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this girl liked me today - she's exactly my type physically but her profile is so weird


"420 friendly
Do not msg me if your just looking to chat not here for pen pals I’m here to meet so if your not capable of planning a date don’t msg me
I DONT DRINK looking for someone different then the rest let’s go get facials together let’s smoke a blunt not looking for boring guys that just want to grab dinner be creative and stand out from the rest

Instagram- miss_bugadi "



is this even worth messaging? Sounds like an annoying *****


What do you guys say once you're matched with a girl? Just have normal conversation? I feel like anything I want to say sounds so boring. I don't have a creative imagination
 

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Are you planning on getting high with her and making pot part of your life?
 

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Are you planning on getting high with her and making pot part of your life?
I smoke once in a while but not really

holy ****ing god it is hard to find women on there who are classy, normal, not hippies, not weird vegan bitches, not trashy *****s, not single moms or chubby, etc...
 

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I smoke once in a while but not really

holy ****ing god it is hard to find women on there who are classy, normal, not hippies, not weird vegan bitches, not trashy *****s, not single moms or chubby, etc...
Welcome to online dating!

On my end they tend to be high school educated, single dad's, who are, financial zeros, can't drive a conversation to save their lives, and don't know what a gym is...and they all believe that are the SH1T !!

It ain't pretty online and I don't think you are built for it
 

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Welcome to online dating!

On my end they tend to be high school educated, single dad's, who are, financial zeros, can't drive a conversation to save their lives, and don't know what a gym is...and they all believe that are the SH1T !!

It ain't pretty online and I don't think you are built for it
If you use it as a complement instead of relying on it, its not as bad

why can't I get anybody to read my messages? I'm ok if they read it but ignore it but all my messges are still undelivered status showing
 

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If you use it as a complement instead of relying on it, its not as bad

why can't I get anybody to read my messages? I'm ok if they read it but ignore it but all my messges are still undelivered status showing
I'm not sure you're ready for the anxiety that OLD brings.

Why haven't they read your messages?

maybe they don't check their account anymore? Maybe they only check their account once a week? Maybe they only check their account once a day? Maybe they're so busy with their families on the holiday they're not checking their online dating?

There's one of a thousand reasons they aren't reading your message, you need to not care and move on. These are strangers, they don't know you. Ehat they do, or don't do, shouldn't impact you.
 

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I'm not sure you're ready for the anxiety that OLD brings.

Why haven't they read your messages?

maybe they don't check their account anymore? Maybe they only check their account once a week? Maybe they only check their account once a day? Maybe they're so busy with their families on the holiday they're not checking their online dating?

There's one of a thousand reasons they aren't reading your message, you need to not care and move on. These are strangers, they don't know you. Ehat they do, or don't do, shouldn't impact you.
literally none of my messages are read

i understand if they read the messages but don't like me, that's fine but none of them are even read
 

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Because your one of the 350 ++ likes she randomly put out there. That's why she even responded to you.
 

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OLD is not for people who have anxiety issues
 

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this girl liked me today - she's exactly my type physically but her profile is so weird


"420 friendly
Do not msg me if your just looking to chat not here for pen pals I’m here to meet so if your not capable of planning a date don’t msg me
I DONT DRINK looking for someone different then the rest let’s go get facials together let’s smoke a blunt not looking for boring guys that just want to grab dinner be creative and stand out from the rest

Instagram- miss_bugadi "



is this even worth messaging? Sounds like an annoying *****


What do you guys say once you're matched with a girl? Just have normal conversation? I feel like anything I want to say sounds so boring. I don't have a creative imagination
You're going to run across several girls who you're attracted to but may not match your lifestyle. You should ask yourself if you're willing to compromise or if you should move on. This one should've been an easy no unless you're willing to blaze up with her.

As for no one reading your messages, don't sweat it. Like Sazc stated, there are numerous reasons they won't read or reply. If you let these things get to you, you'll end up anxious or miserable. Play the numbers game, message when you have some free time and keep an eye on it but don't let it rule you. It's good you're finally trying out OLD now calm down and keep at it.
 

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If you want 8's & 9's, it would be optimal using a photo that ranks 90%+ in attraction and 70%+ in the other features.
This is true. Guru has 99% attractiveness and 90%+ trust/intelligence on all his pics. This is why he gets all the 8s and 9s of all ages.

Dave, as long as this guy Guru is in the picture, he's going to steal all your women. It's time to eliminate him.
 

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This is true. Guru has 99% attractiveness and 90%+ trust/intelligence on all his pics. This is why he gets all the 8s and 9s of all ages.

Dave, as long as this guy Guru is in the picture, he's going to steal all your women. It's time to eliminate him.
where do 8s and 9s even exist on dating sites? i think hottest female I've seen is a 7.5
 

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Don't make me post pics of my 10s again. Don't make me do it to you.

24 yo model is awaiting. Have a good night
 

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Don't make me post pics of my 10s again. Don't make me do it to you.

24 yo model is awaiting. Have a good night

is this just a NYC thing? I live 45 minutes from Chicago and the hottest I've seen online is maybe a 7.5
 

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I finally got a couple conversations going - no surprise, both are brown girls, which I'm totally cool with

One is really cute but I'm afraid she's muslim
other one is christian but she's not that cute
 
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