Thoughts on women in general - related to my last thread

[djthiago1]

In relation to my last thread about my breakup ( https://www.sosuave.net/forum/threads/just-broke-up-a-few-hours-ago.253194/ )

I've been with a few dozen women but i've only had 3 LTRs, and only my last one was the only i would consider a good relationship, i was treated like a king, she was thoughtful, caring, and never nagged.
This was the first girl i've seen with these traits and i cant help but think that these traits are extremelly rare and that i wont find it again anytime soon, but i know i'm young and havent had many relationships.

So, you guys that are more experienced and had thousands of girlfriends and dates, illuminate me.

 

[djthiago1]

The better and more pleasant the girlfriend the more disloyal ime. Ho vs B1tch dichotomy.

Well that doesnt make much sense.

 

[djthiago1]

Sure it does. Nicer women with better personalities are more attractive, have more experience, and are better seducers. Think of extroverted types of people. Your relationship will be absolute bliss but she is looking for greener grass always

Makes sense, still doesnt mean we should be looking for a btch.

 

[jaymbrs]

One of my exes stands out like yours. Treated me like a king, bought me stuff, let me invite my friends to her nice place whenever, let me drive her car on the weekends while she was working, etc. I look closer and recall she was 1. divorced (happened after her lipo suction), 2. she left her boyfriend for me, 3. married the guy she hooked up with days after her and I ended it. I'm so glad I had all this information. There's very little doubt she would cheat on her new husband with me if I really tried to make it happen. I wouldn't do that though.

Just food for thought. Not everything is how it seems.

 

[djthiago1]

One of my exes stands out like yours. Treated me like a king, bought me stuff, let me invite my friends to her nice place whenever, let me drive her car on the weekends while she was working, etc. I look closer and recall she was 1. divorced (happened after her lipo suction), 2. she left her boyfriend for me, 3. married the guy she hooked up with days after her and I ended it. I'm so glad I had all this information. There's very little doubt she would cheat on her new husband with me if I really tried to make it happen. I wouldn't do that though.

Just food for thought. Not everything is how it seems.

Thats interesting. I'm more of having trouble believing i'll find a nice girl again anytime soon.

 

[sangheilios]

Thats interesting. I'm more of having trouble believing i'll find a nice girl again anytime soon.

Legitimately nice girls that are attractive and don't have any issues do exist but generally aren't single, and the ones that are will not be for very long. I know this sounds cliche, but you just need to keep looking. I won't sugar coat it though, you can go a long time without finding anything.

For me I look for a girl that is relatively on par with me, attractive, likes to stay active and exercise, takes care of herself, no drugs or smoking, doesn't drink beyond a social level, no kids, is educated and/or somewhat intelligent, has her own hobbies, life and friends and doesn't have any behavior or mental health issues. Pretty basic standards, but very few women actually meet them. With 2/3 of America overweight or obese that in itself is an issue lol.

 

[Glassguy]

these traits are extremelly rare and that i wont find it again anytime soon

I'm more of having trouble believing i'll find a nice girl again anytime soon

1.) Not the attitude to have. It will reek with women you hit up.

2.) You could find a better chick tomorrow for all you know. But you wont until you have a better attitude.

Look man- I have had 2 really hard break ups and a divorce. So take it from me that I understand that it sucks but I also understand that the doom and gloom will make your situation worse.

Its YOUR life and your choice on how you see this world we live in. Positive thinking is attractive, pessimism is not.

So what if you dont find someone better than her for 6 months? Or a year? Or two years? Who cares. You still do YOU and you still do what makes YOU happy. Build upon yourself as it is the strongest foundation for YOU.

A strong framed man doesnt need a girl to make him a person that enjoys life because he is doing what makes him happy with or without a chick.


Cold hard truth- Snap out of it! Go get laid!

 

[djthiago1]

1.) Not the attitude to have. It will reek with women you hit up.

2.) You could find a better chick tomorrow for all you know. But you wont until you have a better attitude.

Look man- I have had 2 really hard break ups and a divorce. So take it from me that I understand that it sucks but I also understand that the doom and gloom will make your situation worse.

Its YOUR life and your choice on how you see this world we live in. Positive thinking is attractive, pessimism is not.

So what if you dont find someone better than her for 6 months? Or a year? Or two years? Who cares. You still do YOU and you still do what makes YOU happy. Build upon yourself as it is the strongest foundation for YOU.

A strong framed man doesnt need a girl to make him a person that enjoys life because he is doing what makes him happy with or without a chick.


Cold hard truth- Snap out of it! Go get laid!

Dont worry, im good at hiding bad vibes.

Thanks for the advices.

Legitimately nice girls that are attractive and don't have any issues do exist but generally aren't single, and the ones that are will not be for very long. I know this sounds cliche, but you just need to keep looking. I won't sugar coat it though, you can go a long time without finding anything.

For me I look for a girl that is relatively on par with me, attractive, likes to stay active and exercise, takes care of herself, no drugs or smoking, doesn't drink beyond a social level, no kids, is educated and/or somewhat intelligent, has her own hobbies, life and friends and doesn't have any behavior or mental health issues. Pretty basic standards, but very few women actually meet them. With 2/3 of America overweight or obese that in itself is an issue lol.

Well that sucks, thanks for being sincere.

 

[DEEZEDBRAH]

In relation to my last thread about my breakup ( https://www.sosuave.net/forum/threads/just-broke-up-a-few-hours-ago.253194/ )

I've been with a few dozen women but i've only had 3 LTRs, and only my last one was the only i would consider a good relationship, i was treated like a king, she was thoughtful, caring, and never nagged.
This was the first girl i've seen with these traits and i cant help but think that these traits are extremelly rare and that i wont find it again anytime soon, but i know i'm young and havent had many relationships.

So, you guys that are more experienced and had thousands of girlfriends and dates, illuminate me.

It's all ****ery. Women during best years want to be single. As she falls off, it's baby fever time.

Continue to smash. Leave feelers and emotions to women and children.

 

[Roober]

There are plenty of good women out there. It's just a matter of putting yourself in a place to court them, then maintaining the image you project to them.

The key is learning from the past and not bringing those issues into your new relations with women.

 

[djthiago1]

There are plenty of good women out there. It's just a matter of putting yourself in a place to court them, then maintaining the image you project to them.

The key is learning from the past and not bringing those issues into your new relations with women.

I'm aware, i try my best not to get bitter nor hate women.

 

[zekko]

The better and more pleasant the girlfriend the more disloyal ime. Ho vs B1tch dichotomy.

I don't really agree that a pleasant girlfriend has to be disloyal. My girlfriend probably has the most pleasant personality I've ever encountered (at least what I find pleasant), and we've been together 15 years now. She's never been disloyal that I'm aware of.

I do agree that there is a Ho vs B!tch dichotomy, women seem to lean toward one end of the spectrum or the other, although I'm sure there are b!tchy wh0res out there. There is also something to the idea that the best girlfriends will have more options, and tend to go quickly. I find it hard to see a disloyal woman as a viable girlfriend though, since loyalty is one of the top traits that I value in a LTR.

I'll also take exception to your assertion that extroverts are more pleasant to be around. Some can be. I tend to like women who fall more on the quieter side. I am a strong introvert myself, but I was extremely social back in my 20s. After I had proven to myself whatever it was I was trying to prove, I've cut back, because I realize I am happier with more solitude. There's a balance that needs to be found.

 

[djthiago1]

I don't really agree that a pleasant girlfriend has to be disloyal. My girlfriend probably has the most pleasant personality I've ever encountered (at least what I find pleasant), and we've been together 15 years now. She's never been disloyal that I'm aware of.

I do agree that there is a Ho vs B!tch dichotomy, women seem to lean toward one end of the spectrum or the other, although I'm sure there are b!tchy wh0res out there. There is also something to the idea that the best girlfriends will have more options, and tend to go quickly. I find it hard to see a disloyal woman as a viable girlfriend though, since loyalty is one of the top traits that I value in a LTR.

I'll also take exception to your assertion that extroverts are more pleasant to be around. Some can be. I tend to like women who fall more on the quieter side. I am a strong introvert myself, but I was extremely social back in my 20s. After I had proven to myself whatever it was I was trying to prove, I've cut back, because I realize I am happier with more solitude. There's a balance that needs to be found.

I usually go for introverted girls too.

Cool how you've been together for 15 years. That requires some serious skills.

 

[zekko]

Cool how you've been together for 15 years. That requires some serious skills.

Or luck. It's as much (or more) on her as anything I've done. Her being who she is has made it easy (very easy going, affectionate). But I also realize every day that it could end tomorrow. Some couples break up after 50 years. There is no point where you can let your guard down and say "Okay, we've got it made now".

 

[Spaz]

The trick with LTR's is just 2;

1. Remain the same man that entered the LTR and improve

2. Continue dating her.

Fail either 1, then you fail.

 

[djthiago1]

The trick with LTR's is just 2;

1. Remain the same man that entered the LTR and improve

2. Continue dating her.

Fail either 1, then you fail.

I stopped dating mine, took her for granted.

If she ever came back and i fixed this, could it ever work?

 

[RangerMIke]

Her behavior really isn't all that important if you are trying to gauge their loyalty. All women are always on the look-out for a better option based on what she feels she needs. A better indicator of loyalty is her social conditioning and her past behavior. If you are with a chick that's had a lot of boyfriends, you likely have a chick that is not very loyal. If you are with a chick that comes from divorce, where she was not raised with her father, this is another high risk factor. They all have the trait that instinctually draws them to monkey branching, some chicks, maybe 40%, are capable of overcoming this urge in the interest of reason. But many of these will exhibit b!tchiness and letting herself go if you fail to deliver what she wants, this is her way of punishing her man for not meeting her emotional needs.

If you are NOT delivering emotional stimulation to your LTR chick, she will get bored and shake things up... @LARaiders85 is right, b!tchiness is a indicator of loyalty.... I can't tell you how many times I heard a story from a friend that said, "Man, I don't know what happened.... sure we had problems but things were getting BETTER, she had stopped all the nagging and b!tching and things were going well. Then out of no where, she dumped me and a couple of weeks later, she posting pics on Instagram with her new BF."

She stoppped nagging because she didn't give a fvck about the dude she is with, and found a better, higher branch. When she is nagging her man she is either trying to change his behavior to something she wants, or she's trying to drive you off. Either way she wins in her mind.

 

[sosousage]

In relation to my last thread about my breakup ( https://www.sosuave.net/forum/threads/just-broke-up-a-few-hours-ago.253194/ )

I've been with a few dozen women but i've only had 3 LTRs, and only my last one was the only i would consider a good relationship, i was treated like a king, she was thoughtful, caring, and never nagged.
This was the first girl i've seen with these traits and i cant help but think that these traits are extremelly rare and that i wont find it again anytime soon, but i know i'm young and havent had many relationships.

So, you guys that are more experienced and had thousands of girlfriends and dates, illuminate me.

she branch swinged baby

 

[zekko]

b!tchiness is a indicator of loyalty.... I can't tell you how many times I heard a story from a friend that said, "Man, I don't know what happened.... sure we had problems but things were getting BETTER, she had stopped all the nagging and b!tching and things were going well. Then out of no where, she dumped me and a couple of weeks later, she posting pics on Instagram with her new BF."

Well that's a case where she clearly just stopped caring. It doesn't mean she has to be a b!tch to begin with.

 

[Spaz]

Nagging is a tactic to induce compliance.

It's is not 2 be confused with love nor care.