Would you get into a relationship with a woman who lacks ambition?

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Suppose a woman is loving and good in bed, but you can't see being financially stable in the future, nor does she give a damn, would you consider a serious relationship with her?
I've been seeing this chick who has a degree in business, but wants to be a full time yoga instructor and and part time artist. She told me she has no intention of making money or owning her own home. I tried to motivate her but she is quite reluctant.
 

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Not a chance she’s a fvcking day dreamer and mooch you will be constantly broke with a woman like her.
 

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Not a chance she’s a fvcking day dreamer and mooch you will be constantly broke with a woman like her.
This is my answer too.
 

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She has to at least work a serving job but is never required to have more.. otherwise she will sit there on Instagram all day.
 

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It's interesting to compare this to another recent thread where guys said straight up they didn't are about a girl's career. The responses here seem to suggest otherwise.

Yoga and art though, makes her sound like an interesting person. Who said women didn't have hobbies or passions?
 

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As long as she was paying off that student loan I wouldn’t see a problem.
She would be more suspect if she lives for a career in corporate America and is half/full battle ax.

She went to college trying to follow the modern narrative but realized that her place was something else.
 

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It's interesting to compare this to another recent thread where guys said straight up they didn't are about a girl's career. The responses here seem to suggest otherwise.

Yoga and art though, makes her sound like an interesting person. Who said women didn't have hobbies or passions?
You can care or not care for different reasons, in that thread we/i were talking about attraction itself. But if he wants an expensive home and she doesnt, that doesnt mean he is attracted or not attracted by her career. It just means they have a goals mismatch. And thats why he made this thread, hes attracted but figuring out the goals mismatch. If her career made her more or less attractive he would already just have been turned off.

So of course, it doesnt mean we literally "dont care" in any sense. You have to be on the same page. But it doesnt matter for attraction.
 
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Suppose a woman is loving and good in bed, but you can't see being financially stable in the future, nor does she give a damn, would you consider a serious relationship with her?
I've been seeing this chick who has a degree in business, but wants to be a full time yoga instructor and and part time artist. She told me she has no intention of making money or owning her own home. I tried to motivate her but she is quite reluctant.
In a relationship Im seeing it as an emotional commitment, doesn't matter what degree or passions she has, she sounds like an interesting person though, some people will go throughout some phase from time to time, and grow from it, as time goes on if she more invest into you she might consider her to contribute in the future of the relationship and make it happened either pursuing into more serious carrier or making money out of her yoga, arts or any other passive income. She will be an add up in your life.

Don't judge too early, follow your guts feelings, career won't guarantee an healthy relationship, if you feel she's worth it just go with the flow.
 

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Lack of ambition is no problem for me, however she would still need to have a decent job to pay for her expenses.


No women will use me for my $$$$
Igaf how hot she is.
 

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It depends on what you mean. Lack of ambition in that she doesnt even want to work? or lack of ambition meaning she does work and have a good job but she doesnt think of further success and improving her career?

If it's lack of ambition where she does not want to work and do much of anything at all then No. For a a casual sex relationship, Yes but not LTR material.

If it's the lack of ambition where she does work and has a decent/good paying job but she's doesnt think of going further, then i think thats fine. If you get involved with a Woman who is super ambitious and driven then you'll end up colliding with her in the LTR because the vibe she's dishing out is masculine. Dominant type of Women are like this and they clash with their boyfriends/husbands because they want to be the one in control. Submissive Men would pair better for them.
 

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Women are not required to have ambition by society, this is pretty normal. People are also expected to go to college, even if they never use their degree (which is most people, I think). The question is, how does she live her life? If she's frugal and likes to pay for her own sh!t then it could work out, but if she likes to spend money you're best letting her go. Also, what is her upbringing?

The more ambitious the woman, the more she's going to want to monkey branch to a better deal. Be it with jobs or men. But contentment kills passion. I would want a woman who challenges me to at least some degree.
 

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Yoga and Artist! That tells it all right there. If you want to provide for her financially in every facet then go ahead.

Those types always have poor work ethic, no drive, no ambition, and are always broke! Reminds me of all the hippies that live in their cars in California hanging out at the beach and smoking weed all day.
 

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You can care or not care for different reasons, in that thread we/i were talking about attraction itself. But if he wants an expensive home and she doesnt, that doesnt mean he is attracted or not attracted by her career. It just means they have a goals mismatch.
Agree, it's not part of the attraction phase, it's part of the filtering process. I can understand the OP's concerns if he wants her to contribute financially to the household, or even if he just wants her to be able to be responsible for herself.

Come to think of it, you used to see a lot of posts here from guys saying "No wife of mine will ever work", or stuff like that. You don't see that much anymore. Actuall, you don't even see many guys planning to get married anymore.

Yoga and art is cool though, I like this girl already just based on her interests. I knew a yoga instructor once though, and she just did it as a side job, she had another full time job besides. There's also a possibility of her starting her own business teaching yoga, but there are a lot of variables (like location) as to how profitable that could be.
 

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She can lack ambition but amplify your efforts and enhance your life.

Alternatively

She can have huge ambition and ultra competitive always tearing you own or attempting to exploit you. Never helpjmg you.
 

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She can lack ambition but amplify your efforts and enhance your life.

Alternatively

She can have huge ambition and ultra competitive always tearing you own or attempting to exploit you. Never helpjmg you.
Exactly
 
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