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[Mbuckets82]

I text a girl I wouldn’t mind seeing her next weekend for a dinner date.

Her response- ok. I’ll let you know by Friday or Saturday.

-My Plan is to go no contact until then. And if she doesn’t get back to me, don’t speak to her again.

Am I right?

 

[John9999]

Hell no! You reply that she can contact you some time when she can make definite plans. Remember you are the prize.

 

[AttackFormation]

You've gotta stop paying for women you don't even know or at the very least that you haven't even met before. With how boring dinner dates are I wouldn't eve do it for free, let alone if I shelled out hundreds of bucks on it like you do. Don't they have enough interest in you like you do in them to even see you without having to be bribed?

 

[Mbuckets82]

Well we went out once before. I was trying to think of an activity I wanted to do but i had neck surgery recently and really can’t do a lot without risking injury.

 

[Mbuckets82]

Hell no! You reply that she can contact you some time when she can make definite plans. Remember you are the prize.

Got dang right. I should have said that. I just said, cool. Like I’m ok with being a dang back up loser. Well I’ll learn from this for sure.

 

[Serenity]

-My Plan is to go no contact until then. And if she doesn’t get back to me, don’t speak to her again.

Am I right?

Kinda, but don't do it like it's a game you have to win. You shouldn't care much to begin with. I wouldn't even think about this, I'd consider it if or when she made up her mind and consider it to be nothing until then.

Hell no! You reply that she can contact you some time when she can make definite plans. Remember you are the prize.

Got dang right. I should have said that. I just said, cool. Like I’m ok with being a dang back up loser. Well I’ll learn from this for sure.

Don't do this, it's pointless and will only make you look more retarded and desperate. There's nothing to gain by doing this. If she doesn't really want to see you again then just let that be the case and move on. Replying like that won't change the fact that she doesn't give a fvck about you, it's just extra steps until the inevitable.

 

[Mbuckets82]

Im probably into her because she was the first first date I’ve had in a while that I liked.

 

[Desdinova]

I text a girl I wouldn’t mind seeing her next weekend for a dinner date.

If this is your 5th or 6th date and you've already fvcked her, then not initiating contact is fine.

However, if you haven't put your d1ck inside of her, avoiding her until then is suicide because she's not heavily invested in you. She will then forget about you by next weekend. Text her daily, but make the texts fun and light-hearted. Make her look forward to seeing you next weekend.

 

[BJP1991]

If this is your 5th or 6th date and you've already fvcked her, then not initiating contact is fine.

However, if you haven't put your d1ck inside of her, avoiding her until then is suicide because she's not heavily invested in you. She will then forget about you by next weekend. Text her daily, but make the texts fun and light-hearted. Make her look forward to seeing you next weekend.

I would not text daily. Maybe every other or every third day, if you must. Personally, I only text to setup dates and that’s it. If she wants to see you, you will see her. Texting her (or not texting her) won’t change your odds, unless you over-text her, which doing so every day would likely do.

 

[Glassguy]

OP has a lot to learn.

Today I had a cute 22 yr old hit me up. Swapped some pics, she said I was attractive and she likes older guys.
Me: Sounds like we need to set up a time to grab drinks
Her: Maybe lol
Me: You contacted me. When that maybe turns into an enthusiastic yes, let me know and I will see if I can then get free.
Her (1 minute later): When are you free? I would love to grab drinks and hang out

Be bold, dont forget that you are in control. If you're not in control, get there.

 

[Desdinova]

I would not text daily. Maybe every other or every third day, if you must. Personally, I only text to setup dates and that’s it. If she wants to see you, you will see her. Texting her (or not texting her) won’t change your odds, unless you over-text her, which doing so every day would likely do.

Again, it depends on how long he's known her. If this is a first date, he needs to build rapport or at the very least stay in constant contact to keep the interest up. If he's put his d1ck in her, then she's already invested and he doesn't need to do as much IL maintenance.

I've lost plenty of dates trying to play the "not desperate" card too early in the game. If the texts are light-hearted and fun, he can text her daily and she'll look forward to the date. If he's texting 5hit like "how was your day" then she'll shrug him off.

 

[Mbuckets82]

Idk. I set two dates today with others, one for tomorrow. I’ve texted her and she is responsive. I’ll stay up with her and wait and see what happens this weekend. Funny I text her tonight, how was your day. Can’t keep doing that.

I do have to start approaching women on the street. I haven’t been able to drive due to surgery recovery so OLD has served a purpose.

 

[Mbuckets82]

Just came back from the date. Went to dinner. She’s in the middle of divorcing her husband. 3 kids. 33yo.

Asked another about next weekend and she said her family is in town. We haven’t met up yet just texting. My plan is if she comes through to text the other I made other plans.

 

[Suave88]

Just came back from the date. Went to dinner. She’s in the middle of divorcing her husband. 3 kids. 33yo.

Asked another about next weekend and she said her family is in town. We haven’t met up yet just texting. My plan is if she comes through to text the other I made other plans.

She went to the dinner, and talked her personnal problems to you. She said family is in town, wait for her to contact you. Maybe two weeks max.

 

[djthiago1]

What do you mean "wouldn’t mind seeing her next weekend for a dinner date.?" Did you set up a definite date and time or this literally what you told her?

 

[2Rocky]

Woman in the middle of a divorce is classic rebound screw material. Should have skipped dinner and taken her to your bed. Her free time is infrequent and precious. She has girlfriend to vent to. Your responsibility is to give her orgasms to escape the emotional hell of splitting up. Do that well enough and you won't have to worry about initiating.

 

[Trump]

She will then forget about you by next weekend. Text her daily, but make the texts fun and light-hearted. Make her look forward to seeing you next weekend.

Text a girl daily after she says “ok, I’ll let you know by Friday and Saturday?” She flipped the switch, put the power in her hands.

Imagine you are a CEO and you asked a hot secretary to come for an interview next week, and she said “I’ll let you know by Friday and Saturday.” Would you text her daily to convince to come for the interview? Or would you tell her to get lost?

OP - I would have went no contact. If she contacts you, tell her you will get back to her.

 

[Suave88]

Woman in the middle of a divorce is classic rebound screw material. Should have skipped dinner and taken her to your bed. Her free time is infrequent and precious. She has girlfriend to vent to. Your responsibility is to give her orgasms to escape the emotional hell of splitting up. Do that well enough and you won't have to worry about initiating.

"She has girlfriend to vent to." What do you mean?
There is a target I am observing. She is separated and may be in middle of divorce. Hubby got caught taughting his litle girl. MF got arrested for his acts. She does have a female friend and has been separated since December last year. I am planning to ask her out soon. If you have experience, please let me know. We are not together, but I got her #.

 

[Desdinova]

Text a girl daily after she says “ok, I’ll let you know by Friday and Saturday?” She flipped the switch, put the power in her hands.

The power is always in her hands. You have to convince her how to use it. If you ignore her by playing "hard to get", she will examine how she feels on Friday about you (which will be neutral because you have no rapport with her) and ultimately cancel. If you make the week fun over text and make her wonder what you're going to send her next (and when you're going to send it), she will make sure that she deserves a day for you, and will even ask you about it.

Once you have her interest, you can pull back.

 

[Mbuckets82]

What do you mean "wouldn’t mind seeing her next weekend for a dinner date.?" Did you set up a definite date and time or this literally what you told her?

This is what I said. She told me today If I know for sure what I’m doing, can fit her in, and she has time then great. Wtf does that mean?

I just said to let me know when she’s free and I’ll see what I can do.

Radio silence until then. I’ve over extended.