Correct. I firmly believe that. That masculine frame doesn’t account for a man thinking...”Hey, I’m watching her to see if she’s good wife material.”, at least from where I’m standing. Or does it?
In your frame Spaz, you inspect her and wonder if she’s tight, is she worth your efforts to Fvck. At least from what I understand. That seems like a pure frame of masculine. does the idea of life partner enter in? Or does that thought process pollute the frame?
You'll need 2 see it from a different perspective, as a whole, not in bits and pieces.
You're a former soldier, so I'll use a ship as context so it's easier for you 2 understand.
Let's use a civilian marine ship and you its captain.
A man's frame in this context is his ship.
And you as captain is in complete control of it, charting it's course, heading towards somewhere you desire.
Along the way you pick up a woman, whom presumably from this thread, you wish to have loyalty, love, devotion etc from her.
Perfectly normal, rational and contrary to popular believe in SS, it's possible.
Like in any normal ship, you'll have an Executive Officer (XO). That person is your woman.
Before a captain hires an XO, he must 1st qualify her, her physical fitness, age, etc and explain to her his expectations, his vision, his leadership role as captain and also her role as XO - in that you empower her with YOUR authority.
Do you understand so far? (I'm making it in point form so as to shorten this post but do ask if you don't get my meaning)
Although not a guarantee but an average normal XO is unlikely to skip ship or mutiny against the captain when the captain is not only knowledgeable but continously displays strong leadership in every facet of ship management.
The captains duty, besides charting a course is also to motivate, maintain boundaries, dismissing undesirable characters etc.
Make no mistake, the captain must be efficient and display strong leadership skills, he does so by empowering those around him, harnessing everyone's skills, knowledge, hopes, desires etc. In doing so you will be admired not feared, inspiring others to dare and leading them.
Remember this also, a captain must always be ready to dismiss anyone from his ship regardless of their position in it and take on new hires.
A ship must have a destination....not aimlessly floating and rotting away. Just make sure that destination is exciting and there's rewards to be had.