No contact, she reached out

[RicBoy]

Cuddled but no sex? We don't believe in that shyt over here!

That was with the mother of my kid. She was probably turned off that I was always talking about my ex. Also she broke up 3 months ago and was thinking of her ex.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

That was with the mother of my kid. She was probably turned off that I was always talking about my ex. Also she broke up 3 months ago and was thinking of her ex.

Cave man rules work before society. During society. And after nuclear holicost. Womens lizard brain is attracted to men who are true to their masculinity.

That cuddling without sex is validation for her. Shows her you care for her and dont have to fvck.

 

[RicBoy]

Cave man rules work before society. During society. And after nuclear holicost. Womens lizard brain is attracted to men who are true to their masculinity.

That cuddling without sex is validation for her. Shows her you care for her and dont have to fvck.

Yeah I don't want this girl man. I want my last ex.. There 2 exes here in the story lol. Mother of my kid we broke up 8 years ago and my last ex we broke up 3 months ago.

I was 7 years with the mother of my kid, probably fked her 7000 times I can pass another fk. Looking for advice for my last ex.

 

[Glassguy]

Too many exes, too much chasing, too much free validation, too much beta behavior for me.

I'm out.

Deuces.

 

[RicBoy]

Too many exes, too much chasing, too much free validation, too much beta behavior for me.

I'm out.

Deuces.

Yo bro, came here for advice, not to waste anyone's time. I know where I went wrong with my chasing and neediness, been in therapy etc.. Just asked what would be the best approach to deal with my ex when she reaches out

 

[jaymbrs]

Yo bro, came here for advice, not to waste anyone's time. I know where I went wrong with my chasing and neediness, been in therapy etc.. Just asked what would be the best approach to deal with my ex when she reaches out

Best way is to not. She's being a huge ***** trying to make you think you still have a shot. She's only using you for validation. Wake the **** up.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

This is really sad. The whole point of no contact of you are wanting to get them back is to work on yourself and actually be a better person, not act exactly the same once they contact you. SMFH.You probably could have gotten her back, but once you went back to acting the same you lost out for good

 

[RicBoy]

This is really sad. The whole point of no contact of you are wanting to get them back is to work on yourself and actually be a better person, not act exactly the same once they contact you. SMFH.You probably could have gotten her back, but once you went back to acting the same you lost out for good

Well I will have another shot..she will reach out in 2 weeks when my son is here. I can play it right now.

 

[Glassguy]

Well I will have another shot..she will reach out in 2 weeks when my son is here. I can play it right now.

Using your son as a bartering and negotiating tool to raise her interest is really poor choice of decision making.

You cant negotiate interest or sexual attraction. I cant, you cant, nobody can. Stop using your kid as a negotiating tool because this set is over.

 

[17 shots]

Dont let her pick up your son again. Tell her if you care that much about your daughter hanging out with him then you're gonna have to make right with me first. So come suck this d1ck or stfu b1tch. My son doesn't love these hos, hell be fine

 

[RicBoy]

Using your son as a bartering and negotiating tool to raise her interest is really poor choice of decision making.

You cant negotiate interest or sexual attraction. I cant, you cant, nobody can. Stop using your kid as a negotiating tool because this set is over.

If I can't get her back, at least I wanna handle all future communication well and handle myself well to at least regain her respect and get my dignity back and want her to see a change in my behaviour.

 

[Robert28]

Well I will have another shot..she will reach out in 2 weeks when my son is here. I can play it right now.

But do you know how to play it? Hint: say “no not this weekend”. Bring up NOTHING else. If she asks why not this weekend tell her “cause, reasons”.

 

[17 shots]

If I can't get her back, at least I wanna handle all future communication well and handle myself well to at least regain her respect and get my dignity back and want her to see a change in my behaviour.

You gain her respect by not giving af about her and talking to her like you dont give af about her. You shouldn't even want to deal with her anymore, and she knows this. she's gossiping with your baby momma behind your back and telling you she's not interested but yet here you are wanting to make things work again. Wtf is wrong with you... you're the kind of guy who gets cheated on

 

[Baibars]

Well I will have another shot..she will reach out in 2 weeks when my son is here. I can play it right now.
[/QUOTE]

I can relate to you. @Glassguy Is right. You cant negotiate desire.
I also have an ex with my kids and i tried everything. Now she fcks a random guy.
She has lost interest in you because you acted wrong. Your acting after the break up proves it.
But dont only blame yourself. You cant always be the perfect guy and the girl wouldnt stay with you forever anyways. There is always a better Deal for her.

If you try hard you could maybe get Sex but you would lose your dignity more and more and doesnt matter what you do it will never be as it was before.

I would recommend you to ask yourself more why she acted the way she did and educate yourself more. That also helped me a lot. Watch some Red Pill stuff or read some books.

 

[RicBoy]

But do you know how to play it? Hint: say “no not this weekend”. Bring up NOTHING else. If she asks why not this weekend tell her “cause, reasons”.

I think keep my text replies short, dry, polite never initiate ever, ignore a few texts, never ask her out again, (did it a few times already and got rejected)... And probably not be present in kid's exchange. I rather she doesn't see me. She will think I'll use this opportunities to hit on her or something.

 

[Glassguy]

If I can't get her back, at least I wanna handle all future communication well and handle myself well to at least regain her respect and get my dignity back and want her to see a change in my behaviour.

Well not only can you not get her back, but why would you WANT her back?

Why do you care how a woman views you if you are not fvcking her? And why even if you are fvcking her?????

Regain your respect? Get your dignity back? You want her to see a change in your behavior?

Here is a news flash: YOU are responsible for your own dignity. YOU are responsible for your respect and how you let people treat you. Its not the other way around pal.

The most worrisome part of this entire thread is WHY you are hell bent on getting this chick back. If we dont start there, you cant be fixed.

 

[Glassguy]

I think keep my text replies short

This would be my reply to anything and everything she sent me:

(Absolutely nothing)

 

[RicBoy]

Well not only can you not get her back, but why would you WANT her back?

Why do you care how a woman views you if you are not fvcking her? And why even if you are fvcking her?????

Regain your respect? Get your dignity back? You want her to see a change in your behavior?

Here is a news flash: YOU are responsible for your own dignity. YOU are responsible for your respect and how you let people treat you. Its not the other way around pal.

The most worrisome part of this entire thread is WHY you are hell bent on getting this chick back. If we dont start there, you cant be fixed.

7 months together, kids involved. Met my whole family, working together, she was my boss. 6x a week together. Felt like a realy family.

 

[dude99]

Story is complicated but ill keep it short.
Dated a girl for 7 months. I was unemployed, nothing much going on in my life and I ended up smothering her (her words) and she left me. Before she left me, she became distant for a couple of weeks, because I became very needy, smothering her, and in one fight, I pushed her and shouted at her, and she took this as violence and kicked me out. I begged for 1 month and showed up unannounced to her house once. She blocked me everywhere and threat me with police. I figured this was done.

1 month went by, and my other ex (my kids mom) who is now single came to visit me and spent Xmas at my place and brought my kid with her. We spent holidays together as friends for the kid. We hugged through the night but no sex. We have been broken up for 8 years.

For my surprise, my ex texted me "hope all is well with you.... Can I come to pick up your son to hangout with my daughter?"...i said ok. We exchange a few texts, I asked for coffee she said no. She picked up my son, he went over her place for the night and she brought him back next day. My other ex, my kid's mom handled the exchange, so I didn't see my ex. I was working anyways..

The mother of my kid left (she lives in another country). 3 weeks went by and my last ex again contacts me "have you seen a book of mine....?"... I said nope and again asked her for coffee.. She goes.. "I don't want anything to do with you, I'm only interested in the connection between your son and my daughter"... Then she calls me twice.. Telling me "what do you want from me?", I said "I wanna try again", she goes "I don't have any feelings for you, even if I had 1% interest in you, I'd never take you back after you spent Xmas in bed with your son's mother"... I Iost it and went right back to my old chasing begging behaviour, sent her maybe 10 texts, 5 emails, telling her my feelings and all that crap. So back to no contact, it has been a week now.

She will reach out again in 2 weeks when my son comes to visit me for the holidays to go over her place to spend time with her daughter. My ex and my son are in touch almost daily through WhatsApp.

What to do? Reply polite, short to her texts, no more coffee invitations, no initiating? No more relationship, get back feelings talk?

Also when she picks and drops off my kid, I know for fact she thinks I'm waiting for this moment to see her and talk to her (we broke up 3 months ago, haven't seen her in 2), I think I'm going to give an excuse and be at work, my kid is 9, he can come down by himself. I don't think I wanna see her, especially after chasing her 2 weeks ago.

She has said she will never take you back and has threatened cops. Next. Do not pass go do not enter do not proceed.

Next time she reaches out you ignore/delete/block/hang up. Do not ask her out for coffee do not speak to her again.

She knows you still have feelings for her and will use her daughter and your son to exploit that leaving you out in the cold.

Go date new women and put this one on the nope pile.

 

[MrWood]

"I don't have any feelings for you, even if I had 1% interest in you, I'd never take you back after you spent Xmas in bed with your son's mother"

lets see... she has no feelings for you, yet... jealous.

heh women s logic