@flowtheory this thread is getting pointless the experienced DJs have told you the truth on what's happening or is bound to happen. Why do you not listen?? I'm baffled.. truly.. we are trying to make you dodge a bullet. She's meeting up with other guys while yous are dating can you not see what we are saying? Bro it's not f****ng normal!! Take of those rose tinted glasses, stop making excuses, she is manipulative and a liar, she is going to drum more lies into your head. Your going to end up like a lobster, (a good body but a head full of sh!t)
I am listening. Clearly. But I’m not about to preemptively pull the plug on a mostly good thing.
I recognize there are flags, yes. But I also see she cares about how I feel and other positive aspects — willingness to have long discussions and find clarity. Someone with low or medium interest wouldn’t invest the amount she is and has. They wouldn’t slowly become more open in many aspects astome has gone along.
Her and I have gotten very intense very quick in many levels and also at an interesting time in her life.
She is an attractive woman, who has a career. Woth her level of straightforwardness and honesty, If she wasn’t interested or was on her way out she would have done that about a month and a half ago.
Women with a lot of options and get attention don’t waste their time with someone they are medium interest on. The facts don’t add up.
So it makes me truly believe she is mostly scared. Scared of intimacy and the vulnerability that brings. Now take her past and add in a new relationship which most are already doubtful of and you have a recipe for difficulty.
It’s not as simple as some here are making it out to be. And I’m doing my best to not be delusional. I ask many opinions from very respectable and rational minded people in my life to remain level headed about these things. So I’m not totally naive in my dealings with her or other women.
People are complicated as hell. And sometimes we fold people too early. It takes others awhile to open up and drop their masks due to baggage and fears. So like I said earlier; benefit of the doubt is important sometimes. And who really knows what is going on in her head? What looks like one thing, could be completely different.
And just because it’s easy sailing in some relationships at the start proves nothing in the game of love. There’s many who have had a ‘loving’ relationship for ten years and then one day it’s all gone because it was never really there.
It’s not always so SoSuave simple as it’s pereived to be. Dating is ridiculously complicated these days.
