Did your wife/ex-wife change after kids?

[mrgoodstuff]

Yes it’s pretty normal. I have two kids. 15 and 19. I’m or sex isn’t a priority. Two times a month is all she’s into for years.
It’s the norm and some dads never get laid.

we need to take matters into our own hands. A wife that doesnt put out is no longer your wife.

 

[Ranger]

Getting married is a huge risk.

 

[GT40]

we need to take matters into our own hands. A wife that doesnt put out is no longer your wife.

True. But easier said than done. The laws
Are structured against us males. Alimony and child support can kill the bank acct.
Friend of mine is going through it now. He’s gonna be broke. Mostly cause of his **** spending habits over the years.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

True. But easier said than done. The laws
Are structured against us males. Alimony and child support can kill the bank acct.
Friend of mine is going through it now. He’s gonna be broke. Mostly cause of his **** spending habits over the years.

Hes gonna need a part time job. Splitting bills with a well paid gf is smart too. Yeah we get hit. We can educate our sons.

 

[logicallefty]

My ex-wife and I tried for THREE YEARS to have a child. We fvcked, and fvcked, and fvcked.. To the point it became a chore. She finally got preggo. During the pregnancy she had a glow about her in a good way and it was the best 9 months of our entire 12 year relationship. We were closer than ever, taking vacations, and having a great time. Then our daughter was born. After that, she got post partim (sp) depression and down down down she went. The crash was catastrophic. Less than a year after our daughter was born, she divorced me. She kept telling me, her family, my family, friends etc. that "Things between Lefty and I haven't been right for 'YEARS'".. I said "OK, so why did you try to have a child for three years with a man you were so unhappy with?" No answer. Even her own mother said "Yeah (ex wife name), why is that? Lefty has a point.". That was in 2004. The answer never came out until about 2016 when she told my mother "I was really immature back with I divorced Lefty. If I had it to do again I would have handled myself more like an adult".

So there's my story on kids and the ex. I love my daughter but would I have had her if I would have known her mom was gonna divorce me. Absolutely not. Call me what you want for saying that, I will stand firm behind it.

 

[highSpeed]

we need to take matters into our own hands. A wife that doesnt put out is no longer your wife.

Look, I've threatened and my wife has said go ahead. However, that's only until I actually do it. Then, when she finds out, she's going to feed me my f*cking lunch in the courts. It's like a go ahead and do it, I dare you type of thing. She says it but never intends for me to actually do it, she's calling my bluff. Yes, I know, it shouldn't be a bluff but the courts don't look kindly on the guy going out and getting some on the side in a family situation. Women, who the f*ck cares as the family courts would see it but the guy, he'd better toe her line. It's so messed up, believe me, I've been through it once.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Look, I've threatened and my wife has said go ahead. However, that's only until I actually do it. Then, when she finds out, she's going to feed me my f*cking lunch in the courts. It's like a go ahead and do it, I dare you type of thing. She says it but never intends for me to actually do it, she's calling my bluff. Yes, I know, it shouldn't be a bluff but the courts don't look kindly on the guy going out and getting some on the side in a family situation. Women, who the f*ck cares as the family courts would see it but the guy, he'd better toe her line. It's so messed up, believe me, I've been through it once.

We cant threaten them we just do it. And you dont have to go out of your way for someone who doesnt do it for you.

 

[highSpeed]

My ex-wife and I tried for THREE YEARS to have a child. We fvcked, and fvcked, and fvcked.. To the point it became a chore. She finally got preggo. During the pregnancy she had a glow about her in a good way and it was the best 9 months of our entire 12 year relationship. We were closer than ever, taking vacations, and having a great time. Then our daughter was born. After that, she got post partim (sp) depression and down down down she went. The crash was catastrophic. Less than a year after our daughter was born, she divorced me. She kept telling me, her family, my family, friends etc. that "Things between Lefty and I haven't been right for 'YEARS'".. I said "OK, so why did you try to have a child for three years with a man you were so unhappy with?" No answer. Even her own mother said "Yeah (ex wife name), why is that? Lefty has a point.". That was in 2004. The answer never came out until about 2016 when she told my mother "I was really immature back with I divorced Lefty. If I had it to do again I would have handled myself more like an adult".

So there's my story on kids and the ex. I love my daughter but would I have had her if I would have known her mom was gonna divorce me. Absolutely not. Call me what you want for saying that, I will stand firm behind it.

Right there with you Lefty, believe me. It's like, ok, now I know I'm f*cked. I literally walk around every day on pins and needles, to the point where I don't want to be home anymore. I'm tired of being corrected in front of my kids, I don't want to interact with them anymore. It's like every day now is a f*cking grind, a chore when I should absolutely be having more fun than an adult man should be allowed to have. I'm not rich but I make solid bank and should be enjoying the f*ck out of myself but here I am stuck with an ahole who could care less about me, besides the paycheck I bring in.

 

[highSpeed]

We cant threaten them we just do it. And you dont have to go out of your way for someone who doesnt do it for you.

If I knew I wouldn't get busted, I'd be out there banging away in a second, believe me. It's the thought of getting caught that keeps me from doing it.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Right there with you Lefty, believe me. It's like, ok, now I know I'm f*cked. I literally walk around every day on pins and needles, to the point where I don't want to be home anymore. I'm tired of being corrected in front of my kids, I don't want to interact with them anymore. It's like every day now is a f*cking grind, a chore when I should absolutely be having more fun than an adult man should be allowed to have. I'm not rich but I make solid bank and should be enjoying the f*ck out of myself but here I am stuck with an ahole who could care less about me, besides the paycheck I bring in.

Im glad you realize that now. A-hole is an a-hole.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

If I knew I wouldn't get busted, I'd be out there banging away in a second, believe me. It's the thought of getting caught that keeps me from doing it.

Youll be fine. You might be lucky and find your a-hole wife jumps into gear due to the competition.

 

[highSpeed]

Youll be fine. You might be lucky and find your a-hole wife jumps into gear due to the competition.

I swear, I'd laugh my a$$ off if that was the case and would truly show what an immature, self centered, narcissistic a-hole she is.

 

[lamath]

Need to plan for a exit strategy man. Plan for the worst hope for the best.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

I swear, I'd laugh my a$$ off if that was the case and would truly show what an immature, self centered, narcissistic a-hole she is.

Be one. Might as well. Just make sure your kids are taken care of. Get a stable of females. Narcissist behaviors can get busted out. You have to do it to them. You learned loving it and supporting it doesnt work.

 

[highSpeed]

Be one. Might as well. Just make sure your kids are taken care of. Get a stable of females. Narcissist behaviors can get busted out. You have to do it to them. You learned loving it and supporting it doesnt work.

Definitely tired of the nonsense. Today was especially lovely, getting tougher and tougher to continue to be nice.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Definitely tired of the nonsense. Today was especially lovely, getting tougher and tougher to continue to be nice.

you can do it. Its easiest to do it with some male friends who are already in that scenario. Make sure to schedule your kids time and prioritize them.

 

[highSpeed]

you can do it. Its easiest to do it with some male friends who are already in that scenario. Make sure to schedule your kids time and prioritize them.

I'm not aware of any of the guys I know who are in that scenario. One of my friends, the lucky f*cker is probably just getting back from the bahamas with his wife. See, she knows how to treat her man. Mine, she went to bed long ago and I've literally hung out by myself all night. That was before I got threatened with counseling again.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

I'm not aware of any of the guys I know who are in that scenario. One of my friends, the lucky f*cker is probably just getting back from the bahamas with his wife. See, she knows how to treat her man. Mine, she went to bed long ago and I've literally hung out by myself all night. That was before I got threatened with counseling again.

Some single friends already in the game. Thats what youll need to start your bullshyt up. Just be mindful of the kids. Your wife is undeserving of your love and your time. Do it for you.

 

[Ranger]

My ex-wife and I tried for THREE YEARS to have a child. We fvcked, and fvcked, and fvcked.. To the point it became a chore. She finally got preggo. During the pregnancy she had a glow about her in a good way and it was the best 9 months of our entire 12 year relationship. We were closer than ever, taking vacations, and having a great time. Then our daughter was born. After that, she got post partim (sp) depression and down down down she went. The crash was catastrophic. Less than a year after our daughter was born, she divorced me. She kept telling me, her family, my family, friends etc. that "Things between Lefty and I haven't been right for 'YEARS'".. I said "OK, so why did you try to have a child for three years with a man you were so unhappy with?" No answer. Even her own mother said "Yeah (ex wife name), why is that? Lefty has a point.". That was in 2004. The answer never came out until about 2016 when she told my mother "I was really immature back with I divorced Lefty. If I had it to do again I would have handled myself more like an adult".

So there's my story on kids and the ex. I love my daughter but would I have had her if I would have known her mom was gonna divorce me. Absolutely not. Call me what you want for saying that, I will stand firm behind it.

Damn that’s a rough one. All along she didn’t actually want you.
It’s like those good times when she was pregnant and you were never closer was a lie. FVCK!!

 

[sazc]

@logicallefty post partum is no joke. I knew as soon as you said she divorced you less than a year after the kids was born, that she was acting based on depression, rather than in with her head on straight. I'm sure she has regrets. It sucks that you had to endure this.