crapstainxo
Don Juan
- Joined
- Mar 6, 2011
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- 20
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1) Not looking for anyone at the moment.
2) While on a trip, girl indicated interest. I wasn't super interested, but always down to chat. She was cute for sure. We hit it off well, and she asked for my number, and I gave. Didn't ask her to confirm she got it right. Figured if she's not interested, she won't bother. She texted me a few hours later that night saying it was great to meet. I reciprocated and left it there. There was nowhere I could take it since I was traveling the next day somewhere else.
3) While on trip somewhere else, I texted her. Delivered, not read. no response for about a week. Felt like this was a pretty bad sign, but perplexed because of interest above.
4) plans changed and I was back in her city (LA). Texted her again to say I'm in town, let's hang. Message was not delivered. But once it eventually was, and read, she responded. apologized for being MIA. went on a camping trip and had bad reception. said shed love to see me. I responded a few hours later trying to put plans together, but no response respond (msg delivered, but not read).
5) Full day goes by, message not read (and she has read receipts on).
6) I'm a very frequent traveler. she's from Europe but lives in LA. I'm from LA but live where she's from in Europe. Anyways, cut my trip in LA short because of Trump closing off the borders.
7) At this point, pretty sure she's no longer interested. But since I've got nothing to lose, I text her again saying I've changed my plans because I can't be stranded in LA, and that I'm leaving tomorrow. If she can meet, awesome. If not, no biggies maybe next time.
8) She responds immediately and proposes coffee the next day at 3pm. Also had a good amount of banter about whether I'd even make it out of the US.
9) Coffee goes really well. I could see it going either way--I'd be happy with a good friendship or romance. Either way, there's something there and I know I want to explore it.
10) It's obvious to me that she was very engaged in the convo, but seems pretty disorganized when it comes to text/tech. She also lives carefree and in the moment. I asked her given covid, how do we keep this alive. She says she's not worried. Just hit her up when she's back in town.
11) After we hang out, as I'm driving out, I decided to text. It was just a thought I had: basically that I'm jealous of people who live in the moment. I always live in the past or the future. No strategy involved--just wanted to express a feeling. She responded immediately and with many emojis, saying she used to be like me, but tries as much as possible to live in the moment.
12) She immediately said after that that she had an amazing time and to let her know when I'm back in town. I respond with "ditto."
head on my trip back to the EU. Land the next evening. Texted her a photo of my home (because I was back home, and I have a beautiful house with some lovely pets). She immediately texts back saying "welcome home!," calls my pets beautiful. We had a bit of banter and she sent the last message (and it didn't warrant a response so I left it as is).
I want to pursue this further. I had another trip booked to LA in June, so hey I just need to keep this a little warm and when I'm back in June I'm sure we'll meet up. she has almost no presence on social media: one insta photo over the last 5 years, and an fb account that hasnt been updated since 2016. i dont bother following or friending. just dont see point. to keep warm, i decide to do text banter, but VERY light. basically value-giving texts--fun pix in my life. especially since she's from here, i thought she'd enjoy. one text every week/10 days.
13) text her a week later. a) sent her a cool pic. b) asking her how she's doing (not in a general way, but in a Covid way--is she safe, is she healthy, is her family safe, etc.). she responds immediately that she's worried about her family back home (where i live), and thinking to move back. we have a decent, but short convo. she's engaged, asking questions, etc. goal here is just to keep warm. i know i cant set up a date, so no point in continuing this longer than I have to.
14) the beautiful thing about whatsapp (which is what weve been using) is that I can tell when she's on it and when she isn't. one day i notice she's online when clearly she should be asleep (it was like 10am my time, 3am her time). i noticed this pattern for a few days more.
15) About 10 days after that convo, i send her another funny pic of my dog. she responds immediately with "hey you! how are you holding up?" she then tells me she moved back to my city. we have another convo. again light, although the dynamic has now changed. she's in my city. we can meet up (in theory).
16) my city is in lockdown. we cant meet other people. we can exercise 1 per day, but only if we observe social distancing. i dont really see the point in trying to set up a hangout with her until this is all over. so my strategy, again, is to just keep it warm.
17) about 3-4 days after the last convo, i send her another funny dog pic. my dog does funny ****. and i like the value demonstrated by loving animals. fewer things more attractive than a man who's kind to animals. in the frame of hte pic is a wider view of my back yard, with art I collect (and i know she loves art). suffice it to say, I've done pretty well for myself. net worth is 8 figs. I devote a lot my time to philanthropy. I still have a job, but it's a cool job where im my own boss, get to travel every month in first class, etc. basically, it's obvious I've done well, but im not going to shove it in someone's face. and im focused right now on helping people in this crisis (and tbh thats taken up most of my time while in lockdown).
18) message is delivered, but not read. and therefore not responded to. she is actively on whatsapp every day thereafter and pretty frequently. no idea what's going on, but i play it cool. im always positive, carefree (and kind, but no compliments), and i want to send good energy. the text didnt solicit a response either, although it was weird she wasnt even reading my messages.
19) five days later she responds with a bunch of questions about the photo. she's clearly engaging. she sincerely apologizes for not responding, saying at first she was super bored, and is now super busy trying to help people out. says it's exhausting. asks me how im holding up through all this.
20) I respond about 10 hours later (i couldve responded many days later, like she did, but in spirit of not wanting to seem spiteful and wanting to make her feel bad, i did 10 hrs). response didnt acknowledge her apology. rather, just expressed excitement that she found a way to use her time to help people. responded about the art (she had asked where i got it from; theres a good story behind it). she sent a funny story that warned me not to overfeed my dog and make it too fat (referencing her favorite book growing up; she's an avid book reader. doesnt watch TV or movies. at. all.)
21) none of my messages solicited a response back. written to be self sufficient, and wouldve been fine if she didnt respond. she read the messages later that evening. no response. first time in our interactions that she's actually left me on read. she responds 24 hours later. and her response is again filled with questions, compliments. she's clearly engaging, and these are long texts.
22) she also mentions that she biked to my neighborhood the other day to see a friend (while observing social distancing from her). basically, "i needed to see a friend who got laid off, so biked up to see her and keep our distance in her yard. i was in your hood!"
23) I respond the next day, about 18 hours later. again answering her questions about how i found the art (it was an interesting story). telling her ive been super busy with work and trying to donate money and time to help people through all of this (all high value stuff). i also acknowledge her point about being in my hood, saying it was awesome she was in my part of town, but i feel bad about her friend and that i hope she's OK. again, want to be positive, but thoughtful. being laid off is not cool. and must be challenging for anyone.
this was almost 3 days ago. messages were read that evening, but no response. and she's been on whatsapp. the messages were written in a way that there's no question, so no need for her to respond. but still, lack of response (or further engagement) is noticeable. At this point, not sure what to do. And I have multiple paths forward. Need your help in choosing.
2) While on a trip, girl indicated interest. I wasn't super interested, but always down to chat. She was cute for sure. We hit it off well, and she asked for my number, and I gave. Didn't ask her to confirm she got it right. Figured if she's not interested, she won't bother. She texted me a few hours later that night saying it was great to meet. I reciprocated and left it there. There was nowhere I could take it since I was traveling the next day somewhere else.
3) While on trip somewhere else, I texted her. Delivered, not read. no response for about a week. Felt like this was a pretty bad sign, but perplexed because of interest above.
4) plans changed and I was back in her city (LA). Texted her again to say I'm in town, let's hang. Message was not delivered. But once it eventually was, and read, she responded. apologized for being MIA. went on a camping trip and had bad reception. said shed love to see me. I responded a few hours later trying to put plans together, but no response respond (msg delivered, but not read).
5) Full day goes by, message not read (and she has read receipts on).
6) I'm a very frequent traveler. she's from Europe but lives in LA. I'm from LA but live where she's from in Europe. Anyways, cut my trip in LA short because of Trump closing off the borders.
7) At this point, pretty sure she's no longer interested. But since I've got nothing to lose, I text her again saying I've changed my plans because I can't be stranded in LA, and that I'm leaving tomorrow. If she can meet, awesome. If not, no biggies maybe next time.
8) She responds immediately and proposes coffee the next day at 3pm. Also had a good amount of banter about whether I'd even make it out of the US.
9) Coffee goes really well. I could see it going either way--I'd be happy with a good friendship or romance. Either way, there's something there and I know I want to explore it.
10) It's obvious to me that she was very engaged in the convo, but seems pretty disorganized when it comes to text/tech. She also lives carefree and in the moment. I asked her given covid, how do we keep this alive. She says she's not worried. Just hit her up when she's back in town.
11) After we hang out, as I'm driving out, I decided to text. It was just a thought I had: basically that I'm jealous of people who live in the moment. I always live in the past or the future. No strategy involved--just wanted to express a feeling. She responded immediately and with many emojis, saying she used to be like me, but tries as much as possible to live in the moment.
12) She immediately said after that that she had an amazing time and to let her know when I'm back in town. I respond with "ditto."
head on my trip back to the EU. Land the next evening. Texted her a photo of my home (because I was back home, and I have a beautiful house with some lovely pets). She immediately texts back saying "welcome home!," calls my pets beautiful. We had a bit of banter and she sent the last message (and it didn't warrant a response so I left it as is).
I want to pursue this further. I had another trip booked to LA in June, so hey I just need to keep this a little warm and when I'm back in June I'm sure we'll meet up. she has almost no presence on social media: one insta photo over the last 5 years, and an fb account that hasnt been updated since 2016. i dont bother following or friending. just dont see point. to keep warm, i decide to do text banter, but VERY light. basically value-giving texts--fun pix in my life. especially since she's from here, i thought she'd enjoy. one text every week/10 days.
13) text her a week later. a) sent her a cool pic. b) asking her how she's doing (not in a general way, but in a Covid way--is she safe, is she healthy, is her family safe, etc.). she responds immediately that she's worried about her family back home (where i live), and thinking to move back. we have a decent, but short convo. she's engaged, asking questions, etc. goal here is just to keep warm. i know i cant set up a date, so no point in continuing this longer than I have to.
14) the beautiful thing about whatsapp (which is what weve been using) is that I can tell when she's on it and when she isn't. one day i notice she's online when clearly she should be asleep (it was like 10am my time, 3am her time). i noticed this pattern for a few days more.
15) About 10 days after that convo, i send her another funny pic of my dog. she responds immediately with "hey you! how are you holding up?" she then tells me she moved back to my city. we have another convo. again light, although the dynamic has now changed. she's in my city. we can meet up (in theory).
16) my city is in lockdown. we cant meet other people. we can exercise 1 per day, but only if we observe social distancing. i dont really see the point in trying to set up a hangout with her until this is all over. so my strategy, again, is to just keep it warm.
17) about 3-4 days after the last convo, i send her another funny dog pic. my dog does funny ****. and i like the value demonstrated by loving animals. fewer things more attractive than a man who's kind to animals. in the frame of hte pic is a wider view of my back yard, with art I collect (and i know she loves art). suffice it to say, I've done pretty well for myself. net worth is 8 figs. I devote a lot my time to philanthropy. I still have a job, but it's a cool job where im my own boss, get to travel every month in first class, etc. basically, it's obvious I've done well, but im not going to shove it in someone's face. and im focused right now on helping people in this crisis (and tbh thats taken up most of my time while in lockdown).
18) message is delivered, but not read. and therefore not responded to. she is actively on whatsapp every day thereafter and pretty frequently. no idea what's going on, but i play it cool. im always positive, carefree (and kind, but no compliments), and i want to send good energy. the text didnt solicit a response either, although it was weird she wasnt even reading my messages.
19) five days later she responds with a bunch of questions about the photo. she's clearly engaging. she sincerely apologizes for not responding, saying at first she was super bored, and is now super busy trying to help people out. says it's exhausting. asks me how im holding up through all this.
20) I respond about 10 hours later (i couldve responded many days later, like she did, but in spirit of not wanting to seem spiteful and wanting to make her feel bad, i did 10 hrs). response didnt acknowledge her apology. rather, just expressed excitement that she found a way to use her time to help people. responded about the art (she had asked where i got it from; theres a good story behind it). she sent a funny story that warned me not to overfeed my dog and make it too fat (referencing her favorite book growing up; she's an avid book reader. doesnt watch TV or movies. at. all.)
21) none of my messages solicited a response back. written to be self sufficient, and wouldve been fine if she didnt respond. she read the messages later that evening. no response. first time in our interactions that she's actually left me on read. she responds 24 hours later. and her response is again filled with questions, compliments. she's clearly engaging, and these are long texts.
22) she also mentions that she biked to my neighborhood the other day to see a friend (while observing social distancing from her). basically, "i needed to see a friend who got laid off, so biked up to see her and keep our distance in her yard. i was in your hood!"
23) I respond the next day, about 18 hours later. again answering her questions about how i found the art (it was an interesting story). telling her ive been super busy with work and trying to donate money and time to help people through all of this (all high value stuff). i also acknowledge her point about being in my hood, saying it was awesome she was in my part of town, but i feel bad about her friend and that i hope she's OK. again, want to be positive, but thoughtful. being laid off is not cool. and must be challenging for anyone.
this was almost 3 days ago. messages were read that evening, but no response. and she's been on whatsapp. the messages were written in a way that there's no question, so no need for her to respond. but still, lack of response (or further engagement) is noticeable. At this point, not sure what to do. And I have multiple paths forward. Need your help in choosing.
