FWB vs Relationship

[NotaRobot]

I’m aware I messed it up by 1) reacting the way I did 2) becoming over emotional 3) in particular saying I couldn’t just be friends and goodbye - then texting the next morning reconsidering that maybe I could with some time

I’ve already resigned myself to meeting women again. Although I hate online I’ve been looking through Bumble to take my mind of things. I have my son this weekend so plan to go out next weekend and hunt.

with this particular girl I’m interested in becoming the carrot and seeing what happens, because naturally I’d still like to be with her. But I’m not going to beg and I’m not going to chase. How best to become the carrot in this instance given my actions above have seriously dropped my status?

 

[Robert28]

Time. And I mean time away from her. And that’s still a long shot. I’m talking 1 in 100 chance at best, being as optimistic as I can. Either that or you find yourself another 30 yr old that’s a few steps above her in the looks department and purposely flaunt it in her face, although subtly. Those are your only two options. The better girl idea will give you the best chance though, but she’s gotta be hotter. The irony is once you secure this new hotter girl, why in the hell would you want to go back to the old one? See where I’m going with this?

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Time. And I mean time away from her. And that’s still a long shot. I’m talking 1 in 100 chance at best, being as optimistic as I can. Either that or you find yourself another 30 yr old that’s a few steps above her in the looks department and purposely flaunt it in her face, although subtly. Those are your only two options. The better girl idea will give you the best chance though, but she’s gotta be hotter. The irony is once you secure this new hotter girl, why in the hell would you want to go back to the old one? See where I’m going with this?

Because your retarded.

 

[Robert28]

Because your retarded.

A lot of men don’t understand how fast they can get over a oneitis if they’d just apply themselves and TRY. I know what I’m speaking of because I’ve been there. Hung up on some gal that I was into way more than she was into me, wasting time hoping she’d come around and see me how I saw her, pining away and wasting time when it wasn’t even necessary. I accidentally met a girl out one night who took an interest in me and was many steps above one of my oneitis girls I was hung up on. I bet it wasn’t even 2 weeks and I couldn’t even tell a sketch artist what the old girl looked like.lol

 

[mrgoodstuff]

A lot of men don’t understand how fast they can get over a oneitis if they’d just apply themselves and TRY. I know what I’m speaking of because I’ve been there. Hung up on some gal that I was into way more than she was into me, wasting time hoping she’d come around and see me how I saw her, pining away and wasting time when it wasn’t even necessary. I accidentally met a girl out one night who took an interest in me and was many steps above one of my oneitis girls I was hung up on. I bet it wasn’t even 2 weeks and I couldn’t even tell a sketch artist what the old girl looked like.lol

Good fvcking job. If you can detail that process. I hope you can do it like a pro now.

 

[AttackFormation]

Bugs Bunny

Where does he say to become the carrot, do you remember? Or were you just joking about him.

 

[RangerMIke]

The ups and downs are related to the availability of other men she is pursuing.

This!!!

I have two women that I suppose you could call FWB. One I've known for 4 years now and just started 'dating'. She works for a non-profit that I've been donating money to for some time and serve on their board of directors. She just broke off with her boyfriend, and was involved in a LDR with some dude for a time. I really like this one. She's a lot of fun, but nothing sustainable is EVER going to happen since she's 22 years younger than me. She's made it very clear she's looking for Mr. Right.... I'm not him... I'm Mr. Good Enough which is fine with me... and her. If the right dude comes along... I'll be dropped like a hot potato. And that's GREAT.

The other I've talked about before, it's this on and off again thing I have with this model. Well... we are back on again.... but I know this is only going to run for a few months, I'm guessing two... but it could be weeks, this always seems to come up around Marti Gras time... that is the only thing that is predictable about her. I'm the FWB that is better than a vibrator in between dudes that toss money at her like godd@mn fools. She is Super Hot... clearly the most attractive women I have ever been with... with tons of in common.

Both of these women have made it VERY clear what this is all about... it's FWB.... that is all, and you can not expect it will be other than that. You can learn a lot about women having an honest to God FWB... These two will talk about the dudes they are dating, or have dated... it's fvcking hilarious the sh!t you hear.

I could very easily fall hard for either of these women, because I really enjoy our times together... but you MUST MAINTAIN EMOTIONAL CONTROL in situations like this. If you are looking for a steady girlfriend, then this is what you want and you should keep looking for a woman that is going to give you what you want. You start catching feels for a FWB, you are just setting yourself for heartache.

 

[Robert28]

No way in hell im sticking my d!ck in any woman that openly tells me she’s banging other dudes. STD’s are real fellas. Now, I’m not naive to think some girl I’m sleeping with is only sleeping with me but don’t tell me about it. Let them go ride the c0ck carousel with someone else and pass on all their diseases.

 

[NotaRobot]

What is cucking?

 

[mrgoodstuff]

What is cucking?

Your girl refuses sex with you acts uninterested. But shes giving it to another guy.

 

[NotaRobot]

We’ve always agreed to be honest about other partners if that we’re to occur so as far as I’m concerned I trust her in that respect

 

[NotaRobot]

Oh ok. She’s not refusing sex. She doesn’t want me to get my hopes up about a relationship - because she’s been burnt by me twice and can’t risk those emotions again. So the script has been flipped. I peaked out and said I don’t know if I can continue with that arrangement. And it went on from there. I feel like the one spinning out of control whereas in reality I have a simple choice. Totally cut ties. Or resolve myself to just having the occasional catch ups, maintain the friendship and find other women

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Or another form of it is putting up with other dudes banging your current vaginas.

Yea she stonewalls you but gives that same thing up freely, helping "them".

 

[ubercat]

Every woman has a unique venom. Fortunately the antidote is readily available - another woman.

 

[Epic Days]

No way in hell im sticking my d!ck in any woman that openly tells me she’s banging other dudes. STD’s are real fellas. Now, I’m not naive to think some girl I’m sleeping with is only sleeping with me but don’t tell me about it. Let them go ride the c0ck carousel with someone else and pass on all their diseases.

Then you’ve never had sex. Because if you have, she was most definitely enjoying herself elsewhere as well.

There’s a reality check needed here.

 

[ubercat]

Wow there s some thin logic soup here. So FWB is the natural order but inherently unstable. And romantic love is to be shunned but when the relationship moves on to a more stable partnership that s settling.

I just can't imagine myself spinning plates when I m 60.

 

[Robert28]

Then you’ve never had sex. Because if you have, she was most definitely enjoying herself elsewhere as well.

There’s a reality check needed here.

If she was that’s fine but I dint need to hear about her escapades with Tyrone and Chad.

 

[ubercat]

It's on the thread

 

[NotaRobot]

Far out how do you get through the temptation to make contact again?

 

[Spaz]

Far out how do you get through the temptation to make contact again?

After all these mens efforts to explain it to you, and yet you're still stuck within a supplicating frame...