The solipsism insanity

[mrgoodstuff]

Solipsism does exist and it's truly insane.

Nevertheless it'll be interesting, at least it will be for me.

Guys im about to take a 3 month break from this and social media and be absorbed and in the moment LIVING and continuing on my goals. Ive bern crying and complaining here long enough. Is solipsism someones "ego truth" no matter how insane or illlogical as it may be? It may be how they get results.

 

[Ranger]

Solipsism does exist and it's truly insane.

Nevertheless it'll be interesting, at least it will be for me.

This is why I post the things I do. Examples and extrapolations such as the one you played out are perfect illustrations. It was real time. No anecdotes. Just straight out with an intelligent woman hijacking a thread completely oblivious due to solipsistic self interest and utterly certain of her high value. A complete feminine matrix construct.

 

[Spaz]

Guys im about to take a 3 month break from this and social media and be absorbed and in the moment LIVING and continuing on my goals. Is solipsism someones "ego truth" no matter how insane or illlogical as it may be. It may be how they get results.

Yes, you hv our support.

Once you've learned, experienced and dared to try - break the social norms that's feminine centric, come back here and mentor the others in the same breath that you've learned during ur time here.

Good luck.

 

[Ranger]

Not for relationships imo, mostly Daddy issues there. Case by case basis of course.

The feminine narrative created this. The whole matrix is an issue.
There are women from single mother homes that do have “Daddy” issues. So there is some truth in what you say.
However, I’ve done plenty of research on this. Too
Many references to try to give them here.
There is substantial biological evidence that supports the age assertion that Tomassi brings up.

Think about it this way. A man who survives long enough has a significant survival strategy. Especially if he is still in shape like a warrior should be. He knows things. There are plenty or if not, most women find older men that have survived well and are in great shape, extremely attractive.
Her biology decides this. You or I only have opinions. Her biology will let you know. It’s not like she can control who she’s attracted too.

I do know that this “daddy issues” thing is tossed around in the media all over the place. That tells me it’s suspect and most likely garbage. I wouldn’t need Tomassi or anyone else to clue me in on that point. One of the women I’m presently seeing is 27 years younger than I am and she has a normal family with both parents being married the whole time. I can’t speak for their home environment of course. I’m thinking I will let the woman decide this one. Who they have sex with will let us know.

 

[Spaz]

I'm talking about my actual experiences dating 10yrs younger as well as all the women I've dated who dated much older men. They need daddy replacement. Very unstable situation for the man as he is not even in her peer social circle, where she competes for the highest value man.

Again, not an absolute but not something I would do again.

I will say it matters a lot less when she is 30+ though.

All women r little girls @LARaiders85, regardless of age or even upbringing, some more then others but they all exhibit it in one way or the other.

Our resident 50 year old female regularly talks unsolicited abt her daddy.

 

[Spaz]

Very unstable situation for the man as he is not even in her peer social circle, where she competes for the highest value .

Yes this part is tricky.

It has to be predominantly within ur frame/sphere of influence for this to work.

As someone who regularly dates women within the age bracket 18-27, I'd normally bring girls out on outings that involves my group of friends - older men with younger wife's or girlfriends around her age.

In that setting, she'll learn to know the difference between a boy and a man. She'll prefer the man, who's not preoccupied with petty jealousies, peacocking etc, I think you get the drift here.

I've been doing it for so many years that's it's almost second nature on how 2 respond, react and create attraction within those age group.

One even followed me around for a good 5 years hoping I'll marry her, I left her recently as she was turning 29, I just wasn't ready for marriage but she's worming her way back by using my guilt of leaving her stranded and getting her family involved in the whole process- yeah I too have weaknesses, that loyalty trait so deeply entrenched within me makes it really hard 2 completely cut off after being together for 5 years but it must be done so she can move on.

 

[Ranger]

Now I don’t want one hanging around that long Spaz. I am like you when it comes to that. I don’t envy you that chore. That’s a true burden. Sh!t!!!!!

 

[BeExcellent]

You guys are hilarious.

I talk about my father because I was blessed to have a great man for a father. Not everyone is so fortunate. I am the furthest thing from a woman with daddy issues, lol. I learned a tremendous amount from him as well as other men in my family. All were well respected, successful and leaders of other men in their respective communities. A number of my father's close friends have become my friends, mentors and even investors of mine over the years. I bring my son along as often as his studies allow to various meetings and social functions so he can see solid men and how they conduct themselves.

My BF was an E9. He is a leader of men. He still is. He doesn't want a woman who is going to desire children. He has done that. The young girls always end up clingy, needy, expecting commitment & kids after a short period...at which point he'd simply wash, rinse & repeat. He likes maturity and compatability. His kids are grown & he is looking forward to being a grandparent. He likes having similar cultural frame of reference and he greatly appreciates not only my looks and figure (still fit, trim and toned with an athlete's definition), he appreciates my intelligence, ambition, social acumen & sense of humor. He loves my feminine nature but he also likes that I impose standards and hold him accountable. We discuss things very directly and communicate well. And the boyfriend/girlfriend idea was his. He leads but he seeks and values my input. We understand one another well.

If you read my first post in this thread there is a definition of solipsism provided. It is out of Webster's dictionary. In case you missed it scanning through without reading it is still there for the observing. So are the links to the statistics. All neutral sources, lol.

All women are not opportunistic in a malign way as is presupposed in this thread. I am not and I know other women who are not.

All people, man or woman seek the best choice for a mate. Some people obviously have greater choices at their disposal than others.

I've always had plentiful desirable options in the market. A surgeon who is close in age and recently a widower keeps contacting me unsolicited. He looks like a taller, trimmer Chris Hemsworth. The resemblance is uncanny. Seriously. Women swoon for him and he isn't used to hearing "No Thank you"...I keep deleting his texts...after a polite response (He's a professional contact so telling him off is out of the question...), but I've very directly told him I'm seeing someone & I'm not interested. Doesn't matter. He still contacts me without any encouragement whatsoever. When Ive offered to introduce him to other attractive (some who are gorgeous) women who I know he's suddenly not ready to date. He lost his beloved wife several months ago unexpectedly. He is lonely and trying to heal. He likes me. Flattering sure...but I like my current relationship.

Just two weeks ago I was out with two girlfriends awaiting several other people, including my boyfriend, and before my boyfriend arrived 3 different men approached me (in spite of me being in conversation with my girlfriends), and interrupted to introduce themselves and flirt with me. This is within a 20 minute time frame. I always am polite but immediately inform men that I have a boyfriend who (in this case) would be arriving shortly, and I introduce such men to my girl friends, who are also attractive.

The guys were of diverse ages. The first was 27 years old; the second was early 50s, the 3rd was mid 30s (34 I think)...at any rate the most amusing was the 27 year old. He kept hovering about wanting to talk with me even after my boyfriend and rest of the group arrived. I showed no interest in him (but wasn't rude)...and he kept going on about how beautiful I was etc. The whole thing amused my guy, who was well aware I had no interest in the 27 year old...but toward the end of the outing the guy circled back by, sat down at our table and started up again. At that point I said "Look. I have told you I am with my BF (who was sitting next to me chatting with another man in our group)...and I'm not interested. I tapped my guy and leaned in his ear "Should I tell him?" He chuckled and said "Of course dear. It's always funny..."

So I said to the persistent 27 year old (who was attractive in a boyish way) "I appreciate the compliments, but honestly I'm not interested. I'm old enough to be your mother." To which the guy said "No way." I said "Yes, actually I turn 50 next year."

When he collected his lower jaw off the floor he said, "You look in your early 30s. Let me know if you need a boytoy." I said "No boy toys for me. I'm with a man already." This amused my BF quite a bit and after that we excused ourselves and my BF teased me on the way home for being a flirt. I told him with a laugh, the truth, which was that actually I was simply minding my own business. I made no effort to seek attention.

Those aren't experiences unattractive people have. So according to the market I have value. Not my opinion...the market's opinion.

People approach me. They always have. Will my raw physical allure fade eventually? Of course. But I will always be attractive. Attractiveness is more than just pretty or hot. Right now I'm still both physically "hot" and possess an attractive allure.

None of that matters. All the silly barbs & insults do is tell me that for whatever reason it bugs some of you that I exist and that I am pleased with life & having a ball. At almost 50. It's fun.

Oh and don't get me started on this notion that all women are children and/or all women are lazy. I've been sanding trim in a house I'm getting ready to sell all day. That's after installing a backsplash and patching the plaster. Once all that's done I'll stain & seal. When I can I enjoy doing that sort of thing. It saves me paying someone else to do it, it's cool to see the finished project, and it teaches my kids (who are required to help in various ways) responsibility, work ethic and to appreciate what they have. After homework or on weekends of course.

 

[Ronin47]

This is my objection to the BPD, Cluster B supposed damaged women.

There are plenty of women and men who have gone through hideous, horrible crap. I was a Marine grunt. Deployed twice. There are women who have been through living hell yet still conduct themselves within reason. It’s all crap.

Solipsism aside. That’s biological/genetic adaptation and thus is really above contestation.
The “damaged” woman is crap. What she does and how she handles life AFTER an event or episode is a DECISION. How anyone conducts themselves is a decision. So to diagnose or make up a label does not take this fact away.

A woman does exactly what she wants. That means she is acting in accordance to her decision or decisions. These are made up terms for a woman who is acting the way she wants or in a way that she feels most facilitates her survival and imperatives.

All women are BPD and/or Cluster B type personalities. She acts within her own self interest. If it is in her best interests, from her viewpoint, to wreck you, that’s what she’s going to do.
Now that would be solipsism.

I think you clearly have never met a true master vampire lol. They are real.

 

[btownbuck2012]

All the silly barbs & insults do is tell me that for whatever reason it bugs some of you that I exist and that I am pleased with life & having a ball. At almost 50. It's fun.

Reads like an excerpt from an assisted living, retirement “community” brochure.

Hahahahaha.

 

[Ranger]

I think you clearly have never met a true master vampire lol. They are real.

I understand your position. I can confront real evil fairly well. There is a principle that makes it easier. I think some call it understanding your shadow self.
Everyone is capable of the worst possible things. Including murder, torture, and most any horrible thing you can think of. I’m pretty sure I’ve shot a few like that. I know what I am capable of when put in particular situations. It’s called surviving. One day I might share the atrocities I’ve experienced while being married and just in life watching the unfolding of things you absolutely can’t stop even though you are watching it happen.
The atrocities in the family cause by women far outweigh those caused by men. Our society gives them a pass because it didn’t involve physical violence? I would rather take a good a$$ kicking.
Do I think I alone can stop it? That would be intellectually dishonest.
What is evil? What are you comparing these vampires to? I’m truly interested. I need something of comparable magnitude to show a contrast.
I’m certain it’s the mental anguish?

 

[Spaz]

You guys are hilarious.

I talk about my father because I was blessed to have a great man for a father. Not everyone is so fortunate. I am the furthest thing from a woman with daddy issues, lol. I learned a tremendous amount from him as well as other men in my family. All were well respected, successful and leaders of other men in their respective communities. A number of my father's close friends have become my friends, mentors and even investors of mine over the years. I bring my son along as often as his studies allow to various meetings and social functions so he can see solid men and how they conduct themselves.

My BF was an E9. He is a leader of men. He still is. He doesn't want a woman who is going to desire children. He has done that. The young girls always end up clingy, needy, expecting commitment & kids after a short period...at which point he'd simply wash, rinse & repeat. He likes maturity and compatability. His kids are grown & he is looking forward to being a grandparent. He likes having similar cultural frame of reference and he greatly appreciates not only my looks and figure (still fit, trim and toned with an athlete's definition), he appreciates my intelligence, ambition, social acumen & sense of humor. He loves my feminine nature but he also likes that I impose standards and hold him accountable. We discuss things very directly and communicate well. And the boyfriend/girlfriend idea was his. He leads but he seeks and values my input. We understand one another well.

If you read my first post in this thread there is a definition of solipsism provided. It is out of Webster's dictionary. In case you missed it scanning through without reading it is still there for the observing. So are the links to the statistics. All neutral sources, lol.

All women are not opportunistic in a malign way as is presupposed in this thread. I am not and I know other women who are not.

All people, man or woman seek the best choice for a mate. Some people obviously have greater choices at their disposal than others.

I've always had plentiful desirable options in the market. A surgeon who is close in age and recently a widower keeps contacting me unsolicited. He looks like a taller, trimmer Chris Hemsworth. The resemblance is uncanny. Seriously. Women swoon for him and he isn't used to hearing "No Thank you"...I keep deleting his texts...after a polite response (He's a professional contact so telling him off is out of the question...), but I've very directly told him I'm seeing someone & I'm not interested. Doesn't matter. He still contacts me without any encouragement whatsoever. When Ive offered to introduce him to other attractive (some who are gorgeous) women who I know he's suddenly not ready to date. He lost his beloved wife several months ago unexpectedly. He is lonely and trying to heal. He likes me. Flattering sure...but I like my current relationship.

Just two weeks ago I was out with two girlfriends awaiting several other people, including my boyfriend, and before my boyfriend arrived 3 different men approached me (in spite of me being in conversation with my girlfriends), and interrupted to introduce themselves and flirt with me. This is within a 20 minute time frame. I always am polite but immediately inform men that I have a boyfriend who (in this case) would be arriving shortly, and I introduce such men to my girl friends, who are also attractive.

The guys were of diverse ages. The first was 27 years old; the second was early 50s, the 3rd was mid 30s (34 I think)...at any rate the most amusing was the 27 year old. He kept hovering about wanting to talk with me even after my boyfriend and rest of the group arrived. I showed no interest in him (but wasn't rude)...and he kept going on about how beautiful I was etc. The whole thing amused my guy, who was well aware I had no interest in the 27 year old...but toward the end of the outing the guy circled back by, sat down at our table and started up again. At that point I said "Look. I have told you I am with my BF (who was sitting next to me chatting with another man in our group)...and I'm not interested. I tapped my guy and leaned in his ear "Should I tell him?" He chuckled and said "Of course dear. It's always funny..."

So I said to the persistent 27 year old (who was attractive in a boyish way) "I appreciate the compliments, but honestly I'm not interested. I'm old enough to be your mother." To which the guy said "No way." I said "Yes, actually I turn 50 next year."

When he collected his lower jaw off the floor he said, "You look in your early 30s. Let me know if you need a boytoy." I said "No boy toys for me. I'm with a man already." This amused my BF quite a bit and after that we excused ourselves and my BF teased me on the way home for being a flirt. I told him with a laugh, the truth, which was that actually I was simply minding my own business. I made no effort to seek attention.

Those aren't experiences unattractive people have. So according to the market I have value. Not my opinion...the market's opinion.

People approach me. They always have. Will my raw physical allure fade eventually? Of course. But I will always be attractive. Attractiveness is more than just pretty or hot. Right now I'm still both physically "hot" and possess an attractive allure.

None of that matters. All the silly barbs & insults do is tell me that for whatever reason it bugs some of you that I exist and that I am pleased with life & having a ball. At almost 50. It's fun.

Oh and don't get me started on this notion that all women are children and/or all women are lazy. I've been sanding trim in a house I'm getting ready to sell all day. That's after installing a backsplash and patching the plaster. Once all that's done I'll stain & seal. When I can I enjoy doing that sort of thing. It saves me paying someone else to do it, it's cool to see the finished project, and it teaches my kids (who are required to help in various ways) responsibility, work ethic and to appreciate what they have. After homework or on weekends of course.

Ain't that grand ? More projections of grandeur.

Your rationalisation hamster must be working overtime !

This has got to be the best story I've ever read on SS Roflmao!!

 

[Spaz]

A hot milf would be someone within the age range of 30-40...preferably closer to 30'ish.

But a 50 year old hag that's drooping all over ain't one hahaha

Man, I can't stop laughing while having brrakfast and the people at the next table keeps on looking at me hahahaha

 

[Spaz]

Reads like an excerpt from an assisted living, retirement “community” brochure.

Hahahahaha.

Fvck man. You've giving me stomach cramps hahahhaa

 

[BeExcellent]

Ain't that grand ? More projections of grandeur.

Your rationalisation hamster must be working overtime !

This has got to be the best story I've ever read on SS Roflmao!!

I know right? And that's just the past couple of weeks in my world. ROFLMAO indeed.

I'm laughing harder than you are Spaz. Know why? Because that's my actual life. It's terribly funny how much you wish it weren't my actual life...so I'm having a good chuckle about it...because really...it IS my life

It's going to be somebody's life...great fun that it's mine.

At any rate carry on. Cheers!

 

[Spaz]

Muahahahaha

Fvck man stop it. Hahahaha

 

[Spaz]

I know right? And that's just the past couple of weeks in my world. ROFLMAO indeed.

I'm laughing harder than you are Spaz. Know why? Because that's my actual life. It's terribly funny how much you wish it weren't my actual life...so I'm having a good chuckle about it...because really...it IS my life

It's going to be somebody's life...great fun that it's mine.

At any rate carry on. Cheers!

This has got 2 be added in the DJ bible - under the heading laughter is the best medicine 4 men

Muahahahahahaha

 

[meldiamond]

Reads like an excerpt from an assisted living, retirement “community” brochure.

Hahahahaha.

That is low key savage bro. Shade.

 

[btownbuck2012]

I know right? And that's just the past couple of weeks in my world. ROFLMAO indeed.

I'm laughing harder than you are Spaz. Know why? Because that's my actual life. It's terribly funny how much you wish it weren't my actual life...so I'm having a good chuckle about it...because really...it IS my life

It's going to be somebody's life...great fun that it's mine.

At any rate carry on. Cheers!

Really think for a minute about what you're doing...

You're on an anonymous men's forum bragging about what a great life you have as a woman....

I mean what on Earth is your goal here? Who is the crazy one?

 

[Ronin47]

I understand your position. I can confront real evil fairly well. There is a principle that makes it easier. I think some call it understanding your shadow self.
Everyone is capable of the worst possible things. Including murder, torture, and most any horrible thing you can think of. I’m pretty sure I’ve shot a few like that. I know what I am capable of when put in particular situations. It’s called surviving. One day I might share the atrocities I’ve experienced while being married and just in life watching the unfolding of things you absolutely can’t stop even though you are watching it happen.
The atrocities in the family cause by women far outweigh those caused by men. Our society gives them a pass because it didn’t involve physical violence? I would rather take a good a$$ kicking.
Do I think I alone can stop it? That would be intellectually dishonest.
What is evil? What are you comparing these vampires to? I’m truly interested. I need something of comparable magnitude to show a contrast.
I’m certain it’s the mental anguish?

Anguish. Yes, there is that. I have in just the last two weeks (still quite raw, let me tell you) extracted myself from a BPD relationship. It took every scrap of spiritual strength I had. I am convinced that if I had not, she would have destroyed my life. I am in court monday to get a permanent restraining order.

Answering your question, yes I agree there is a dark side to all of us and I have seen the same in myself, also a combat veteran. Although when I made reference to a vampire, I wasnt necessarily suggesting evil, although I will say I agree with RSD Tyler that there was no doubt a spiritual warfare aspect to dealing with my BPD. Once she had split me black, there were moments where she did and said things that no sane person would, and the way her pupils dilated until it seemed her entire eyes were dull black like a sharks could certainly leave an impression of evil. But thats not what I meant.

No, what I was referring to was more the archetype of a vampire. A vampire does what a vampire does because its a vampire, not because its evil so to speak. The gentleman I was disagreeing with was suggesting that BPD's should just "make different choices". As a combat vet I can relate to this reasoning. Anyone who has seen combat can come away and tell themselves either horrible stories about what they saw and did, or they can tell themselves stories that let them deal with it. And in this way, we can choose.

From everything I have read on BPD's, which at this point is a ****ing bookshelf worth, BPDs carry a genetic trait when combined with horrific trauma AS A SMALL CHILD manifests itself into the disorder itself. While I get that as adult we can all process what has happened to us and then make choices, I would contend that a small girl from an infants age to the age of two who is left alone for prolonged periods of time, literally festering in its own **** and piss, starving, perhaps injured or bleeding while mother ignores her desperate pleas for help, or when the mother finally does pay attention its only to stick the child in a dresser drawer and close it so the mother doesnt have to listen to it anymore, does not yet have the emotional bandwidth to "process and make a better decision" about what story they are going to tell themselves about what was happening to them.

I am sure there are outliers, but in my BPD's case, I firmly believe she had no choice over her behaviors. It is my theory that her reptile brain was running the hypergamy program at 10x speed and power. Once the love bombing ended and she had me hooked, the **** tests started. I didnt even know what a **** test was. Yes, I am one of those guys. Its why I like so many others found my way to these foums and the manosphere looking for answers. I was the perfect BPD target. Maybe Ill tell the story here sometime because it would probably be cathartic, but I was a classic case.

Her **** tests became ever more in my face, and I started seeing signs she was straying. Thank God I had the strength to step away before she went into discard, because she had already been grooming her next target and was prepping to do it the day I told her no contact.