How do you afford online dating if feel like you are paying to get rejected?

[biggoal]

It sounds like you are making up another type of excuse. The city is full of damaged goods so any rejection from them doesn't really count.
But hey, that's the same excuse that I'm using too. When you start getting burned by post-wall women then it's a morale killer.

Well my county there isn't very many to begin with and a lot of land whales in real life. I mean it's OLD I use and hardly anyone around here on OLD to begin with so most of my OLD dates live 20 and up to 60 miles away and post wall all divorced. OLD in the 60 mile radius in this region is made up of whales, post wall women, and single moms. Not a lot of quality at all. Terrible when compared to major cities. You go on OLD and you see the same post wall faces daily on there. I'd say maybe 35 or so within 60 miles that qualify as HB7 or up on there and most over 33 and most of them over 39.

Location is key when it comes to dating and quality level. Maybe take a week vacation and travel to a couple other major cities in Canada and just look around and see the type of women out and about and even check OLD as well and compare to your town and give you an idea maybe if moving might be a better option for you.

 

[corrector]

Idealy you would want to have your own social life, and she'd have her own social life. Then, you can then share each others social life. One really cannot live themselves vicariously through another person's social life. It doesn't work like that.

In the case of the ex-wife, that's not really fair. Her social life was her extended family, I don't have such a family, it's mainly just my folks and then maybe some Aunt on my mom's side that may occasionally call here. We do have one friend of the family but I usually don't call her that much because her mother thinks we are good as a brother/sister sort of relationship but not good enough for anything more.

Again, I'd see that a proper wife that is really compatible would be the one encouraging me to get out and have a social life. My ex-gf (2012) happened to be social in that regard and did invite me to go out. I wish I was more secure with her because I somehow felt ignored by her in some of the events she invited me with as she didn't acknowledge me and I sort of felt pissed. How would I create a social life in that context without feeling I'm trying to rival her in the same group or get at her? I tried visiting other Home Churches to built a new social life when I felt ignored by her in a particular social event. Again, we are talking about October 2, 2012 which I feel was the beginning of the end of that relationship, or the seeds were planted for its own eventual doom.

 

[corrector]

Location is key when it comes to dating and quality level. Maybe take a week vacation and travel to a couple other major cities in Canada and just look around and see the type of women out and about and even check OLD as well and compare to your town and give you an idea maybe if moving might be a better option for you.

I'm too broke to do anything. Now, we were talking about streaming services before?

 

[GrowingPains]

I'm too broke to do anything.

I'm like also subscribed to Amazon Prime, Netflix, and local Cable-TV, etc...

 

[ubercat]

So you're broke living with your parents and don't like socialising? And complaining about how to catch girls. Does that about cover it.

 

[corrector]

So you're broke living with your parents and don't like socialising? And complaining about how to catch girls. Does that about cover it.

I dont mind socialising. I am just not going to go out of my way. Just like the streaming service vs visiting a cinema. Also I have paid $30,000 towards an old debt and go out allot with my folks and was working on a deal that fell through so I am not a bum either. I am not interested in "any girl" and have standards. .

 

[corrector]

There are different types of broke just like there are different types of incel.

 

[biggoal]

I'd say keep the Amazon Prime since Amazon has stuff a lot cheaper than the retail stores. That will save you money yearly. Cable TV is a waste. All I watch on TV is sports mainly hockey and baseball and Fox News once in awhile.

 

[GrowingPains]

You should subscribe to HodgetwinsTV.

..it's only $2.99 a month.

Its damn near free.

 

[corrector]

I'd say keep the Amazon Prime since Amazon has stuff a lot cheaper than the retail stores. That will save you money yearly. Cable TV is a waste. All I watch on TV is sports mainly hockey and baseball and Fox News once in awhile.

Sports sounds like something that would sound great on a projector at least over 120 inches across 16:9 screen. What do you watch it on? The goal of subscription based streaming services is a buffer from over-borrowing Blu-Rays and DVDs from the library. Before I subscribe I'd be hording allot of DVDs and Blu-Rays and I'd feel pressure because when you deal with libraries, they have "due dates", and anyone can put a hold on the item and you might not be able to renew, etc....

Of course, Netflix has allot of content expiring as it's constantly getting new materials and losing other ones. In such cases, it could have that "due date" effect, but then I'll just borrow from the library again rather than movie-cramming using the streaming service (i.e. watching it in a smaller screen if it's more accessible because its expiring/or due soon). There is much less volume being used in the library compared to before as I can just look at the streaming service as a virtual online library, most of which, have no due dates or expiration periods (except the odd movie here and there on Netflix).

 

[corrector]

You should subscribe to HodgetwinsTV.

..it's only $2.99 a month.

Its damn near free.

It has to have enough content so that it would take-up a "significant amount" of hard DVD/Blu-Ray copies the local library systems have.

If there was no library offering free DVDs and Blu-Rays, then I would not use a subscription service as a buffer to hording too much material from the library.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

If you are constantly being rejected on dates then the problem isn't them it is you. If you cant accept the truth and aren't willing to fix the issues you will need to look deep and hard internally for and may not like the answers you find, then don't go on dates and just stay home.

 

[corrector]

If you are constantly being rejected on dates then the problem isn't them it is you. If you cant accept the truth and aren't willing to fix the issues you will need to look deep and hard internally for and may not like the answers you find, then don't go on dates and just stay home.

Who is going on dates?

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Who is going on dates?

I'm assuming you are/were which is why you created the thread. Unless you are so unconfident in yourself that you don't even bother going on dates because you assume you will be rejected.

That's far worse because

1) It gives you no chance to make any improvements to what you are doing or not doing on dates

2) It creates a self fulfilling prophecy where your mind determines the outcome before it happens and then if you actually go out on a date your mind will find a way to create the outcome you envisioned.

 

[corrector]

I'm assuming you are/were which is why you created the thread. Unless you are so unconfident in yourself that you don't even bother going on dates because you assume you will be rejected.

That's some mileage if you are able to get a date in the first place. The thread talks about paying money to an online dating service but not getting any matches or dates and just feeling bad from all the lame one line polite replies or being ignored on there. If I were getting dates or meeting women online then at least there would be something appealing to me about most women in the first place.

That's far worse because

1) It gives you no chance to make any improvements to what you are doing or not doing on dates

2) It creates a self fulfilling prophecy where your mind determines the outcome before it happens and then if you actually go out on a date your mind will find a way to create the outcome you envisioned.

This is one of the most idiotic advice posts about "incelness" I've ever seen. You are giving advice to go on dates and the whole premise of the thread is about getting rejected from being able to go on dates in the first place. Normally you feel crappy if you can't make any decent connections online and just waste your money. I take it you have no problem getting dates? Good for you. Wrong thread.

 

[Suave88]

They have now released Disney plus, and I'm like also subscribed to Amazon Prime, Netflix, and local Cable-TV, etc... and I'm thinking how can anyone spend money in online dating when doling out this much money on streaming services and I'll probably get rejected on there anyway and waste my time.

If I were to go back into online dating I'd just be thinking of the Christian cafe site, but nothing usually happens on there other than feeling bad or I might end up like biggoal on a Christian dating website chasing after undesirable women because there is no real options.

This is how it has always been with me I guess. When I was in elementary school, I didn't mix that well with the girls and I found some joy renting a 16 mm film projector from the library, volunteering to be the class projectionist and making 8mm film at home, and even involving some of my classmates, 30 years ago. If I were even to think of online dating I just can't see myself trying that and also paying for streaming services at the same time.

How do people get over the fact of paying for an online service, but just getting a low percentage (if at that) of replies or feeling like they are wasting their time? Isn't the streaming services more of a sure bet for the money?

Fvck OLD. It is a rip off.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

That's some mileage if you are able to get a date in the first place. The thread talks about paying money to an online dating service but not getting any matches or dates and just feeling bad from all the lame one line polite replies or being ignored on there. If I were getting dates or meeting women online then at least there would be something appealing to me about most women in the first place.



This is one of the most idiotic advice posts about "incelness" I've ever seen. You are giving advice to go on dates and the whole premise of the thread is about getting rejected from being able to go on dates in the first place. Normally you feel crappy if you can't make any decent connections online and just waste your money. I take it you have no problem getting dates? Good for you. Wrong thread.

I see all you have are bullsh!t excuses about how life isn't fair and how the world does you wrong.

Your excuses are monuments to nothingness. Stop playing the victim like a little b!tch and accept your shortcomings and do something about them.

If you don't like your reality then do something to change it. Making up excuses and refusing to accept responsibility for where you find yourself in your own life is weak as fvck bro and a very feminine trait. You find yourself here because your life has been a giant excuse up until this point and because you have chosen to take the easy route of surrounding yourself with people who enable this behavior and try and console you instead of telling you the truth. How's that working out for you?

Either do something to change it or stop complaining about it. And now you expect me and the other posters to enable this behavior too?

Fvck that bro. I'm giving you a heaping serving of the truth. You may kick and scream and turn your head with your mouth closed like a little kid trying to avoid having to swallow it but I promise you the sooner you do the better it will be.

 

[corrector]

I see all you have are bullsh!t excuses about how life isn't fair and how the world does you wrong.

Your excuses are monuments to nothingness. Stop playing the victim like a little b!tch and accept your shortcomings and do something about them.

If you don't like your reality then do something to change it. Making up excuses and refusing to accept responsibility for where you find yourself in your own life is weak as fvck bro and a very feminine trait. You find yourself here because your life has been a giant excuse up until this point and because you have chosen to take the easy route of surrounding yourself with people who enable this behavior and try and console you instead of telling you the truth. How's that working out for you?

Either do something to change it or stop complaining about it. And now you expect me and the other posters to enable this behavior too?

Fvck that bro. I'm giving you a heaping serving of the truth. You may kick and scream and turn your head with your mouth closed like a little kid trying to avoid having to swallow it but I promise you the sooner you do the better it will be.

You have not provided any compelling reason to pay a penny to online dating sites, if we are sticking to the premise of this thread.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

You have not provided any compelling reason to pay a penny to online dating sites, if we are sticking to the premise of this thread.

To pay? For what? There are so many free ones.

 

[corrector]

To pay? For what? There are so many free ones.

Christiancafe is not free.