ChristopherColumbus
Master Don Juan
I think you could be falling into the either/ or fallacy here.I'm not asking about frame here, I'm interested in the actual chain of events. Because there seems to be a sea change here lately in what I'm reading. Trump has noticed it too. I seem to be reading more guys saying don't approach, show up, be high value, and the girls will chase you. Corey Wayne endorses a similar approach.
This idea isn't new exactly, but it seems to be becoming the predominant view here. With OLD, maybe guys aren't picking up girls anymore, it sounds like they are wanting to be picked up. A combination of more aggressive women and men not wanting to validate them anymore?
You say it starts with the woman manipulating. You mean like dressing to look good and such? If a woman makes eye contact, does that mean she is chasing you? Or are guys literally sitting back waiting for the girls to pick them up? Because that's what a lot of posts sound like.
Mind you, my current girlfriend initiated our getting together, she was the one interested in me. I find relationships work best whem the girl is high interest. So maybe that idea is taking over the seduction community now.
It could be more nuanced, organic, and 'dialectical' than this. For example the women expresses covert interest [unconsciously or not] to which the man responds overtly [if interested], and then the dance spirals from there.
Who the actual initiator is, what the actual 'first cause' is, in this equation is a bit more blurred. It's not a purely cerebral affair.