How Do I Get This Girl Out Of My Mind?

[soulforge]

In my case, I asked what was up.

In general, if the other person expresses that they do have the feels, then you are supposed to tell them what you need from them to know they have the feels.

As another example, my ex one day blew up at me yelling "you never initiate sex!" He went on to explain via yelling that he took that as a sign that I want into him/turned on by him, etc. I was pretty floored considering that I felt like I was always a willing and eager participant. Whenever we hit the sheets we would just start to go at it - I thought that was enough for him. He needed more. He needed me to show him that I desired him in the way that HE felt was valuable.

We all attempt to fulfill the other person's needs based off our own ideals. We tend to forget that the other person is a wholly separate person whom is unlike us. It's NOT up to us to be telepathic when it comes to our partners. It's up to us to express what WE need and our partners to express what they need. We're supposed to respond to what they Express.

In your situation, if you need displays of affection, even certain ones, you work that in and express it.

Thing is, that's not wholly alpha to do, so you gotta do it sideways so she doesn't think you're weak. Like "I loved it when my last GF yadda yadda yadda" unless you have the tenacity to be direct and see what happens. Maybe the idea of being direct is leading with your frame?

It all depends on the chick you are dealing with.. Some might just see at as you the man leading with your frame..

Some might find it weak and fukin revolting.

 

[soulforge]

Just need your opinion guys.

Does it make any difference that she did the nude modelling and nude dancing stuff around 8 years ago?

Is it still a major Red Flag?

I am pretty sure she would have picked up the cocaine habit from the days of modelling.. Almost goes hand in hand with the industry.

 

[stovepipe]

Just need your opinion guys.

Does it make any difference that she did the nude modelling and nude dancing stuff around 8 years ago?

Is it still a major Red Flag?

I am pretty sure she would have picked up the cocaine habit from the days of modelling.. Almost goes hand in hand with the industry.

We already gave you all the advice you asked for. Now you're going back questioning sh!t like it's going to make a difference. Even you said it's a red flag in one of your previous posts. Stop fuken second guessing yourself and just accept what's done is done. STOP looking in the rear view and look ahead!

I don't like talking with that tone, but man you post the same dumb sh!t in every girl thread you've made like you haven't learned from your mistakes. Always asking common sense questions that you yourself already answered, then go back and ask the same exact thing that we all already answered second guessing what you already said and know.

Plan and simple, you attract sloots, you fall for sloots, you like dirty sloot sex, you like emotionally broken sloots, you try LTR sloots, then you come on here and post about sloots over and over again. If members can notice your patterns and you cant, then my brother need Jesus Christ in your life! Can I get a AAAAAMEN!

 

[Brooks]

Jesus Christ in your life! Can I get a AAAAAMEN!

Amen.

Yea this thread is going in circles. Bro, you need to get the hell on with your life. What does it matter what she does or did do?

You guys broke up!!! Move on and reflect.

If your not working with her, get working on something else. Drop this thread what else can be done? You dumped her...

 

[soulforge]

We already gave you all the advice you asked for. Now you're going back questioning sh!t like it's going to make a difference. Even you said it's a red flag in one of your previous posts. Stop fuken second guessing yourself and just accept what's done is done. STOP looking in the rear view and look ahead!

I don't like talking with that tone, but man you post the same dumb sh!t in every girl thread you've made like you haven't learned from your mistakes. Always asking common sense questions that you yourself already answered then go back and ask the same exact thing that we all already answered second guessing what you already said and know.

Plan and simple, you attract sloots, you fall for sloots, you like dirty sloot sex, you like emotionally broken sloots, you try LTR sloots, then you come on here and post about sloots over and over again. If members can notice your patterns and you cant, then my brother you need Jesus Christ in your life! Can I get a AAAAAMEN!

Calm the fuk down... acting like some temperamental hoe!

I'll post what the fuk I like... who made you the guy who moderates content on here.. Calm your over excited little ass down.

It was just a question, don't start crying and getting emotional like a little bytch.

If you didn't like my question, then ignore it.. and move on.

 

[soulforge]

We already gave you all the advice you asked for. Now you're going back questioning sh!t like it's going to make a difference. Even you said it's a red flag in one of your previous posts. Stop fuken second guessing yourself and just accept what's done is done. STOP looking in the rear view and look ahead!

I don't like talking with that tone, but man you post the same dumb sh!t in every girl thread you've made like you haven't learned from your mistakes. Always asking common sense questions that you yourself already answered, then go back and ask the same exact thing that we all already answered second guessing what you already said and know.

Plan and simple, you attract sloots, you fall for sloots, you like dirty sloot sex, you like emotionally broken sloots, you try LTR sloots, then you come on here and post about sloots over and over again. If members can notice your patterns and you cant, then my brother need Jesus Christ in your life! Can I get a AAAAAMEN!

Atleast I have the COURAGE to dump a hot sloot, when I recognise the signs..

How long did it take you, to drop yours? Oh wait you didn't... up untill she totally ruined your life and scarred you for good.

And ever since you have wallowed in that pain...

Check this bruv... If I have to come on here, and ask a few questions just to clear my mind of any doubts... and if that helps me get rid of a potentially toxic person out of my life, then that is exactly what I will do.

You know where the ignore option is.

 

[stovepipe]

Calm the fuk down... acting like some temperamental hoe!

I'll post what the fuk I like... who made you the guy who moderates content on here.. Calm your over excited little ass down.

It was just a question, don't start crying and getting emotional like a little bytch.

If you didn't like my question, then ignore it.. and move on.

Everyone of your threads is the same exact sh!t over and over and over and over and over again! You already said her doing coke in the past was a red flag. Then you ask the same question again like most all your questions. Sometimes when people care about another they raise their voice cause your a$$ ain't listening.

Atleast I have the COURAGE to dump a hot sloot, when I recognise the signs..

How long did it take you, to drop yours? Oh wait you didn't... up untill she totally ruined your life and scarred you for good.

And ever since you have wallowed in that pain...

Check this bruv... If I have to come on here, and ask a few questions just to clear my mind of any doubts... and if that helps me get rid of a potentially toxic person out of my life, then that is exactly what I will do.

You know where the ignore option is.

You did have the courage and we commend you for that. Well I'm man enough to admit I fuked up with that sloot. Heck most do when they never dated or knew wtf a BPD is. But I learned a valuable lesson from it, one that I will never ever make again. I've been strong enough to dump all the sloots that followed.

The point is we all make mistakes. You think any of use want to see a fellow member keep making the same mistakes over and over again? You rather everyone talk to you in calm girly voice/tone or someone who actually gives af try to talk some sense into you? Dont be so sensitive and realize it's to wake you as$ your up.

 

[soulforge]

Everyone of your threads is the same exact sh!t over and over and over and over and over again! You already said her doing coke in the past was a red flag. Then you ask the same question again like most all your questions. Sometimes when people care about another they raise their voice cause your a$$ ain't listening.





You did have the courage and we commend you for that. Well I'm man enough to admit I fuked up with that sloot. Heck most do when they never dated or knew wtf a BPD is. But I learned a valuable lesson from it, one that I will never ever make again. I've been strong enough to dump all the sloots that followed.

The point is we all make mistakes. You think any of use want to see a fellow member keep making the same mistakes over and over again? You rather everyone talk to you in calm girly voice/tone or someone who actually gives af try to talk some sense into you? Dont be so sensitive and realize it's to wake you as$ your up.

Bruv my ass is already woke... why do you think I managed to dump a seriously hot sexy chick..

I could have done what most dudes do, and hold onto that puzzy till they are scarred for life.

You think its easy dumping a chick you felt a connection with? No way man!

I'm a pretty forgiving guy... and sometimes I assess myself and ask myself have I been too harsh on a person.

Everyone has a past right... Everyone has done some shyte they are not proud of...

Should we judge people on something they did ten years ago? Can a person reform there character and start a new healthy lifestyle.

Are you that squeaky clean?

It was just a question that sometimes needs to be pondered thats all.

I made my decision and I totally stand by it... Why? Because it was the right decision...

No need to to get so emotional over a simple question man!

 

[soulforge]

Any of you guys dumped a hotty that you liked?

Hell I didn't think I would struggle this much..

When my two year LTR ended recently, I didn't even feel this bad.

This chick I have only known for 4 months.

My plan is to continue with NC till she has been erased from my mind.

I know it's for the best.. An LTR with her, would have been full of mistrust and toxicity.

 

[AureliusMaximus]

Any of you guys dumped a hotty that you liked?

Yep, dumbed her and same night fuucked a new hotty tail from a club that I hit the same day with some of my friends.
After that I didn't give a fuuck about that chick I just dumped cuz she was out of my head forever bruv...

There is a saying..
Girls are like buses and trams - if you miss one it ain't no problem because there will always be another one coming your way.

If you got girl issues the remedy for that is the "three F's":

Find her (A new chick).
Fuuck her
Forget her.

Rinse and repeat.
Issues/problem solved!

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Fvxking a new one your into. Give it two weeks about 5-10 sex sessions.

 

[soulforge]

Yep, dumbed her and same night fuucked a new hotty tail from a club that I hit the same day with some of my friends.
After that I didn't give a fuuck about that chick I just dumped cuz she was out of my head forever bruv...

There is a saying..
Girls are like buses and trams - if you miss one it ain't no problem because there will always be another one coming your way.

If you got girl issues the remedy for that is the "three F's":

Find her (A new chick).
Fuuck her
Forget her.

Rinse and repeat.
Issues/problem solved!

Haha I like this 3 x FFF

 

[HankHill]

Your biggest reason for wanting her is great sex. I get it because I'm in the same boat, minus all the other issues you had with your girl so it makes it even harder. However, we have to remember that the reason the sex was good was more because of us not them. In my case, sure she surrendered her body completely, but ultimately it was me...she loved the way I made love to her and she let me do whatever I wanted, she wanted me to choke her, fill her up in the rear end etc and then she'd tell me I rocked her world. However, while all that is awesome and it hurts when that ride is over but there's more to a relationship than great sex. If she crosses your boundaries, disrespects you, doesn't submit, questions your character etc that is when you pick up the ball the go home. Sure it's a loss (more for her) but it's temporary until you start to realize that the sex, like the ones before it will come around again and may be even better...one door closes another opens. For you it's been a month and hope things are getting easier.

 

[soulforge]

Your biggest reason for wanting her is great sex. I get it because I'm in the same boat, minus all the other issues you had with your girl so it makes it even harder. However, we have to remember that the reason the sex was good was more because of us not them. In my case, sure she surrendered her body completely, but ultimately it was me...she loved the way I made love to her and she let me do whatever I wanted, she wanted me to choke her, fill her up in the rear end etc and then she'd tell me I rocked her world. However, while all that is awesome and it hurts when that ride is over but there's more to a relationship than great sex. If she crosses your boundaries, disrespects you, doesn't submit, questions your character etc that is when you pick up the ball the go home. Sure it's a loss (more for her) but it's temporary until you start to realize that the sex, like the ones before it will come around again and may be even better...one door closes another opens. For you it's been a month and hope things are getting easier.

I hear you man.. I am actually in a much better place now, than where I was some weeks ago, thanks to the advice of fellow SS members, especially Stovepipe who gave me some SOLID advice... Top guy he is.

To be honest man, this chick wasn't really rude or disrespectful.... I just had to get rid of her, due to her dubious and somewhat sleazy past.. Plus her cocaine use.

You can only bang a chick for a certain amount of time, till the FEELS rear the ugly head... Thats when you need to dump and run!

 

[HankHill]

I hear you man.. I am actually in a much better place now, than where I was some weeks ago, thanks to the advice of fellow SS members, especially Stovepipe who gave me some SOLID advice... Top guy he is.

To be honest man, this chick wasn't really rude or disrespectful.... I just had to get rid of her, due to her dubious and somewhat sleazy past.. Plus her cocaine use.

You can only bang a chick for a certain amount of time, till the FEELS rear the ugly head... Thats when you need to dump and run!

Yeah, I saw that...that's you not willing to compromise your standards especially if this was going in the LTR direction. Better to cut it off sooner than later.

 

[soulforge]

Yeah, I saw that...that's you not willing to compromise your standards especially if this was going in the LTR direction. Better to cut it off sooner than later.

Mate an LTR with a chick who has in the past been involved in stripping and pornography... Uses cocaine... Hows that going to end well

Sex is awesome... but the mind fuks awaiting further down the line, once in a LTR would never be worth it.

 

[backseatjuan]

Girls with high IL will always want LTR. I still don't get it, why even consider LTR or bust, why.
In my book she failed the first sht test in my book, she fcked on her first date. That already set the tone for no LTR material.

 

[soulforge]

Girls who svck dik on the first date... Usually doesn't end well.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Girls with high IL will always want LTR. I still don't get it, why even consider LTR or bust, why.
In my book she failed the first sht test in my book, she fcked on her first date. That already set the tone for no LTR material.

Think about all the guys she strung along for dates or free massages in contrast to you hitting it on the first date?