Why they let go so easy

[NaturalSpirit]

So I've been with this girl, she was crazy for me , told me "you make me love you even more every day" and shvit like that, when I requested her for sex she was always available,texted me every day etc, all in all she was doing anything I like and she offered me gifts when I didn t even asked for them.

The thing is I dont even care about this girl because she is not what I really want when it comes to looks, and I told her we need to "broke up" (because she thought we were exclusive to each other), I did this and she starts crying a little but I wasn t fazed by this.

So, now that we done with each other, she acts like NOTHING ever happened , like all she was doing was a facade, no texting when all she was doing back then was texting me All day, going out with her friends , I mean I thought this girl was really into me but these actions of her showed me that girls really have no meaning in their actions or words.

Now I want to tell you guys that i don t care about all of this, I don t care anymore because I took my blows with other girls and I learned the hard way not to let any girl disrespect me and not getting fazed by most of the things girls do or say to me.

All of that but I am REALLY amazed how girls let go so easy, can anyone tell me how that works?
I mean, back then when I start dating, I've told you I learned the hard way and I was butthurt af.
There is any PSYHOLOGY behind this thinking? are girls brains more wired to letting go and not care that much ? Please someone explain this to me.

 

[zekko]

Obviously some girls get more attached than others, and some get attached to certain guys but not others.

But I read something a long time ago, long before I had ever heard of SoSuave. Can't even remember the source, but I've never read anything like that here or elsewhere. Not sure if it's true necessarily, but I've never forgotten it. I'm sure there is at least some truth in it. I don't remember exactly how they put it so I'm paraphrasing:

It said women have a lot of different loves in their life, and they are different types but they are all important to her. So there is a slot for her mother, a slot for her father, a slot for a sibling, a slot for friends, a slot for the pet, a slot for the boyfriend, etc. All of these positions are important to her, although one isn't necessarily any more important to her than another. Obviously you can't replace a parent, but if she loses one of the others, then she will mourn it, but as long as she can slide another person into that slot she'll be okay.

This is as opposed to men, who will usually place a great deal of importance on their girlfriend. But for a woman, the boyfriend is just one of many love slots in her life. If one drops out, she is supported by the other loves in her life until she fills that boyfriend slot again.

This is of course not the case if she gets especially attached to a dude (some call it alpha widowed).

 

[Spaz]

Obviously some girls get more attached than others, and some get attached to certain guys but not others.

But I read something a long time ago, long before I had ever heard of SoSuave. Can't even remember the source, but I've never read anything like that here or elsewhere. Not sure if it's true necessarily, but I've never forgotten it. I'm sure there is at least some truth in it. I don't remember exactly how they put it so I'm paraphrasing:

It said women have a lot of different loves in their life, and they are different types but they are all important to her. So there is a slot for her mother, a slot for her father, a slot for a sibling, a slot for friends, a slot for the pet, a slot for the boyfriend, etc. All of these positions are important to her, although one isn't necessarily any more important to her than another. Obviously you can't replace a parent, but if she loses one of the others, then she will mourn it, but as long as she can slide another person into that slot she'll be okay.

This is as opposed to men, who will usually place a great deal of importance on their girlfriend. But for a woman, the boyfriend is just one of many love slots in her life. If one drops out, she is supported by the other loves in her life until she fills that boyfriend slot again.

This is of course not the case if she gets especially attached to a dude (some call it alpha widowed).

I agree with this but in the opposite sense.

Men has slots in their brains, lets call them compartments, it's how we can laser focus on difficult tasks when needed, then close that door to open another to focus on something else, it's goes round and round in our brains when we need something to ponder or think. Like when we watch our sports channel, we are totally focused in that particular moment while a woman with you will linked it to some lovey dovey moment that you shared with her.

With women, it's all interconnected via feelings, the doors for each compartment is always opened and linked by "wires" (feelings). Which is why when discussing a point she somehow will raise a totally unrelated event that you might contributed negatively to tie it in the current discussion.

At least that's how I think women are that makes sense to me.

 

[kbbroiler1971]

Women get over break ups like its a sneeze. I know a married woman who was with her husband for over 20 years and they recently split. Do you know now she has a new man on her Facebook cover page. She never had her husband at all there but the new guy is there. This is why I can't take women seriously when they say they have feelings and so forth. They have feelings for the time being and that's it.

 

[AttackFormation]

Sample size: 1
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Generalization about: 3,5 billion

Turn your brain on for fvck sake... you don't care, but now you're making a forum post about how womens' brains are wired differently because this one girl moved on after you told her it was over? what the fvck?

 

[AJ84]

So I've been with this girl, she was crazy for me , told me "you make me love you even more every day" and shvit like that, when I requested her for sex she was always available,texted me every day etc, all in all she was doing anything I like and she offered me gifts when I didn t even asked for them.

The thing is I dont even care about this girl because she is not what I really want when it comes to looks, and I told her we need to "broke up" (because she thought we were exclusive to each other), I did this and she starts crying a little but I wasn t fazed by this.

So, now that we done with each other, she acts like NOTHING ever happened , like all she was doing was a facade, no texting when all she was doing back then was texting me All day, going out with her friends , I mean I thought this girl was really into me but these actions of her showed me that girls really have no meaning in their actions or words.

Now I want to tell you guys that i don t care about all of this, I don t care anymore because I took my blows with other girls and I learned the hard way not to let any girl disrespect me and not getting fazed by most of the things girls do or say to me.

All of that but I am REALLY amazed how girls let go so easy, can anyone tell me how that works?
I mean, back then when I start dating, I've told you I learned the hard way and I was butthurt af.
There is any PSYHOLOGY behind this thinking? are girls brains more wired to letting go and not care that much ? Please someone explain this to me.

Maybe she’s one of those girls who finds completely forgetting about exes and moving on is the best way to deal with a breakup, and it sounds like she is doing just that.

Some people handle break ups better than others.

And you didn’t care much for her anyway, so why care that she didn’t fall apart when you dumped her? What would you have gotten out of her crying or begging or stalking your social media or whatever it is you expected her to do when you discarded her?

 

[NaturalSpirit]

Sample size: 1
# of events: 1
Generalization about: 3,5 billion

Turn your brain on for fvck sake... you don't care, but now you're making a forum post about how womens' brains are wired differently because this one girl moved on after you told her it was over? what the fvck?

It is not just this particular case, here I just gave an example. It happened to me many times in the past.I know this is a common case. Yes , i don t care but it kinda makes me jelous, not jelous about her fvcking with other guys but jelous to this ability to let go so easy, you can say i am a pvssy or butthurt but it won t matter. I guess I need to embrace this and learn from it, maybe I need more experience but that is what I observed with the girls, I don t understand them yet.

 

[oldmanofthesea]

You dumped her, and you are now shocked that she just moved on and isn't desperately stalking you?

 

[NaturalSpirit]

You dumped her, and you are now shocked that she just moved on and isn't desperately stalking you?

Guys look, now ignore what you just read up there , the thread should have been : Does women handle break ups better then men ? Are they better at letting go then men?
I just wrote that to gave you an idea , to understand.

 

[AJ84]

It is not just this particular case, here I just gave an example. It happened to me many times in the past.I know this is a common case. Yes , i don t care but it kinda makes me jelous, not jelous about her fvcking with other guys but jelous to this ability to let go so easy, you can say i am a pvssy or butthurt but it won t matter. I guess I need to embrace this and learn from it, maybe I need more experience but that is what I observed with the girls, I don t understand them yet.

So it’s the fact that she can let go so easily which is something that you have struggled with before is that it?

I can understand from that perspective, if you want to work on that part of yourself, and you see someone who seems to do it with ease.

You don’t know that she isn’t hurting though. She may be, but is choosing to move on as you did break up with her and that’s pretty final right?

So for you, if a girl breaks up with you perhaps see it as final and close that chapter and move on. I mean when someone says it’s over, they are saying that they don’t want you, that you are not worth it to them. That’s impactful. There doesn’t seem to be a good reason to try to change someone’s mind or wallow for too long in those circumstances.

So the healthiest move is to cut contact, allow yourself to feel the sadness, then close the chapter and move on.

Spaz mentioned in another post that going through the ups and downs like that makes you stronger (something to that effect) and that’s very true.

 

[Music_czar]

Guys look, now ignore what you just read up there , the thread should have been : Does women handle break ups better then men ? Are they better at letting go then men?
I just wrote that to gave you an idea , to understand.

Of course they do. If you had a gazillion girls trying to kiss your a$$, take you out, and fvck you even before you broke up with your girlfriend you would get over your ex easily too.

Women have vastly more options than men, usually without trying hard at all. All it takes is a few sexy pics on instagram or snapchat and bam they have a dozen betas willing to take em out for dinner and two dozen alphas willing to treat em like slvts - which is all a woman wants sometimes.

If you had these kinds of options you’d get over breakups pretty damn quickly.

Men generally don’t have these kinds of options unless they work really hard at it, and even then they go through rough patches that can be hard to get out of. Men tend to focus on a gf much more than a gf focuses on her bf, she often has a much larger social circle with plenty of people to fall back on for support/dates/new c0ck.

 

[guru1000]

They're players and they know how to play "brand new" to every guy to get what they want (validation).

You mean calibrate. The horror!

 

[sazc]

So I've been with this girl, she was crazy for me , told me "you make me love you even more every day" and shvit like that, when I requested her for sex she was always available,texted me every day etc, all in all she was doing anything I like and she offered me gifts when I didn t even asked for them.

The thing is I dont even care about this girl because she is not what I really want when it comes to looks, and I told her we need to "broke up" (because she thought we were exclusive to each other), I did this and she starts crying a little but I wasn t fazed by this.

So, now that we done with each other, she acts like NOTHING ever happened , like all she was doing was a facade, no texting when all she was doing back then was texting me All day, going out with her friends , I mean I thought this girl was really into me but these actions of her showed me that girls really have no meaning in their actions or words.

Now I want to tell you guys that i don t care about all of this, I don t care anymore because I took my blows with other girls and I learned the hard way not to let any girl disrespect me and not getting fazed by most of the things girls do or say to me.

All of that but I am REALLY amazed how girls let go so easy, can anyone tell me how that works?
I mean, back then when I start dating, I've told you I learned the hard way and I was butthurt af.
There is any PSYHOLOGY behind this thinking? are girls brains more wired to letting go and not care that much ? Please someone explain this to me.

So you told her you wanted to break up with her because you weren't feeling it, she's goes cold on your a$$, and now you are here butthurt and complaining because "how could she lose feelings for you that quickly?"

She did the right thing. You said you weren't interested in her and she MOVED ON. That's what people are supposed to do.

You're bagging on her for not wasting her time and energy swooning over someone who doesn't want her? Get over yourself!

 

[lamath]

So I've been with this girl, she was crazy for me , told me "you make me love you even more every day" and shvit like that, when I requested her for sex she was always available,texted me every day etc, all in all she was doing anything I like and she offered me gifts when I didn t even asked for them.

The thing is I dont even care about this girl because she is not what I really want when it comes to looks, and I told her we need to "broke up" (because she thought we were exclusive to each other), I did this and she starts crying a little but I wasn t fazed by this.

So, now that we done with each other, she acts like NOTHING ever happened , like all she was doing was a facade, no texting when all she was doing back then was texting me All day, going out with her friends , I mean I thought this girl was really into me but these actions of her showed me that girls really have no meaning in their actions or words.

Now I want to tell you guys that i don t care about all of this, I don t care anymore because I took my blows with other girls and I learned the hard way not to let any girl disrespect me and not getting fazed by most of the things girls do or say to me.

All of that but I am REALLY amazed how girls let go so easy, can anyone tell me how that works?
I mean, back then when I start dating, I've told you I learned the hard way and I was butthurt af.
There is any PSYHOLOGY behind this thinking? are girls brains more wired to letting go and not care that much ? Please someone explain this to me.

I cant see anything negative with this

No Drama, i wish all women were like that

 

[guru1000]

No, not at all, unless you think love bombing is calibration and you want to calibrate to that tactic.

All your behavior is calibrated. You respond to your boss or employee in a different way than you would to your mother.

Lose the illusion already. It’s obviously not serving you.

 

[sazc]

I cant see anything negative with this

No Drama, i wish all women were like that

Exactly. She sounds like a heathy human being to me.

But no, everything is a double standard here. She moves on because he TOLD HER he doesn't want her and instead of feeling settled with HIS decision, and the ease of all of it, he's butthurt that she's not chasing him and everyone else is screaming hypergamy or c0ck carosel or bpd to make him feel better.

Srsly?!

 

[sazc]

He detected that her interest level was totally fake and it was. If he hadn't played aloof you would have shamed them for falling for the track and being naive

WTF played aloof? WTF detected her IL was fake. You're making things up, as usual.

The thing is I dont even care about this girl because she is not what I really want when it comes to looks, and I told her we need to "broke up" (because she thought we were exclusive to each other), I did this and she starts crying a little but I wasn t fazed by this.

So, now that we done with each other, she acts like NOTHING ever happened , like all she was doing was a facade, no texting when all she was doing back then was texting me All day, going out with her friends , I mean I thought this girl was really into me.

@LARaiders85 proving once again that you have some serious READING COMPREHENSION issues

 

[sazc]

Sacz were her professions of love authentic or not?

I don't know, and neither do you.

 

[logicallefty]

@sazc You have been getting a little testy in this thread. Do you need a break from SoSuave? Might do you good!

 

[sazc]

@sazc You have been getting a little testy in this thread. Do you need a break from SoSuave? Might do you good!

If you really feel that way and want to put me on a time out, that's your call