The ultimate red flag comes out.

[btownbuck2012]

I been seeing this girl since Valentines day and everything has been amazing so far.

We spend every day together. She treats me good and only suspicion so far was how quick she got attached.

Come find out.. She tells me her Mom committed suicide not too long ago and her Dad is also dead now.

She has a 17 year old kid that doesn't know that his grandpa is now dead too.

She had a cry session at my apartment.

I don't want to have a kid and have to tell it that the family on the mom side all dead.

This girl is soo good to me otherwise...

I need your thoughts my friends... If it wasn't for this she is wify material... sucks.

Jesus Christ man get your head back on straight and get the hell away from that woman.

 

[Glassguy]

We spend every day together.

AKA you have no other options and you broke the rules. Scarcity mindset.

Now you are starting threads about ONE chick. Are you looking for someone to support you or are you looking for solid advice? I dont think you will find many people supporting you on this one as you have allowed yourself to get attached to this one chick in a short period of time.

her Mom committed suicide not too long ago and her Dad is also dead now.

She has a 17 year old kid that doesn't know that his grandpa is now dead too.

So she is hiding from her own kid that his grandpa is dead? You dont think something seems wrong here?

That is not normal behavior. Does she just think he wont ask about his grandpa? I mean the kid is 17 years old. Does she think it will just go away?

Never spend every day with a new chick. Once or twice a week for the first month to let things develop naturally. You stepped in shyte here.

 

[backseatjuan]

lul OP this is you

 

[jaymbrs]

she may be sweet and innocent but i strongly believe she sleeps with OP because she sees financial benefits in him, at least to some degree

Not just financial but emotional and physical benefits too.

OP it sucks that you fell for someone who has all these issues but you need to decide if you want to deal with her current and impending issues or if you want to take the advice from those who aren't looking through emotional goggles and recommending you leave her to avoid the problems you'll more than likely encounter.

 

[MillionBillionaire]

browsing through the replys somehow people think I'm rich or homeless or beta.

just for the record I can fit everything I own in a tiny apartment, and I live paycheck to paycheck. (flame me for not being rich) but I have a good job.

There were like 3 sentences of actual help, the rest was not even worth reading. Been in this for too long.

"Not worthy" of these forums lol. That"s a new one.

I have another plate btw, the ocd chick I used to post about, and they actually met last Saturday and smoked a cig together. 3 some if I want it.

The level of shyt to actual advice ratio in here is astounding ...

But that is expected.

The few sentences of clarity does help.

 

[MillionBillionaire]

lul OP this is you

Troll harder

 

[MillionBillionaire]

The main issue is not her age, since she is your age, it would be if she was several years older than you. The main issue is that she has a kid. Woman with kids are damaged, absolutely all of them with the exception of widows, but then a widow having a kid automatically makes you a provider for her, not a man.

So the advice remains, dump, and I would say dump not fck buddies, because you can't handle her as a fck buddy, you want to wife this old dried up bag.

Solid advice... just want to clairfy.

I want a wife. Not necessarily from her.

She is bringing up LTR and I explored the idea in my mind. I'm not dumb... she not even GF status and now I prolly won't give that to her.

 

[MillionBillionaire]

How quick she got attached? You're still choosing to "spend every day together" with someone you've dated for less than 3 weeks.

She wants to come over on her lunch break and bring me some food then go back to work..

Yall want me to say no or pretend to be busy or turn down a nice guesture.

I see where you are comming from though

 

[backseatjuan]

="MillionBillionaire, post: 2624754, member: 124703"]browsing through the replys somehow people think I'm rich or homeless or beta.

I think you are a) needy deep down inside and b) thinking not all women are same, some are unicorns. I never seen a unicorn in the wild, much less a unicorn with a carriage.

just for the record I can fit everything I own in a tiny apartment, and I live paycheck to paycheck. (flame me for not being rich) but I have a good job.

I told you that OP is gonna rebound.

There were like 3 sentences of actual help, the rest was not even worth reading. Been in this for too long.

Let’s flip it. There are 3 sentances of sht female advice the rest is hard core alpha red pill you can’t swallow at the moment. Awww. Because she’s a unicorn with a carriage just like in a fairy tale. I want my dreams come true damn!

"Not worthy" of these forums lol. That"s a new one.

You went from give advic to dude to make fun of cck.

I have another plate btw, the ocd chick I used to post about, and they actually met last Saturday and smoked a cig together. 3 some if I want it.

Prove it. Post a pic of you in threesome.




You are sht OP... you have turned your back on the game and trusted a woman. Nothing anyone of us will say is going to help you now. You are bound to make a mistake, fck up, and come back. All our advice is for your near future reference.

 

[Robert28]

Here's my advice with this woman, wrap your sh!t up TWICE every single time you stick it in or youre going to be in a world of sh!t. You say shes not wife material, fine, but you better be careful screwing girls like this on the regular or youll be baby daddy #2 but paying all the child support.

 

[Ranger]

I was married for almost 8 years... so you know why it failed? enlighten me.

Highschool sweethearts btw... so where did I go wrong with my marriage?

This is a valid question that has been mostly ignored.
Firstly you have filled your head with garbage psychiatry. That was a huge mistake. Many people kill themselves after getting in psychotropic prescription drugs. Or even worse harm others as well.
You are incoherently lumping her with her mother on the idea that it’s genetic, yet you didn’t inquire as to the circumstances.

Let’s say I was driving too fast because I was late for work in a residential area. I killed a kid. As far as I’m concern my life wouldn’t be worth spit after that. Circumstances and context count.

You may have been married for a reasonable amount of time but you have a lot of false data about things in your head and good data can’t get in so that you can evaluate and catagorize your experiences. In other words...your education sucked and were possibly raised by a single mom.

All of that aside, it is YOUR responsibility to unlearn the false data and stop clinging to it like a hopelessly passive man. Become aggressive with yourself. Know that you have failures. Big ones too. If you can’t answer the very question you asked...get use to your powerlessness. You’re going to die with it stuck in there.

 

[Dr.Suave]

If you don´t have kids of your own, stay away from single moms. No matter how hot she is. I know it´s harder and harder (haha) with age but this is my #1 rule.

What's that expression you guys love to use in the USA? It goes "I´m not touching that with a ten foot pole" or something like that.


It´s funny, there´s a bunch of single moms at work who think they are above me or something. I can tell from their body language. Whatever, I never pull my moves @ work, don´t fill the pen with company ink and all that. But out of work, I can get hotter girls than them with no kids, so it´s doable.

 

[AJ84]

But the man will be held accountable when 30 women gaslight him for picking her and ignoring the red flags "why do you pick women like that."

You missed the part where I suggested he find out more and base his decision on that and also not catch feelings.
Most people have some crap in their past with their family. It’s not what happened in the family that matters, it’s how that person handled it.

I know women who came from solid families who are complete train wrecks and other women who had bat sh*t crazy stuff happen in their family and they are totally sorted out people with good clear heads.

He needs to keep assessing the situation, no reason why he has to dump her and not enjoy her whole he’s assessing stuff and most importantly guarding his heart during the process. He did say he is looking for a wife so all the more reason to take the time to be thorough and not hard next her until he knows more about her.

 

[marmel75]

I been seeing this girl since Valentines day and everything has been amazing so far.

We spend every day together. She treats me good and only suspicion so far was how quick she got attached.

Come find out.. She tells me her Mom committed suicide not too long ago and her Dad is also dead now.

She has a 17 year old kid that doesn't know that his grandpa is now dead too.

She had a cry session at my apartment.

I don't want to have a kid and have to tell it that the family on the mom side all dead.

This girl is soo good to me otherwise...

I need your thoughts my friends... If it wasn't for this she is wify material... sucks.

Why are you so desperate that you are spending every day together?

 

[Young OG]

We spend every day together.

If you don't see whats wrong with this then you have a lot to learn.

lol "Advice"... you mean "She is old and dried out WTF are you doing with a washed up hag!"

Well, it is the truth...

There were like 3 sentences of actual help, the rest was not even worth reading.

The level of shyt to actual advice ratio in here is astounding

You have been given a lot more then 3 sentences of advice, especially in your original thread about this girl. The advice given on this forum is actually pretty good. The problem is that you don't want to take the advice. You seem to have a problem with the truth. Your so "cVnt struck" when it comes to this woman, your not thinking clearly. The only way you will learn is to crash and burn. Whats sad is that you have been here longer then me and haven't seemed to learn anything about women. You have no options. If you did, then you would have pumped and dumped this girl. I knew a thread like this would come eventually. Now, we all will wait for the next one where you are done with her and finally wake up.

 

[RickTheToad]

Op, are you fvcking serious? It's a trap dude. RUN THE FVCK AWAY.

 

[lizardking82]

She is 35, 3 months older than me. The only person to remind me of how my x wife used to treat me when things were good.

The outrage is amusing.. you guys are all freaking out, call me beta or whatever...

"Real Playerszz!" lol

N1gja please I'm not all into that.

My man, it's been three weeks? You're expecting her to treat you bad? You're in lust, everything will seem superb now LOL

 

[lamath]

It is a red flag, her getting attach to you that fast is not good either.
Bad overall character traits i predict some very serious issue in the future.


From your other post you probably already caught the feeling, dont get attached if your not yet.

Think about this seriously, usually ending things sooner than later is for the best.


Gl man

 

[RickTheToad]

Sounds a bit like @flowtheory's thread a few weeks ago. Something in the air around here?

 

[niceguytoalphamale]

What’s worse than your situation is dating a single mom who’s baby daddy died because he was a drug addict and his liver and kidneys took a dump on him and all she talks about is him him him him. Everything you do gets compared to a dead drug addict and you will never measure up. He was father of the year for the 2 months he knew his kid even though he’s dead and you’re stuck buying stuff for his kid while he decided to do drugs but yet she will let you know he was a better role model than you’ll ever be. Fvck single moms, every single one of them.

@Robert28 ugh f**k that was true