you guys think!
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