RicBoy
Master Don Juan
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Story is complicated but ill keep it short.
Dated a girl for 7 months. I was unemployed, nothing much going on in my life and I ended up smothering her (her words) and she left me. Before she left me, she became distant for a couple of weeks, because I became very needy, smothering her, and in one fight, I pushed her and shouted at her, and she took this as violence and kicked me out. I begged for 1 month and showed up unannounced to her house once. She blocked me everywhere and threat me with police. I figured this was done.
1 month went by, and my other ex (my kids mom) who is now single came to visit me and spent Xmas at my place and brought my kid with her. We spent holidays together as friends for the kid. We hugged through the night but no sex. We have been broken up for 8 years.
For my surprise, my ex texted me "hope all is well with you.... Can I come to pick up your son to hangout with my daughter?"...i said ok. We exchange a few texts, I asked for coffee she said no. She picked up my son, he went over her place for the night and she brought him back next day. My other ex, my kid's mom handled the exchange, so I didn't see my ex. I was working anyways..
The mother of my kid left (she lives in another country). 3 weeks went by and my last ex again contacts me "have you seen a book of mine....?"... I said nope and again asked her for coffee.. She goes.. "I don't want anything to do with you, I'm only interested in the connection between your son and my daughter"... Then she calls me twice.. Telling me "what do you want from me?", I said "I wanna try again", she goes "I don't have any feelings for you, even if I had 1% interest in you, I'd never take you back after you spent Xmas in bed with your son's mother"... I Iost it and went right back to my old chasing begging behaviour, sent her maybe 10 texts, 5 emails, telling her my feelings and all that crap. So back to no contact, it has been a week now.
She will reach out again in 2 weeks when my son comes to visit me for the holidays to go over her place to spend time with her daughter. My ex and my son are in touch almost daily through WhatsApp.
What to do? Reply polite, short to her texts, no more coffee invitations, no initiating? No more relationship, get back feelings talk?
Also when she picks and drops off my kid, I know for fact she thinks I'm waiting for this moment to see her and talk to her (we broke up 3 months ago, haven't seen her in 2), I think I'm going to give an excuse and be at work, my kid is 9, he can come down by himself. I don't think I wanna see her, especially after chasing her 2 weeks ago.
Dated a girl for 7 months. I was unemployed, nothing much going on in my life and I ended up smothering her (her words) and she left me. Before she left me, she became distant for a couple of weeks, because I became very needy, smothering her, and in one fight, I pushed her and shouted at her, and she took this as violence and kicked me out. I begged for 1 month and showed up unannounced to her house once. She blocked me everywhere and threat me with police. I figured this was done.
1 month went by, and my other ex (my kids mom) who is now single came to visit me and spent Xmas at my place and brought my kid with her. We spent holidays together as friends for the kid. We hugged through the night but no sex. We have been broken up for 8 years.
For my surprise, my ex texted me "hope all is well with you.... Can I come to pick up your son to hangout with my daughter?"...i said ok. We exchange a few texts, I asked for coffee she said no. She picked up my son, he went over her place for the night and she brought him back next day. My other ex, my kid's mom handled the exchange, so I didn't see my ex. I was working anyways..
The mother of my kid left (she lives in another country). 3 weeks went by and my last ex again contacts me "have you seen a book of mine....?"... I said nope and again asked her for coffee.. She goes.. "I don't want anything to do with you, I'm only interested in the connection between your son and my daughter"... Then she calls me twice.. Telling me "what do you want from me?", I said "I wanna try again", she goes "I don't have any feelings for you, even if I had 1% interest in you, I'd never take you back after you spent Xmas in bed with your son's mother"... I Iost it and went right back to my old chasing begging behaviour, sent her maybe 10 texts, 5 emails, telling her my feelings and all that crap. So back to no contact, it has been a week now.
She will reach out again in 2 weeks when my son comes to visit me for the holidays to go over her place to spend time with her daughter. My ex and my son are in touch almost daily through WhatsApp.
What to do? Reply polite, short to her texts, no more coffee invitations, no initiating? No more relationship, get back feelings talk?
Also when she picks and drops off my kid, I know for fact she thinks I'm waiting for this moment to see her and talk to her (we broke up 3 months ago, haven't seen her in 2), I think I'm going to give an excuse and be at work, my kid is 9, he can come down by himself. I don't think I wanna see her, especially after chasing her 2 weeks ago.
