Recent Short Term, now Ex, wants to "talk"

[FMCSMT]

We only dated a few weeks. Ghosted her for low interest on her end and then she disrespected me on Friday I think it was when I texted her she responded "who is this".

Anyway, deleted her info and blocked her right away and she has been coming through Facebook messenger the entire time, wants me to explain, doesn't want to cry any more, blamed me for ruining her night, and wants to know what she did to deserve this...on and on...cry me a river, right?

I have not responded...

She is now asking to talk after work today...

What would you guys do? Continue no contact? Talk to her?

She's hot, good career, has a kid, her own place, you know the things that should come standard but don't usually, seems legit but low interest in me and I've already not talked to her for days on end in those weeks.

I am better looking than other dudes she's been with, better positioned in life too. I've been with many over the last few years and this one is not jumping my bones like the others have and I have had hotter than her.

Surely some of you have got the message "I want to talk" and curious how you handled it?

 

[sosousage]

she was low IL because she thought of u as inferior

 

[Billtx49]

Ghosted her for low interest on her end

and then she disrespected me on Friday

seems legit but low interest in me

this one is not jumping my bones like the others have

I have had hotter than her.

Given your above statements, what is there in it for you if you talk to her ?

 

[Dr.Suave]

I wouldn´t talk to her.

 

[FMCSMT]

Given your above statements, what is there in it for you if you talk to her ?

Nothing in it for me.

She will probably show up at my house tonight or tomorrow if I do not respond...

 

[FMCSMT]

Would you say anything at all? Or just continue ghost

 

[lamath]

Then meet her but make it direct and short.

 

[Billtx49]

Would you say anything at all? Or just continue ghost

If she shows up at your place, listen to what she has to say. Do not get into an involved discussion if you don’t like what she offers to say.
If you don’t like what she’s mouthing, cut it off with an I’ll consider it, or nice to know your thoughts response and say goodnight.

 

[soulforge]

Let me get this right.. Low IL, and to make matters worse, she disrespects you?

What is there to talk about.

Are you gona sit her down and explain to her like a child, how it isn't a good thing to disrespect people.

When a chick has low IL in you, she will never hesitate to disrespect you, simply because she doesn't care enough about your feelings.

Plus she is likely to dump your ass at some point for a dude she rates HIGHER

I would save yourself from future drama and Mind fuks, by remaining NC and walking the fuk away bruv

 

[lamath]

So she's crazy too?

You see how clueless i am did not make the association.

 

[Billtx49]

You see how clueless i am did not make the association.

Crazy or agressive AW were my first thoughts if she does get in his face unannounced at his place…

 

[lamath]

Crazy or agressive AW were my first thoughts if she does get in his face unannounced at his place…

Probably the first time she gets treated like the aw that she is and cant handle it

 

[BeExcellent]

Advice from the old lady:

People who do drivebys or show up unannounced at your place are psycho stalkers, a rather scary variety of nut job. Do you think she is going to do that - really?

I agree with @Mauser96 on his assessment 100%.

But I'm truly curious @FMCSMT about something. Why are you considering seeing her, allowing her back in contact or talking to her?

Serious question. I'm genuinely curious.

 

[MatureDJ]

We only dated a few weeks. Ghosted her for low interest on her end and then she disrespected me on Friday I think it was when I texted her she responded "who is this".

Anyway, deleted her info and blocked her right away and she has been coming through Facebook messenger the entire time, wants me to explain, doesn't want to cry any more, blamed me for ruining her night, and wants to know what she did to deserve this...on and on...cry me a river, right?

I have not responded...

She is now asking to talk after work today...

What would you guys do? Continue no contact? Talk to her?

She's hot, good career, has a kid, her own place, you know the things that should come standard but don't usually, seems legit but low interest in me and I've already not talked to her for days on end in those weeks.

I am better looking than other dudes she's been with, better positioned in life too. I've been with many over the last few years and this one is not jumping my bones like the others have and I have had hotter than her.

Surely some of you have got the message "I want to talk" and curious how you handled it?

I don't see a problem with talking to her. She is probably going to ask why you quit pursuing her, to which you can respond with "I don't know; I guess I had other stuff going on, and it just slipped my mind". You can firmly be the pursuee for now on, as you've already made the move to next her.

 

[Glassguy]

When she responded "who is this" and then later wanted to talk, I would have said "Sorry, I am meeting someone later and I will be busy". Then I would have blocked her.
If she showed up at my door I would not talk to her.

She had low interest but wanted to keep you around for a safety net or backup plan because she wants someone around and doesnt want to be alone. The problem is, you're the guy that is going to get dropped again when she finds a better option.

Maybe the new option she had didnt quite work out, so she wants to know that you're there just in case. Women do this for validation from their ex so their self esteem stays high when going through a transitional period between men. This way if the new guy ditches her, she still gets attention from you to get her by until she lines up another one.

When its over, its over. I dont know why any man would waste 5 seconds on a failed relationship when there are millions of other women out there. Its much easier to start with a blank canvas instead of trying to repair a botched one.