Flaked on first date than asks to reschedule next weekend, should I delete contact or reschedule 2nd?

[GeeMale]

1 week ago I met a medical student at Starbucks who was sitting in front of me, I conversated with her and asked her out

Text thread-

Saturday(5 Days ago)

Me: Hey, it was great meeting you. You seem very interesting and I'd like to find out more about you over a casual coffee Tuesday at 6 at the same Starbucks. How about that?
Her: It was great meeting you too!
Her: I'm leaving for Dallas tomorrow and coming back wed/Thurs. I can do it than?
Me: Thursday at 6 is cool. Have a fun trip!
Her: Thanks!!
TODAY around 5:15
Me:Looking forward to tonight, see you around 6
Her: I don't think I can make it
Me: No problem
Her: Maybe we can meet up next weekend

What would you text back?

 

[ItsFate451]

A better offer was presented to her. She did offer to reschedule which is a good sign even if she didn’t offer a specific day.

Personally I don’t do weekend dates but if you want, say let’s meet Friday at this time and this place. Then pay attention to her answer.

 

[GeeMale]

A better offer was presented to her. She did offer to reschedule which is a good sign even if she didn’t offer a specific day.

Personally I don’t do weekend dates but if you want, say let’s meet Friday at this time and this place. Then pay attention to her answer.

Me: Lets meet next Friday same time and place
Her:Kk perfect
Her:U trying to go out this wknd though?

 

[GeeMale]

A better offer was presented to her. She did offer to reschedule which is a good sign even if she didn’t offer a specific day.

Personally I don’t do weekend dates but if you want, say let’s meet Friday at this time and this place. Then pay attention to her answer.

Would it be weird to set up a last minute date for tomorrow? She sounds like she wants to meet up sooner than next week lol

 

[lamath]

Would it be weird to set up a last minute date for tomorrow? She sounds like she wants to meet up sooner than next week lol

Stick to next Friday imo

 

[GeeMale]

Stick to next Friday imo

Whats the reasoning behind that?

 

[lamath]

Whats the reasoning behind that?

@Glassguy might have better suggestion

Just that she flaked on you.
What i dont like about it is that she waited until you sent her the date confirmation txt to cancel, it was last minute.
Dont reward her flaking by setting up a date for tomorrow.

Displeasing behavior should be met by increasing disinterest by you

 

[GeeMale]

@Glassguy might have better suggestion

Just that she flaked on you.
What i dont like about it is that she waited until you sent her the date confirmation txt to cancel, it was last minute.
Dont reward her flaking by setting up a date for tomorrow.

Displeasing behavior should be met by increasing disinterest by you

Do you think if I would've sent the confirmation text ("Looking forward to meeting you tonight, see you at 6") instead of at 5:20ish(30-40 min before or so) , maybe earlier like noon that she wouldn't have canceled? Are we suppose to send it right before the meet up like I did, or the day of but earlier in the day?

When she replied"I don't think I can make it "
is it not possible she could actually just live far enough that in rush hour, she'd arrive late?


Other than that I think its b****y that she wouldn't txt beforehand to cancel....I honesly didn't even know women have the courtesy to do that on a first date as it never happened to me or I don't remember....either they cancel/flake like the way she did, or I end up going with them.

 

[lamath]

I dont think it would have changed anything.

It is a bitchy move and it is displeasing so i would act accordingly.


Tbh i havnt dated much since leaving ex so im no expert, just my 2 cents

 

[GrowingPains]

When she replied"I don't think I can make it "
is it not possible she could actually just live far enough that in rush hour, she'd arrive late?

Bro she didn't even tell you why she couldn't make it. Don't justify her behavior. She found something better and went with that. No need for further inferring. She reached out again and the reason you should stick to next Friday (which it looks like you already sent her a text asking if she can do this weekend?) Is because you aren't sitting around waiting for her. You have sh!t to do this weekend. Shes gonna have to wait if she wants a piece of your sweet time. Don't be so available. Respect yourself.

Are we suppose to send it right before the meet up like I did, or the day of but earlier in the day?

This sounds like you're trying to find some formula to make it never happen again. All you need to do is say the time and the place and if she agrees, expect her to be there. If someone invites you somewhere under what conditions would you cancel last minute? Now of those conditions, which ones would you actually explain why you can't make it? After thinking about that, do you think she 'couldnt make it' or didn't want to make it?

Anyways, stop worrying about it. You can't control everything. Realize she flaked. Take her up on her offer to reschedule and keep it moving.

 

[DEEZEDBRAH]

1 week ago I met a medical student at Starbucks who was sitting in front of me, I conversated with her and asked her out

Text thread-

Saturday(5 Days ago)

Me: Hey, it was great meeting you. You seem very interesting and I'd like to find out more about you over a casual coffee Tuesday at 6 at the same Starbucks. How about that?
Her: It was great meeting you too!
Her: I'm leaving for Dallas tomorrow and coming back wed/Thurs. I can do it than?
Me: Thursday at 6 is cool. Have a fun trip!
Her: Thanks!!
TODAY around 5:15
Me:Looking forward to tonight, see you around 6
Her: I don't think I can make it
Me: No problem
Her: Maybe we can meet up next weekend

What would you text back?

Maybe lol

Next her.

 

[Glassguy]

I agree with @DEEZEDBRAH

She didnt really counter offer. She flaked at the last minute (not that the confirmation text had anything to do with it, but the one OP sent was REALLY needy sounding).

Counter offer would have been "I am so sorry but blah blah blah I cant make it tonight. What other days are you free so I can make it up to you?".

Then there is the MAYBE we can meet up next weekend. Seriously? There is nothing concrete there. To that I would have responded with either "I already have plans next weekend, but I am free Wednesday at 7 so let me know if that works"

OR

I would have just said "I think I am busy most of next weekend but I will let you know" and then not texted her again. If she doesnt reach out I am dust in the wind.

As a man your most valuable asset is your time. I dont set my clock around MAYBE, WE'LL SEE or any other bullshyte. Its solid plans or next.

You are telling me this chick cant find 30 minutes for "casual coffee" (that made me cringe when I read it in OP's texts btw) between now and next weekend?

Simple = DEUCES!

 

[Glassguy]

@GeeMale

Stop overthinking this. That mentality is a scarcity mentality.

I dont let chicks even get an emotional spike out of me. There are 8 more around the next corner. Go find them.

 

[sazc]

Stick to next Friday imo

You stick to next Friday and you'll be forgotten unless she's really high interest, which it doesn't seem that way since she's cancelling your first meeting.

Monday coffee

 

[Tilex]

Low interest is common with cold approaches.
It took me a long time to realize this until I became a member of sosuave.
I kid you not! This site has taught me well.
I had to retrain my mind and red pill myself again a 3rd time to get a better understanding of interest levels.

When you're cold approaching, you're automatically giving the other person the upper hand. It's a power imbalance.
I can't quite go into full detail about this because I read it from @Atom Smasher in another thread.

Warm approaches and positive compliance tests have a much lower flake rate.

*Edit*
I found it from this thread:

https://www.sosuave.net/forum/threa...backfire-on-you-blackpill.258360/post-2630092

 

[Who Dares Win]

Suggest the meeting close to where you live or a place you would be going anyway, no big deal if she flakes.

 

[marmel75]

Next Friday will be a flake followed by a ghosting. Bet on it.

This is what I call the "Slow fade, flake and ghost pattern" which is a pretty common method women use...texts start becoming less frequent, then they flake, then they ghost...

 

[Steel_Neurons]

Next Friday will be a flake followed by a ghosting. Bet on it.

This is what I call the "Slow fade, flake and ghost pattern" which is a pretty common method women use...texts start becoming less frequent, then they flake, then they ghost...

Yeah, that's my sense of it, too. I like Deezedbrah's approach, personally.

 

[GeeMale]

Thanks guys I like all of y'all's insights..the funny thing my gut instinct knew what y'all were on about, however because it was first chick I asked out in months...I gave her benefit of the doubt. Matter of fact I do that a lot since coming to this site from 2017....staying focused on important things in my
world so much I totally forget what I built up and learn from this site....from when I was consistently asking out chicks,dates,etc...except I was truly focused on me and happy inside...does anyone catch my drift?Makes me feel like an idiot when I have to read these posts that pinpoint the obvious in which I believed and knew before....

I basically just cut her off for disrespecting my time on the initial flake and believing I'm gonna be some text buddy or 'guy friend' lol.

What's funny to me is as long as a girl is 6+ no matter what her personality is(medical student, nurse, or retard, or stripper) ...womens ACTIONS wh
can contradict what they SAY. it's like they're all wired to be passive with an ego no matter what lol.

 

[lamath]

You stick to next Friday and you'll be forgotten unless she's really high interest, which it doesn't seem that way since she's cancelling your first meeting.

Monday coffee

If he his forgotten before next date, good for him. He just got rid of a low interest women without wasting his time.