Behavior after she blew you off

[Bible_Belt]

Thread title would be much better without the word "off."

 

[R.U.G.]

You walk. No ifs ands or buts. Lose her #.

 

[The Duke]

Corey Wayne is right, this girls behavior changed after our fourth date and her behavior went cold.

I chased a little bit, but then backed off completely. We saw each other in gym class and she was distant.

I see her this past week in gym (after no texting each other for five weeks) and she was friendly. I didn't act bothered by the fact that she went cold.

Last night she noticed i wasn't at gym and texted me class was good.

As Corey Wayne states: She is putting yourself in your orbit and you must set up a date.

So, we will probably be hanging out next week sometime.

My gut tells me, an ex bf or another guy(s) was back in the picture and its not working out, so she had me in her back burner and reached out.

I am 42 and she is 23

Have some self respect. Last time I went 4 dates with no sex I told her after thrusting her up against the wall with her top off and pants half way down that I wasn't waiting around anymore. Let her know that sex is happening if there is going to be a 5th date.

ps. I snagged a 21yo a few weeks ago. Shot down her cahk blocking friends. Took her home and rocked that little girls world. I haven't spent a dime on her yet. She comes over for drinks, dancing in my living room, and sex. No dates needed with this one.

 

[Knight of Roses]

I think it's this. She probably expected sex within the first 1-3 dates. When you didn't pull it off, she gave you the benefit of the doubt by going on an extra 4th date as a last chance. You didn't do it then, so she figured why should she waste her time with a guy who won't fvck her and just wants to waste time, started talking to her other guys and mentally disengaged from you. She doesn't care that you're "nice" now... she cares that you lead her to nowhere.

I've had girls act quite interested and then blow me off and show their resentment/avoidance of me, but they never agreed to go on one date in the first place let alone several.

Can you explain what you mean by the last paragraph? Seems I’m in a situation where the secretary at work grinded on me during holiday party and we even kissed afterwards, but has blown me off when I’ve texted her for a date. Is this common behavior in your experience?

 

[oc16]

Have some self respect. Last time I went 4 dates with no sex I told her after thrusting her up against the wall with her top off and pants half way down that I wasn't waiting around anymore. Let her know that sex is happening if there is going to be a 5th date.

ps. I snagged a 21yo a few weeks ago. Shot down her cahk blocking friends. Took her home and rocked that little girls world. I haven't spent a dime on her yet. She comes over for drinks, dancing in my living room, and sex. No dates needed with this one.

And you are 41? Nice! Same age around me...

Yes, no sex with this girl yet, just a little tittie action

 

[AttackFormation]

Can you explain what you mean by the last paragraph? Seems I’m in a situation where the secretary at work grinded on me during holiday party and we even kissed afterwards, but has blown me off when I’ve texted her for a date. Is this common behavior in your experience?

That was different from my own anecdote I had in mind when I wrote that post. In your case I assume she was drinking, which will lead girls to do things they wouldn't do otherwise.

 

[AJ84]

And you are 41? Nice! Same age around me...

Yes, no sex with this girl yet, just a little tittie action

So, you’re ok with being her second choice or back up option?

This is the 23yr old girl who dropped you after four dates right? She sent you a bland text about the class being good and you think she stopped contact with you because she got back with an ex or something and now she’s no longer with him. So it’s good that she’s texting you after giving you the cold shoulder? No, think more of yourself dude.

If you want to feel good about being an older man dating younger women, don’t put yourself into an older man orbiter role because a 41yr old orbiting a 23yr old is more pathetic than a 23yr old orbiting another 23yr old.

Part of being an older man attracting younger women is having the confidence and self assurance that much younger men don’t have. You will not do yourself any favours being a second option to a 23yr woman with oodles of options. She won’t respect you and you won’t respect yourself for allowing that to happen.

I bet you can do better than that. Don’t waste time on this girl, find another young one with more interest.

 

[oc16]

So, you’re ok with being her second choice or back up option?

This is the 23yr old girl who dropped you after four dates right? She sent you a bland text about the class being good and you think she stopped contact with you because she got back with an ex or something and now she’s no longer with him. So it’s good that she’s texting you after giving you the cold shoulder? No, think more of yourself dude.

If you want to feel good about being an older man dating younger women, don’t put yourself into an older man orbiter role because a 41yr old orbiting a 23yr old is more pathetic than a 23yr old orbiting another 23yr old.

Part of being an older man attracting younger women is having the confidence and self assurance that much younger men don’t have. You will not do yourself any favours being a second option to a 23yr woman with oodles of options. She won’t respect you and you won’t respect yourself for allowing that to happen.

I bet you can do better than that. Don’t waste time on this girl, find another young one with more interest.

She went cold on me but never officially ended it.

If i can get some action out of it, why not??

And how am I being an orbiter if I am not chasing?

 

[R.U.G.]

Have some self respect. Last time I went 4 dates with no sex I told her after thrusting her up against the wall with her top off and pants half way down that I wasn't waiting around anymore. Let her know that sex is happening if there is going to be a 5th date.

ps. I snagged a 21yo a few weeks ago. Shot down her cahk blocking friends. Took her home and rocked that little girls world. I haven't spent a dime on her yet. She comes over for drinks, dancing in my living room, and sex. No dates needed with this one.

Ever her of #metoo?

 

[Spaz]

Corey Wayne is right, this girls behavior changed after our fourth date and her behavior went cold.

I chased a little bit, but then backed off completely. We saw each other in gym class and she was distant.

I see her this past week in gym (after no texting each other for five weeks) and she was friendly. I didn't act bothered by the fact that she went cold.

Last night she noticed i wasn't at gym and texted me class was good.

As Corey Wayne states: She is putting yourself in your orbit and you must set up a date.

So, we will probably be hanging out next week sometime.

My gut tells me, an ex bf or another guy(s) was back in the picture and its not working out, so she had me in her back burner and reached out.

I am 42 and she is 23

Orbiter status - the forever beta male.

 

[oc16]

Orbiter status - the forever beta male.

Whatever bruh.

 

[lamath]

Whatever bruh.

i dont think thats you but the Corey Wayne reference.

 

[Spaz]

Whatever bruh.

CW sells enough truths with enough lies to keep you coming back.

 

[Glassguy]

CW sells enough truths with enough lies to keep you coming back.

CW is a beta. Plain and simple.

He is a relationship chaser. It never works long term. IDC if you read his books 20000 times, it will fail you.

You get the girl interested by leading and holding frame, as long as she is attracted to you and you make her wet thinking about you.

You then start smashing her. You keep smashing her. Then you smash her some more. Take her out every now and then and then smash her. When she brings up the relationship talk you at least push away from it a couple of times, not forgetting to smash her again.

It never changes. You keep smashing these chicks and you slowly give them a little more of the pie through way of crumbs. Too many dudes give them the entire pie before they even start hitting it.

When you get a woman addicted to you (love) through the above process, nothing changes. You maintain your frame and she will continue to chase. You are in control.

Alpha Male Strategies is much more on point than CW. Yeah the guy is probably a little too direct for what works with my personality but its the same once you peel back the layers of the onion.

AMS will get you laid with women who find you sexually attractive.

CW will get you friend zoned in a second.

 

[Murk]

CW is a beta. Plain and simple.

He is a relationship chaser. It never works long term. IDC if you read his books 20000 times, it will fail you.

You get the girl interested by leading and holding frame, as long as she is attracted to you and you make her wet thinking about you.

You then start smashing her. You keep smashing her. Then you smash her some more. Take her out every now and then and then smash her. When she brings up the relationship talk you at least push away from it a couple of times, not forgetting to smash her again.

It never changes. You keep smashing these chicks and you slowly give them a little more of the pie through way of crumbs. Too many dudes give them the entire pie before they even start hitting it.

When you get a woman addicted to you (love) through the above process, nothing changes. You maintain your frame and she will continue to chase. You are in control.

Alpha Male Strategies is much more on point than CW. Yeah the guy is probably a little too direct for what works with my personality but its the same once you peel back the layers of the onion.

AMS will get you laid with women who find you sexually attractive.

CW will get you friend zoned in a second.

I need help, I don’t give them all the pie before smash. I smash very quickly, I’m good at bypassing defences, then it snowballs into relationship too fast with women I simply want to smash.

What’s your advice on maintaining distance while smashing? I am a people pleaser, I say yes too much, I’m emotional and affectionate, I’m unwillingly hooking girls that I need at arms length and I don’t know how to stop this weak behaviour.

Just simply withdraw?

 

[Glassguy]

I need help, I don’t give them all the pie before smash. I smash very quickly, I’m good at bypassing defences, then it snowballs into relationship too fast with women I simply want to smash.

What’s your advice on maintaining distance while smashing? I am a people pleaser, I say yes too much, I’m emotional and affectionate, I’m unwillingly hooking girls that I need at arms length and I don’t know how to stop this weak behaviour.

Just simply withdraw?

There are many ways that you can do it depending on your personality. What works for me may not work for you.

What I have success with is this:

1.) I tell them early on that although I am open to a relationship, I am not someone who jumps into something quickly. After a month or two when they bring up "what are we" I remind them of that. I simply tell them that I want to continue seeing them and see where things go.

2.) A common thing that I get asked when I first start seeing a new chick is "how are you still single". My answer to that is simple. I just tell them that I just got back on the dating scene and I want to date, have fun and explore my options.

3.) I used to be somewhat of a people pleaser. Now I do what is best for me. There is a major difference in the two mentalities and the vibe you put off.

You have to begin with the end in mind. You have to know that if you are perceived as attractive, a catch, someone that will be chases, eventually any woman worth your time will be wanting to nail you down. The key is to hold strong to the frame you set in the beginning (1-3 above) and fall back on that when you need to.

With that being said, even I am prone to a relationship every now and then and I really wouldnt mind a healthy relationship with the right person. On the other hand I like being promiscuous to a certain point because I know what an abundance mindset and spinning multiple plates gets me. So at the end of the day a woman must have not only a great personality and be very attractive to me sexually to break me of "spinning plates". And even at that, I normally keep several close at hand "just in case".

 

[Spaz]

CW is a beta. Plain and simple.

He is a relationship chaser. It never works long term. IDC if you read his books 20000 times, it will fail you.

You get the girl interested by leading and holding frame, as long as she is attracted to you and you make her wet thinking about you.

You then start smashing her. You keep smashing her. Then you smash her some more. Take her out every now and then and then smash her. When she brings up the relationship talk you at least push away from it a couple of times, not forgetting to smash her again.

It never changes. You keep smashing these chicks and you slowly give them a little more of the pie through way of crumbs. Too many dudes give them the entire pie before they even start hitting it.

When you get a woman addicted to you (love) through the above process, nothing changes. You maintain your frame and she will continue to chase. You are in control.

Alpha Male Strategies is much more on point than CW. Yeah the guy is probably a little too direct for what works with my personality but its the same once you peel back the layers of the onion.

AMS will get you laid with women who find you sexually attractive.

CW will get you friend zoned in a second.

Agreed.

CW is just a fvcking salesman who gets gullible men to become stupid orbiters.

 

[oc16]

Do i take this girl out on a proper date or just invite her over?

 

[Glassguy]

Agreed.

CW is just a fvcking salesman who gets gullible men to become stupid orbiters.

I totally agree.

Dont forget where CW's roots are......he got into this from helping men "get their ex gfs back" which is beta altogether.

 

[kbbroiler1971]

My advice is who cares what she thinks and you don't act bitter. What you do is not pay attention to her and talk to other women. This is not to make her jealous though as it might seem too. What you are doing is this. She didn't like ok bye see ya and moving on the other prospects. If you miss a bus, do you wonder why you missed a bus? Probably not. You just missed a bus. Think of women like buses and you will be fine.