I imagine the right guy with a dad bod with enough money or fame would be eligible for an exception. Right ?
No. Incorrect. I’ve had extremely wealthy men ask me out. I’ve had celebrities ask me out too. I’ve dated gorgeous men in serious multi year relationships. A while back I went out a few times with an extremely wealthy, connected, in shape nationally known media personality. Smart, funny, educated, GREAT guy. Some here would know who he is. I felt no physical attraction for him. Zero. I thought I’d try the whole he’s the right package on paper thing...and the man was smitten with me. I couldn’t do it. I told him straight up I didn’t like him the same way he liked me. Blunt, direct but kind. He appreciated and respected me telling the truth. But I wasn’t feeling it. I’ll never go through those motions again. If there is no physical attraction then I’m out. Period.
I choose men that I find physically attractive who I believe can lead me. Men to whom I am willing to defer.
It must be both. Sexual desire on my part and masculine leadership. How that manifests itself will vary because individuals vary. But those are my core criteria. No sexual desire? It’s a no go. I don’t care who he is, how much money or whatever he has or what he looks like. Seriously.
Attraction is a certain alchemy and chemistry and frequency between 2 people. Very few men are on my frequency. Those who are I attract effortlessly and they attract me as well. But my vibe is somewhat peculiar in some ways. So I don’t find myself attracted very often even though I get attention and approaches all the time.
But because I am patient I date men to whom I am genuinely drawn. And that’s better for everyone involved.