Was she crazy?

[jnMissouri]

Please don't attack me...
She was so open and available when we met, very forward. Never any games or problems first three months. She would even initiate dates with me, tell me I’m very handsome (I am good looking but not normal to tell me that while dating), was just very open and into me. After our first date she told me she thought I was awesome and that I’m very handsome and wanted to see me again the next day. So we did. She kept initiating dates, telling me she wanted to see me more often, etc. Slept together in the bathroom at my work 3rd date. Kept doing that for months or in my car, etc. I now realize she was the hot/crazy easily available lower value damaged goods girlfriend as explained in this article I found yesterday, she displayed the exact same behaviors. Can't post the link, against the rules. It's a chase amante article about hot/crazy girlfriends being easier for a reason...The article describes her to T.

Fast forward three months of everything being great. She hinted her birthday was x day twice. I made plans, she excitedly accepted, told me she was excited. I figured we’d become a couple at this point, have the talk. Night before she said she was busy tomorrow, then said she could still hang out but would just be late by an hour or two, had a legal appointment to finalize her divorce (this later checked out with her mom). I thought she was blowing me off and told her I think she was ditching me for another guy she was dating. She said that wasn’t the case, we argued, she agreed to reschedule the appointment. Next day, she never showed up. She sent me a text the day after telling me yeah, she’s a flake, a ditcher, and that she was sorry that I was a jerk to her, she was going through stuff, blah blah bah. So it was all MY fault…

I ignored her. Over the course of a week she kept texting me. Turns out she stopped by to see two friends that day but just wanted to be by herself mostly (yet stopped by to see two friends for a few minutes each, this was proven when I talked to them). We reconnected. Fast forward to make up you know what, etc. A week later her place got broken into, lost her job, etc. We met up and she went to get her bank card from the mail at her old place, I told her I’d wait for her 30 minutes she said more like 45 for her to get back. I waited an hour, never came back. She had no working phone, she had called me from a gas station that day by the way…claims her ex was spying on her, couldn’t use her phone.

So after she disappeared, she texts me a week later that she is in Denver on her way to her sisters in the South. She claimed that I ditched her this time, she said she came back in 20 minutes but I was gone…she later admitted that was a lie. She saw the way I looked at her since she had been living out of her car the past few days and she wasn’t very hot that day so she was embarrassed to be seen by me again that day. Fast forward, we kept texting and talking for months. Argued here and there initially but generally copacetic, eventually said we love each other about 4 months in, etc. Fast forward…I wanted to know if her story about her birthday was true. I made her prove to me that her story was true, she proved it by contacting the people and her mom verified the legal appointment from that day, showed me the texts. She only spent a few minutes at the two places. I eventually also texted her long time male friend that she stopped by that day while posing as her brother so I could get the truth (not likely to get the truth by saying hey, I’m her bf, are you dating??). Turns out they were really just friends and she had told him about me after all.

Fast forward….more crazy starts coming to light. I find out she lied about her past, she was an ex meth cook/dealer. She had no drivers license, had been to jail a few times for DUI, violence, etc. She even has a tattoo that says “mess”. She’s been married four times. She claims her phone, her email, her Facebook were all hacked and her ex is stalking her. That her ex’s paint her black but they are the crazy ones. She has kids but they live with her parents. Almost every place she’s lived has been broken into. Every time there is a period of normal for a day or two she starts a fight with some wild accusation, I’m going to bars cheating on her, etc. Send a pic of me at home and she still doesn’t believe me.

Every other day she created drama and chaos. I’m running away, I’m moving to VA, to FL, to LA, etc. She wanted me to keep chasing her. She tried to get me to come see her at her sisters in TX REPEATEDLY but I had work to deal with. Then she said she was coming HERE to see me later on but she never booked the ticket, just kept dragging it on for 3 weeks. Claimed she felt that I would just have sex with her for a week then break up with her. I told her that was not the case.

So that male friend of hers, she stopped talking to him anyways when she left town because HE ditched her when she needed help. She said she hadn’t talked to him since she left town months ago and that she would never talk to him again anyways, not just because I don’t want her to. That was true, it checked out. But after I reached out to him he got curious and tried to find another way to get in touch with her. So he did…She had told me they were done being friends and she would never talk to him again, etc. Yet it turns out she was talking to him again as of recently.

Now, I had admitted to her I had lied to her about a couple things like my ex living with me still (she was all about honesty she said, just wants me to be honest, I can do what I want as long as I don’t lie) but she lied about her past too early on too. I showed her proof my ex was moving out and when it got delayed she blew up. I told her I can’t be with her because she is not committed to me and has made no effort to see me. I told her I was getting back together with my ex. She blew up even more. She had told me the day before that I should call her at 3 the next day she has a big surprise for me. She never told me what it was. But after I told her I was getting together with my ex since she wasn’t serious about me, she told me that he was there at her parents in Kansas cooking her breakfast right that moment. She called me and had me listen in the background….lol. I know she was just trying to hurt me because I had just told her I was going to get back with my ex instead but if you think about it, she was hiding the fact that she was talking to him and that he was there well before that. I texted the guy to see if it was true and he said it was but he said they are just friends and that she wasn’t cheating, she never cheated on me and never would. He didn’t seem to understand that flying some other guy in there behind my back was wrong. He and her both are complete losers and don’t seem to get it. She kept trying to tell me that yeah, he is perfect for her and that she was cheating on me with him but he kept saying that’s not true, she wasn’t cheating, they are just friends and that I hurt her. As much as it hurts, I don't have much room to talk because when she found out (she knew all along she kept asking me to admit it) that my ex was still living with me everything went downhill fast. She was normal first couple days but she kept bringing it up and it was obviously festering over a few weeks.

She sleeps all day, wants to own a restaurant but can’t hold down a barista job. She’s 36, married 4 times, in an out of jail in her 20’s, ex drug dealer, no degree, her life is just chaos. Her parents and sister pay for everything, her rent, car, food, etc. She can’t even take care of her kids and her ex husbands/boyfriends, the kids fathers are all dead beat losers living with their moms so no child support. She claims she's an entrepreneur but just doesn't get that she's an unemployed barista...Delusions of grandeur.

I'm a high income, high education attractive guy who’s life is put together. I think she was histrionic personality. Her life was just chaos. If we were not fighting she would create drama to get attention. She claimed her phone, email, facebook was constantly being hacked. I think it was a way to get attention from her family and others.

tl;dr: she has been married four times at 36, was an ex meth dealer/user from 16-23, has a tattoo that says “mess” along with skulls and pistols, her kids don’t live with her or their dads (who are still meth heads) they live with their parents. She can’t hold down a job. She can’t keep her commitments. She says she won’t do x but then goes back on it. She says her ex’s all painted her black as the crazy one. She says I say the same things as them (at least the last one), that she is crazy and unstable, etc. She said they used to say the same things but it was all them that were crazy not her and that I was just like them. She ditched me on her birthday. Visited a guy who turned out to legit be her long time male friend through all her marriages. She stopped talking to him not just because of me but because he ditched her when she needed him after her place got broken into. Yet as our relationship started to disintegrate, he found a way to get in touch with her again (she had blocked him) and she flew him out/he flew out to visit her. He still was adamant that she wasn’t cheating on me, that I was a fool and that she’d never cheat on me but somehow neither of them could understand that flying out another guy, friend or not when her bf had been trying to see her again for months was wrong and not normal. They kept saying I’m controlling and I’m the problem….She kept saying that yeah she's cheating on me with him to hurt me after I told her she is too chaotic and that I was getting back with my ex. Funny thing is she told me before that she likes the controlling hussey stuff I do...

 

[Sunnypoo]

Buddy you don't need a chase amante article to figure this one out. You'd be better served picking up a legitimate book such as the DSM-5, then you'd really have her figured out.

 

[jnMissouri]

Buddy you don't need a chase amante article to figure this one out. You'd be better served picking up a legitimate book such as the DSM-5, then you'd really have her figured out.

One of my ex's that was EXACTLY like her (stayed up all night despite taking 4-5 sleeping pills, artsy, very attractive 9.5, guy friends galore, chaos all the time, seemed like she was stuck at 16, etc). She had suggested that she was histrionic. I still don't know for sure, but she did seem to be attention seeking. I know there were red flags early on, and everyone told me to eject. But like most guys, she was super hot, into me and the sex was amazing. So I kept going. But of course at that time she was normal. It was just her past that was the red flags. But as I got to know her more the crazy came out. The reason for her failed relationships/marriages came to be clear. Yet she always blamed them. Said they painted her black, called her crazy just like I did. She said I said the same things as them.

 

[Kotaix]

I know someone who is just like that. An irresponsible financial mess, has 2 kids that don't live with her, low intelligence, grew up dirt poor without a father figure, is openly disrespectful to her significant others in public, loves drama, has tried to commit suicide, breaks everyone's confidence, is into tons of kinky ****, etc, etc, etc...

She came on to me really strong, smacking my arm, making plans to hang out, talking about how she masturbates multiple times a day... she was trying to get me to bang her after she dumped her ex (whom I know). I wasn't having any of it, even though we click unbelievably well when we have a conversation. But it's a trick. she's not intelligent, but she's a master manipulator.

These people aren't crazy, they're grifters/parasites who mooch off others because they're too dumb to make a living themselves and have figured out they can manipulate others to foot the bill for them.

Pretend she has Ebola and never talk to her again, If you stick around, she'll eventually find a way to ruin your life.

 

[Sunnypoo]

The problem with the crazy ones is that they are WILD in the sack and you're just not going to get that out of a good girl. It's just not going to happen so that's part of the attraction that keeps you hooked. I finally reached the age where I'm content with the good girls, but man I miss the wild ones.

 

[btownbuck2012]

you're sucked in DEEP bro. This outpour of words and wall of texts is part of the healing process. Anybody who is detached from this can tell you for a fact this chick is legit bad news. But when you're sucked into it, it's very difficult. You have to trust us that you need to get the hell away from her. Women like this can do the most diabolical things you could ever imagine if you leave them in your life long enough - - also, it'll be the ONE thing that really gets to you. Trust me. We all have a thumbscrew, i.e. that one topic or thing that drives us insane. Trust me, she knows what it is with you and if you disappointment her in some way, at least in her crazy perception of what's happening, you'll suffer unimaginably. Seriously man. Just go hard no contact and get on with your life.

 

[jnMissouri]

The problem with the crazy ones is that they are WILD in the sack and you're just not going to get that out of a good girl. It's just not going to happen so that's part of the attraction that keeps you hooked. I finally reached the age where I'm content with the good girls, but man I miss the wild ones.

Tell me about it. I took video of her blowing me in my car, me banging her. HOT as they come, wild. Great in thee sack. But CRAZY and chaotic. She hid it for the first few months. Funny thing she told me a few times that I'd be better off leaving her as she is crazy, a bad business decision, a lot to handle. I should have listened, but she was so good in bed...Except we didn't ever do it in bed. Public places and cars instead.

I think it's fine to have the wild ones as long as you split after drama shows up. Bang them for a while and split. I wish I had done that. I intended to but she got me HOOKED. Chase Amante suggests not even talking to girls like this. But alas, most guys can't help it. The sex is too good.

 

[Sunnypoo]

The only thing I really worry about with these types are when things go the domestic violence route...and they do, it's unavoidable if you stay too long. Just make sure your the type that can resist striking or restraining a woman at all costs because if you don't then you'll be the one getting locked up. That's when it's really not worth it.

The last crazy I ended up with got really out of control. She would never call the police but she turned extremely violent one night and that was it for me. Some will attack you then call the police, she however was not like that.

 

[btownbuck2012]

The only thing I really worry about with these types are when things go the domestic violence route...and they do, it's unavoidable if you stay too long. Just make sure your the type that can resist striking or restraining a woman at all costs because if you don't then you'll be the one getting locked up. That's when it's really not worth it.

The last crazy I ended up with got really out of control. She would never call the police but she turned extremely violent one night and that was it for me. Some will attack you then call the police, she however was not like that.

Yeah man...getting the police involved is when it gets scary. There are so many nightmare stories online about guys they have been through this. Save all the texts and communications from these chicks. You never know when you may need it to save your ass.

 

[jnMissouri]

The only thing I really worry about with these types are when things go the domestic violence route...and they do, it's unavoidable if you stay too long. Just make sure your the type that can resist striking or restraining a woman at all costs because if you don't then you'll be the one getting locked up. That's when it's really not worth it.

The last crazy I ended up with got really out of control. She would never call the police but she turned extremely violent one night and that was it for me. Some will attack you then call the police, she however was not like that.

Funny you mention it. The more we talked, the more she slipped up. She told me recently that her boyfriend from 16-23 that she cooked and dealt meth with is a six time felon...and SHE was the one to send him to prison the first time. Found cocaine under their babies changing table, called the cops on him...Right when she started telling me she hesitated because she realized it made her look bad.

She told me he used to beat her constantly, almost killed her, etc. She paid for everything, his car, food, beer, etc. One of the times she bailed him out (he was in and out of jail) he pissed her off by saying he felt stuck with her now, so she took her name off the bond sheet and he went back to jail. She also stopped making his car payment and told the company (some kind of weird tracking thing where they knew where his car was all the time for some reason. He had disabled it though) where to find the car to repossess it.

I worry that this chic is going to show up at my door and tell my girl about us. She seems vindictive. I have half a mind to contact her ex husband who's kid (it's not her kid) is living with her parents and let him know she invited her child molester friend to stay with them....But then again I don't want to do that as she may decide to strike back.

 

[jnMissouri]

you're sucked in DEEP bro. This outpour of words and wall of texts is part of the healing process. Anybody who is detached from this can tell you for a fact this chick is legit bad news. But when you're sucked into it, it's very difficult. You have to trust us that you need to get the hell away from her. Women like this can do the most diabolical things you could ever imagine if you leave them in your life long enough - - also, it'll be the ONE thing that really gets to you. Trust me. We all have a thumbscrew, i.e. that one topic or thing that drives us insane. Trust me, she knows what it is with you and if you disappointment her in some way, at least in her crazy perception of what's happening, you'll suffer unimaginably. Seriously man. Just go hard no contact and get on with your life.

Thank you so much. You're right the wall of text, etc. is part of the healing process. I've talked to everyone that would listen about this and am even considering going to counseling to heal. Yeah, she knows I'm a jealous guy. When I told her I was going back to my ex, she flipped, told me her male friend (even he said that's all he is, since they were kids) is there right then cooking her breakfast and that he's way better than me, blah blah blah. Funny enough just the day before she told me he is a loser and a child molester, lol. This girl is CRAZY.

I already went no contact, this is day 4 as of 1 PM today anyways. It's hard for me. At first I was in the relief stage, then I moved onto curiosity, then disappointment when my phone vibrated and it wasn't a text from her, etc. I'm almost to the stage of fear of loss, but at the same time the longer the no contact is going on the more perspective I get and realize she was just TOXIC, ABSOLUTELY CRAZY.

Friends have told me she will likely reach out when this friend of hers leaves. She's using him as support to fill the void. Now that I'm not chasing her or validating her (she told me before she loved it when she hung up on me and I kept texting with her back and forth after). Histrionic women can't stand that you're not chasing them anymore. I've ghosted her before and she would reach out, and keep reaching out, and keep reaching out after a few days or a week. I'm 80% sure she will eventually. To make me out to be the bad guy. Yeah, I wasn't perfect, but holy crap she was just NUTS.

 

[DelayedGratification]

The problem with the crazy ones is that they are WILD in the sack and you're just not going to get that out of a good girl. It's just not going to happen so that's part of the attraction that keeps you hooked. I finally reached the age where I'm content with the good girls, but man I miss the wild ones.

Yeah, every one has a different brand of crazy. I'm not proud of this, but I kept a mistress for five years, and it was the same thing. Low-income demographics, emotionally abusive mother, father not out of the picture but not in it enough for stability, etc. On one hand she certainly restored my cratered sexual self-esteem from my marriage. The sex was amazing and I probably won't replicate it in my lifetime.

I did everything I could to help her, within the confines of my marital situation. And I could see the crazy, it's just that it didn't directly affect me. It wasn't until the marriage inevitably nosedived towards divorce (for the record, the mistress was the symptom not the cause) that suddenly her problems became my problems. Should have walked but I was too emotionally vulnerable to be thinking straight. In the end she ditched me for someone closer to her own SMV. Good luck, fella.

Fast-forwarding, for now I'm a secondary to a poly, which meets my minimum needs for social+intimate female companionship. The sex is on a completely different level, but at this phase of my life I'm ok with that, and is compensated by the fact that she's terrific to be around. Meanwhile, her polyamory not only enables me to explore other avenues, but she is genuinely supportive of that.

I know poly is a hot button (here especially I imagine), but in my situation it's working, at least on a temporary basis, and I've learned a lot by seeing the dynamics up-close-and-personal.

 

[jnMissouri]

I know someone who is just like that. An irresponsible financial mess, has 2 kids that don't live with her, low intelligence, grew up dirt poor without a father figure, is openly disrespectful to her significant others in public, loves drama, has tried to commit suicide, breaks everyone's confidence, is into tons of kinky ****, etc, etc, etc...

She came on to me really strong, smacking my arm, making plans to hang out, talking about how she masturbates multiple times a day... she was trying to get me to bang her after she dumped her ex (whom I know). I wasn't having any of it, even though we click unbelievably well when we have a conversation. But it's a trick. she's not intelligent, but she's a master manipulator.

These people aren't crazy, they're grifters/parasites who mooch off others because they're too dumb to make a living themselves and have figured out they can manipulate others to foot the bill for them.

Pretend she has Ebola and never talk to her again, If you stick around, she'll eventually find a way to ruin your life.

Actually literally EVERYTHING you described are classic signs of histrionic personality disorder. The attempts to seduce you, the inappropriate sexual conversation, suicide attempts, loves drama, berates SO in public, etc. I've revisited histrionic PD lately reading up on it because a couple other ex's had it, one even self diagnosed. The things you mention are ALL, EVERY SINGLE ONE OF THEM sings of HPD.

 

[btownbuck2012]

Thank you so much. You're right the wall of text, etc. is part of the healing process. I've talked to everyone that would listen about this and am even considering going to counseling to heal. Yeah, she knows I'm a jealous guy. When I told her I was going back to my ex, she flipped, told me her male friend (even he said that's all he is, since they were kids) is there right then cooking her breakfast and that he's way better than me, blah blah blah. Funny enough just the day before she told me he is a loser and a child molester, lol. This girl is CRAZY.

I already went no contact, this is day 4 as of 1 PM today anyways. It's hard for me. At first I was in the relief stage, then I moved onto curiosity, then disappointment when my phone vibrated and it wasn't a text from her, etc. I'm almost to the stage of fear of loss, but at the same time the longer the no contact is going on the more perspective I get and realize she was just TOXIC, ABSOLUTELY CRAZY.

Friends have told me she will likely reach out when this friend of hers leaves. She's using him as support to fill the void. Now that I'm not chasing her or validating her (she told me before she loved it when she hung up on me and I kept texting with her back and forth after). Histrionic women can't stand that you're not chasing them anymore. I've ghosted her before and she would reach out, and keep reaching out, and keep reaching out after a few days or a week. I'm 80% sure she will eventually. To make me out to be the bad guy. Yeah, I wasn't perfect, but holy crap she was just NUTS.

They’re dangerous as f*ck. Do everything in your power to stay away from her.

 

[jnMissouri]

Yeah, every one has a different brand of crazy. I'm not proud of this, but I kept a mistress for five years, and it was the same thing. Low-income demographics, emotionally abusive mother, father not out of the picture but not in it enough for stability, etc. On one hand she certainly restored my cratered sexual self-esteem from my marriage. The sex was amazing and I probably won't replicate it in my lifetime.

I did everything I could to help her, within the confines of my marital situation. And I could see the crazy, it's just that it didn't directly affect me. It wasn't until the marriage inevitably nosedived towards divorce (for the record, the mistress was the symptom not the cause) that suddenly her problems became my problems. Should have walked but I was too emotionally vulnerable to be thinking straight. In the end she ditched me for someone closer to her own SMV. Good luck, fella.

Fast-forwarding, for now I'm a secondary to a poly, which meets my minimum needs for social+intimate female companionship. The sex is on a completely different level, but at this phase of my life I'm ok with that, and is compensated by the fact that she's terrific to be around. Meanwhile, her polyamory not only enables me to explore other avenues, but she is genuinely supportive of that.

I know poly is a hot button (here especially I imagine), but in my situation it's working, at least on a temporary basis, and I've learned a lot by seeing the dynamics up-close-and-personal.

Yeah, don't feel bad. She was my mistress too for the past 7 months. I feel like crap because I actually broke things off with my gf of 10 years so this girl could move in (I asked my gf to move out, didn't tell her why though, just that it was over). Luckily I delayed the move out and we are back together. The sex with my gf used to be amazing the first year, but we settled into a routine, a rut. It's just familiar now. In any case I feel terrible that I almost lost a girl who has always been there for me and even told me she would cut my hair even though she knows she was helping me get another girl.

I worry that this crazy girl is going to google my name and show up at my door to tell my girl. Or send her friend to do it. Like an idiot I told her her real first name. Had I given her a fake name and she showed up she'd just look like a confused crazy.

What's strange is she suspected all along I had a girlfriend, she said I seemed to have a curfew, never hung out past 7, never on weekends, never brought her to my place, never talked on the phone at home, only at work. Yet she kept dating me! She knew all along. She asked me repeatedly, just wanted to know the truth she said. Said she won't leave, she doesn't care. So I told her eventually. She was eerily calm. Just went on as if we were having a normal conversation on a new subject. But slowly it ate away at her. A few days ago when I told her I can't handle her chaos anymore and was telling my gf not to move out, she flipped. Told me her male friend is there cooking her breakfast at her parents, that she was cheating on me with him (which he said is not the case, they are legit just friends she would never cheat, he's known her for a long time, through all her marriages, etc. that I hurt her, lied to her, etc.) and that he was way better and that he was going to transfer his job across the country to be with her. When I talked to him he said he was merely helping her move...

 

[jnMissouri]

They’re dangerous as f*ck. Do everything in your power to stay away from her.

Should I just block her? I've read it's a bad idea to do that in no contact. My take is that if she reaches out I can gain valuable intelligence. My friends are split on blocking or not blocking. Part of me wants to so that I can't be talked into going back to her (she has my email too though). Also this way I avoid her sending me some text like her in bed with some guy later on just to hurt me.

 

[btownbuck2012]

Should I just block her? I've read it's a bad idea to do that in no contact. My take is that if she reaches out I can gain valuable intelligence. My friends are split on blocking or not blocking. Part of me wants to so that I can't be talked into going back to her (she has my email too though). Also this way I avoid her sending me some text like her in bed with some guy later on just to hurt me.

Just remember she’s 10 steps ahead of you. Her goal is to destroy. Your need to gather intellegence is irrelevant because in the process of doing so she’ll use whatever she can to try and ruin you. Even the most innocuous appearing act, in your mind, can and will be twisted by her to try and hurt you. Just block her and have no further contact.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Just remember she’s 10 steps ahead of you. Her goal is to destroy. Your need to gather intellegence is irrelevant because in the process of doing so she’ll use whatever she can to try and ruin you. Even the most innocuous appearing act, in your mind, can and will be twisted by her to try and hurt you. Just block her and have no further contact.

There are alot of females today gathering intel to gain leverage or reduce your level. Its not always to destroy. But they do want to get ahead of most men.

 

[jnMissouri]

Just remember she’s 10 steps ahead of you. Her goal is to destroy. Your need to gather intellegence is irrelevant because in the process of doing so she’ll use whatever she can to try and ruin you. Even the most innocuous appearing act, in your mind, can and will be twisted by her to try and hurt you. Just block her and have no further contact.

Is that what she is really after? Destroying me? How? Why?

She sure sucked me in with her sweetness and availability, then the crazy appeared after I was hooked. Chase Amante wrote a great article about this. Says you'll wonder how you got this girl, she's so hot, amazing in bed, sweet, and she pursues you. Only one problem: she's crazy. Chaos will ensue. Then goes on to describe it in more detail. I've had a few of these crazies.

Sad part is, I read an article this morning about some study that says people with obsessive compulsive disorder (me, self diagnoes) and people with histrionic PD (her, pretty sure, she even acknowledged she was unstable and crazy, telling me from time to time that I should stay away, she is crazy, a lot to handle, a bad business decision, etc.) are naturally attracted to each other and are magnetically drawn to each other and will end up with each other again and again, or if they do eventually split for good, they will seek out the same type of person again because the pairing of those two DO's completes us. One seeks stability (histrionic) from the OCD person and the OCD person likes the free spirit of the histrionic.

I went out with another girl a while ago that was histrionic as well. Her crazy was visible IMMEDIATELY though. You could see it in her eyes, the way she looked, the way she talked. There was something very wrong with her.

 

[Kotaix]

Should I just block her? I've read it's a bad idea to do that in no contact. My take is that if she reaches out I can gain valuable intelligence. My friends are split on blocking or not blocking. Part of me wants to so that I can't be talked into going back to her (she has my email too though). Also this way I avoid her sending me some text like her in bed with some guy later on just to hurt me.

Block her. Never see her again. Seriously man. You're dealing with at least malignant narcissism here, sprinkled with some psychopathy I'm sure. If you stick around her, she is going to eventually get you arrested for something just like she told you she did others. Look at the behavior, not the words. She's doesn't care about you. It's all an act. She'll suck you dry and cast you away like a withered husk and move on to her next victim when there's nothing left for you to give.

I've seen this happen but reversed. A female friend of mine dated a guy. The first 6 months were bliss, but then it turned into hell. He was very dumb, very good looking, extremely charming and LAZY AF: like, get up at 3 pm to go do construction work type lazy. And a compulsive liar. All bad things in life were everyone else's fault. He eventually got my friend arrested on charges that she (5'7") tried to strangle him (6'4") and fabricated the marks on his neck. My friend lost her job.