Went on a solid 9 date from match tonight. But.....

[biggoal]

So this woman I met on match a week ago and been texting back and forth with we agreed to a date on sat. Anyway, we were texting today and she said her friend cancelled plans so I asked lets me up tonight so you're not bored. She actually agreed to it and drove an hour.

Anyway, the woman is actually HOTTER than her match photos and facebook photos. My caller id shows her last name so I looked her up that way and everything checked out so I knew she was a real deal.

Anyway, she's a solid 9 when she walks in. We hug (friendly type hug) and sit down. She's a bit shy though just like she sounded in texting and on the phone.

Overall pretty friendly BUT verysnobbish. Like she wanted me to describe my business more so I had to be more honest and described it as an indoor fleamarket. And she gave a chuckle and snobby remark about being a fleamarket

I explained to her some vendors make big money there and I myself make okay money as well.

The whole time she's fairly friendly but again snobbish like she's better than everyone else and described on a number of occasions how she didn't like meeting new people in town because people make comments about her and word spreads around.

I knew she was divorced. She told me for 8 years and that her teacher friends wanted her to meet some new people so told her to sign up on the dating site. She met a couple people from it but the way she described it they were losers and a lot of the guys uneducated. She said she was basically doing it for her friends. She said her husband just basically got tired of being married and wanted a divorce.

Remind you, this woman is a solid looks a 9. She was also a college athlete and bragged about her state records.

She sounds like the type who's very snobbish and very picky. A woman like her looks wise should not be on the internet. The type that guys drop her after a couple dates that they wont touch her after that.

Anyway it lasted about an hour. She wanted to pay, at least her part and went to dig in her purse but I stopped her and covered it all. We walked around for a few mins afterwards and then decided to leave. She had a race to run in and be up early 4 and had to drive an hour. I could tell she wanted to leave to so I didn't press it. I did walk to her car and we hugged.

As I said, very beautiful woman. I'm really shocked though she agreed to go on a date with me. I mean, I'm not ugly but barely 5-9 she's listed as 5-8 on her profile but IMO was more like lower end 5-7 next to me but everyone lies about that lol. I'd figure she's go after a 6-1 200lb type athletic guy. I workout but not the almost pro level like she does.

She did make a comment when we were starting to finish up about she found someone she can watch ball games with sometime. She doesn't own a tv but is a fan of the same team as me.

I didn't like the comment she made about my business without knowing the finances of it. I kind of had to spin it. I thought that was mean. If I were the woman and a guy said that I'd excuse myself and end it.

Overall she was still fairly friendly. But she seemed to be a narcissist though describing her.

Still I'm a bit bummed though. I actually didn't feel that nervous though like I thought. Even when she walked in and looked far hotter than online. She seemed my shy and such. I kinda saw when how hot she was the way she would be so in my mind I kinda prepared for it.

Still, it's online dating and I got a date with a woman who looks like a solid 9 out of 100s of messages she gets so there had to be at least something she saw in me and being I'm 5 years younger too.

 

[Serenity]

There's probably a reason she's single and on online dating, it's probably not a reason you'll like. Don't be blinded by looks, dig deep.

Still, it's online dating and I got a date with a woman who looks like a solid 9 out of 100s of messages she gets so there had to be at least something she saw in me and being I'm 5 years younger too.

Don't let it get to your head.

 

[biggoal]

There's probably a reason she's single and on online dating, it's probably not a reason you'll like. Don't be blinded by looks, dig deep.


Don't let it get to your head.

I agree. She's a teacher at a nice private school. Again she kept using an excuse about wanting to not be seeing in public hence wanted to meet by where I live and said shes lonely in the summer when schools out and her friends are on vacation and trips.

She says her friends wanted her to meet at least a couple people on there this summer. Again she is literally stunning. Just comes off as a narcist and a snob. Personality wise she seemed to be a friendly person but had these two big flaws. If she could get rid of them she could have anyone she wants probably. Can't her friends step in and intervene? Unless they're snobby like that too.

 

[biggoal]

I just went on match for a minute to see who viewed me and I noticed she viewed my profile 3 hours ago, about 2 hours after the date. Why in the world would she view it again after this lackluster date? At least in my opinion it was. I mean I was pretty chill and relaxed but as described in my original post on her end she seemed awkward and sorta uptight in addition to the snob stuff.

 

[Serenity]

I mean I was pretty chill and relaxed but as described in my original post on her end she seemed awkward and sorta uptight in addition to the snob stuff.

Probably nervous, it's a classic sign.

 

[marmel75]

Should have invited her back to your place for another drink...what did you have to lose at that point, it was obvious that you likely aren't going to be seeing her again and she might have just said "F it, this dude is good enough looking to fvck and I'm horny" (and yes that happens more than you know where the woman isnt really interested in the guy but wants to fvck and you just happen to be the person who can provide that to her right now). Dont just be "happy to be on a date with a 9", try and fvck her.

Always push the envelope even when you dont think you are getting anywhere. Sometimes just being at the right time and the right place with the right women will get you laid...

and then if you hammer that pvssy good enough her interest level will skyrocket...nothing makes a woman want to see you again more than fvcking her better than she ever has been and making her cvm a lot.

 

[biggoal]

Probably nervous, it's a classic sign.

It is. The funny thing is we talked on match a few messages back and forth. She seemed nervous about online dating and "being seen" and when I mentioned getting a number she kinda dodged that too and ignored the message. I figured typical OLD they moved on to someone else.

However the next day I came up with some crafty message about meeting her down there in her town and I just offered her my cell number. Anyway later that afternoon I got a text message and it was her and again explaining she'd rather meet where I live which is 60 miles away and went on about being worried being seen in public and word spreading around.

She was a total snob out though, but she was akward and nervous too. She said she's never done OLD so maybe she was scared. She only met two people since signing up for it and said lots of creeps and uneducated guys on there. I have a degree she has a masters and teaches.

 

[biggoal]

Should have invited her back to your place for another drink...what did you have to lose at that point, it was obvious that you likely aren't going to be seeing her again and she might have just said "F it, this dude is good enough looking to fvck and I'm horny" (and yes that happens more than you know where the woman isnt really interested in the guy but wants to fvck and you just happen to be the person who can provide that to her right now). Dont just be "happy to be on a date with a 9", try and fvck her.

Always push the envelope even when you dont think you are getting anywhere. Sometimes just being at the right time and the right place with the right women will get you laid...

and then if you hammer that pvssy good enough her interest level will skyrocket...nothing makes a woman want to see you again more than fvcking her better than she ever has been and making her cvm a lot.

Well she seemed awkward and wanted to get home before dark because she had a race in the morning to run and she really is not a night person. She also doesn't drink. She drank water and was telling me since she doesn't like TV (in text messages)doesn't own one and would go to the sports bar to watch some of the big hockey games and she'd just drink water and tip the waiter and she complained to me about guys constantly hitting on her and she didn't like it, especially if they drink.

In her messages she sounded like that. Complaining about guys hitting on her and turned off by it.

She's been divorced 8 years. Why isn't she dating, why is she on OLD, and not have a BF from normal interactions? She's literally a 9 to 9.5 on the hot scale, good job and all and is on OLD. She says it's because he friends told her to do it and try to meet a couple of people over the summer at least and then tells me how her husband just decided he didn't want to be married anymore.
She has the looks, a great job and this.

The only thing I can think of is she's a total snob based on her attitude at times on the date mixed in.

 

[Vivacity]

Solid 9, without posting pictures of the said date?

Who are you trying to fool?

 

[biggoal]

Solid 9, without posting pictures of the said date?

Who are you trying to fool?

LOL. Well 8.5 to 9 range, I dunno. She was about 5-7, athletic, slim, toned body. long, dark hair, perfect face and teeth, killer legs and arse.

Someone with her looks should not be on an online dating site. Others say if they're not fake profiles and super hot usually they have issues or baggage. Minus the snobby part, socially in person and texting she sounded like a shy 15 year old talking to a guy.

 

[Spaz]

Some men right here is Sosuave thinks land whales are hot stuff.

And then some find rolls of fats at a woman's back sexy.

They might call it a 10.

However that's the definition of fugly to me.

 

[biggoal]

Some men right here is Sosuave thinks land whales are hot stuff.

And then some find rolls of fats at a woman's back sexy.

They might call it a 10.

However that's the definition of fugly to me.

Yuk. Yea this was the opposite of a land whale. I mean she was stuck up and snobby. If you could just get rid of those two I actually found the shyness kind of cute in a way. I just don't see why one has to be so openly snobby. She was really tearing people down with no degrees too as losers. I mean I got a degree so it doesn't pertain to me but I kinda tried deflecting it cause I thought it was a little inappropriate.

 

[Spaz]

Yuk. Yea this was the opposite of a land whale. I mean she was stuck up and snobby. If you could just get rid of those two I actually found the shyness kind of cute in a way. I just don't see why one has to be so openly snobby. She was really tearing people down with no degrees too as losers. I mean I got a degree so it doesn't pertain to me but I kinda tried deflecting it cause I thought it was a little inappropriate.

Dismiss her.

Women that's on Tinder are usually garbage which is why no one in their vicinity finds them attractive.

That's why they're on Tinder.

 

[biggoal]

Dismiss her.

Women that's on Tinder are usually garbage which is why no one in their vicinity finds them attractive.

That's why they're on Tinder.

This was Match actually but I agree about Tinder and Bumble. Mostly crap I see on there.

 

[biggoal]

Should I text her in a couple days and say thanks and enjoyed it? She was a snob but she did drive 60 miles up here when I wanted to drive where she lives and meet.

 

[Serenity]

Should I text her in a couple days and say thanks and enjoyed it?

Did you though? You shouldn't do that if you don't actually think so and only you can know for sure if you liked it.

She was a snob but she did drive 60 miles up here when I wanted to drive where she lives and meet.

You don't owe her anything for her bothering to drive 60 miles to come meet you.

she'd rather meet where I live which is 60 miles away and went on about being worried being seen in public and word spreading around.

This part is weird, what possible motivation could there be for not wanting to be seen in public with a man? Hmmm, I'm sure you can come up with some. Maybe she has been lying about some things, it's definitely very suspicious.

 

[biggoal]

Did you though? You shouldn't do that if you don't actually think so and only you can know for sure if you liked it.


You don't owe her anything for her bothering to drive 60 miles to come meet you.


This part is weird, what possible motivation could there be for not wanting to be seen in public with a man? Hmmm, I'm sure you can come up with some. Maybe she has been lying about some things, it's definitely very suspicious.

She's legit and all but this was a issue ever since she started talking to me. She teaches at an expensive high school that's college prep that like rich people send their kids to locally there. Probably one of those 25k a year schools and coaches too there. She said because people recognize her whenever she's out and about. I mean I believe it because I lived in that town at one time, lots of wealthy people and she hates running into everyone that knows her.

She said her friends pressured her into signing up for match and told her to just try and meet people. Also mentioned sitting by herself at the bar (drinking water) watching ball games (no tv at home) and hated being hit on.

She acted like some 15 yr old shy wise, not 40. I usually would never offer my number to someone, always make the girl give the number but she was hesitant and didn't give it out in the previous message so that's why I decided what the hell and just give her my number. Figured nothing to lose but then a few hours later she sends me text messages and explaining all this and wanting to meet up by me. She was blowing my phone up Wed night while I was at my part time job. Then thur morning she text me while I'm still sleeping and then until 3pm blowing it up a lot.

At first I was thinking fake profile, super hottie and acting like this, but her last name showed up on my cell phone caller id when she texted me so that's how I looked her up on facebook and she was legit and looked up her school she listed on FB and that checked out too on their website. Then about not having a lot of family and being divorced for awhile because her hubby was tired of being married as she puts it.

Any ideas or suggestions on why someone this good looking and good career would act this way? Oh and the texts she didn't sound snobby at all really. Sounded like typical chatty girl. Even though this isn't going to go anywhere I'm just trying to wrap my head around her because I'm quite curious myself what's going on? The driving 60 miles on short notice was an eye opener too. Never seen a girl offer to drive that far before for a first date.

 

[Serenity]

Any ideas or suggestions on why someone this good looking and good career would act this way? Oh and the texts she didn't sound snobby at all really. Sounded like typical chatty girl. Even though this isn't going to go anywhere I'm just trying to wrap my head around her because I'm quite curious myself what's going on? The driving 60 miles on short notice was an eye opener too. Never seen a girl offer to drive that far before for a first date.

I don't know. My best idea is that she's so uptight and self-restricted that she just has little to no experience with dating, especially online dating. Fits the profile of having a husband divorce her because she just wasn't fun being so uptight.

Maybe she went for the drive and all that because she wanted to push her boundaries a little, do something she doesn't typically do. Sounds like a midlife crisis type of thing really.

 

[backseatjuan]

she said her friend cancelled plans so I asked lets me up tonight so you're not bored

Nice way of offering entertainment, you're such a nice guy.

We hug (friendly type hug) and sit down

You set the tone before it, you want to be her friend, why would she hug you otherwise. She don't think you have a penis to hug you otherwise.

She's a bit shy though just like she sounded in texting and on the phone

Just like a girl should be with her male friends.

You're so excited she's a 9!
Welcome to the wonderful world of an orbiter, you got a date with hb9, it made your day, no! Not day, entire year!

 

[biggoal]

I don't know. My best idea is that she's so uptight and self-restricted that she just has little to no experience with dating, especially online dating. Fits the profile of having a husband divorce her because she just wasn't fun being so uptight.

Maybe she went for the drive and all that because she wanted to push her boundaries a little, do something she doesn't typically do. Sounds like a midlife crisis type of thing really.

I think that fits it well. Someone else I know said the same thing. Sounds uptight and very insecure. She sounded very insecure in the texting too (being seen) and when meeting her she did look nervous and fidgety even when she first got there. It could be she married very young, I knew she was divorced and she briefly mentioned it but first date I wouldn't push it. Maybe she married right after college and dated him in HS and that was the only experience she had, I dunno. Usually I let the girls do most of the talking but she looked nervous so I did a bit more talking to try and get her less nervous. I'm a shy guy too though so I can relate but she took it to a whole other level. I was really calm actually on this date. Never been on a date with a woman as hot as this. I'm not a muscle man (Im in good shape but trim), so physically I'm not intimidating to a woman. It wasn't me physically she was nervous about. Her body language showed it and the way she talked as well. I wish there was a way I could have helped with the anxiety though. Feel kinda bad if dates are always like that for her, but from what she's told me it sounds like this. Then the snobby part I wonder if it's because she was from a rich area and sheltered. Maybe being nervous though caused her to be snobby and not think clearly what she really wanted to say.