Friends girlfriends being too flirty with you

[mrgoodstuff]

There was this article that recently came out about the phenomenon of wives cheating. Apparently its on the rise in the last few years. So instead of divorce the trend is to cheat. Divorce does not pay out the cash prizes it once did as most women make as much or more than their husbands. So women would rather stay and cheat. The study found that they were not even unhappy per se. They were just bored. There are two books that have just been released about this trend. Marriage looks worse and worse everyday. CNN did an piece on it...smh

https://www.cnn.com/2017/10/05/health/why-women-cheat-partner/index.html

Those women cheated because their men just thought bringing money home was enough.

 

[btownbuck2012]

There was this article that recently came out about the phenomenon of wives cheating. Apparently its on the rise in the last few years. So instead of divorce the trend is to cheat. Divorce does not pay out the cash prizes it once did as most women make as much or more than their husbands. So women would rather stay and cheat. The study found that they were not even unhappy per se. They were just bored. There are two books that have just been released about this trend. Marriage looks worse and worse everyday. CNN did an piece on it...smh

https://www.cnn.com/2017/10/05/health/why-women-cheat-partner/index.html

Interesting. I think the outward appearance, i.e. what you see on Fakebook, is all most people are concerned with, even if their is cheating, resentment, etc.

 

[Alvafe]

When a girl cheats with a random dude its bad but almost forgivable. When a girl cheats with your close friend its murder time. Thats exactly how ni***as get shot. The betrayal of a close friend is the worst of all. The consequences are often vicious. At one point I thought my close friend was banging a then current girlfriend ( he was def plotting it). I cant describe the rage I felt. I was going to bash his skull in or atleast break his nose. Luckily we talked it out.

its never don't matter what, with a friend that is another thing, you know then the retarded was never your friend, a real friend would pass her along and send info to you, you as his friend should do the same, if the idiot get angry at you, you stop wasting time on both, let the train crash and be far from it.

Those women cheated because their men just thought bringing money home was enough.

no, woman cheat for lack of character and she not being a good person, yes toss it at her face for how low class she is, if a guy is bringing money home you can bet your damn ass he is killing himself to make her life confortable, you think a guy would spend so much time working if was not for his family?

 

[mrgoodstuff]

its never don't matter what, with a friend that is another thing, you know then the retarded was never your friend, a real friend would pass her along and send info to you, you as his friend should do the same, if the idiot get angry at you, you stop wasting time on both, let the train crash and be far from it.



no, woman cheat for lack of character and she not being a good person, yes toss it at her face for how low class she is, if a guy is bringing money home you can bet your damn ass he is killing himself to make her life confortable, you think a guy would spend so much time working if was not for his family?

Yeah but most of the complaining in the link was he just brings money and doesnt do quality time with her or doesnt help out. Most of these ladies also worked.

I do agree however the most common female cheating is pure greed. You have a man that would break his back and do anything to please his wife. You have a non greatful wife put into "god mode" by the husband who partakes in cheating. Eventually she compartamentalize sex with her affairs and hard working husband is cucked because all of her needs are met. Sex with the affair partners. Love, emotional, support and financial by the husband.

 

[mr-ed209]

Man I've been subject to this a couple times.

Every guy who gets in that 'she's the boss' type of relationship is risking this sort of thing happening. Once you've become that doting tag along boyfriend you basically advertise yourself as weaker than your 'free' and single friends to your girlfriend. The most recent example, I was out for drink with a few friends. 2 couple, myself and one of my guy buddies. I was sat next to one of the girls of the couple and she was blatantly hitting on me with her boyfriend sat right next to her. Grabbing hold of my hand when she was asking me questions and such like. Her boyfriend is quite beta and due for extended leave (military) soon. Can't help but feel she's lining someone up to satisfy her while he's away. Sad really, he's a nice guy.

Another example I had was when I worked managing a plush hotel in a Japanese ski resort. I gave this smoking greek chick I lift to yoga and she was reeaaal chatty on the drive there. She brought up stuff like traveling and eluding to questions of me 'sleeping with loads of girls' and asked about buying me a beer to say thanks once I drove her back. I said 'maybe later'. Her fiancé was staying with her on the holiday. Last night of their stay, her and the fiancé were having drinks in the bar and chatting with myself and the other staff. Fiance guy was super cool, he bought a bottle of wine for the staff to share with him and we all stayed up till the early hours chatting **** and having a laugh. The building structure of the hotel was an old safe house and as such had these crazy steel + concrete fortified walls and soundproofed boiler room that looked like a bomb shelter in it's basement. I remember mentioning it in passing and the greek chicks eyes lit up and she started asking me if I would 'show' it to her - her fiancé at this point was glaze eyed drunk propping himself up on the bar chatting to my colleague.

I never did go through with anything but I often think back - damn some hot greek soon to be bride was probably ready to **** me in a hotel basement while her future husband sat upstairs..

 

[AttackFormation]

He has confirmed that he jerks off way more than he has sex, although when we go clubbing out of town he is right along with us single guys trying to get laid. He is very possessive and insecure about his wife’s behavior but he has no problem fu*cking around on her. I think he majorly resents her and his alpha frame he holds up around his friends is simply him trying to maintain his dignity because he can’t around her, based on what I’ve seen.

So you've really got two people cheating on each other..... what was the big deal with the woman doing it?

 

[mrgoodstuff]

So you've really got two people cheating on each other..... what was the big deal with the woman doing it?

The big deal is cause his friend is forced to cause shes fvcking others. Hes jagging off way too often cause shes not putting out regularly. Shes not putting out cause she fvcks other guys.

 

[AttackFormation]

The big deal is cause his friend is forced to cause shes fvcking others. Hes jagging off way too often cause shes not putting out regularly. Shes not putting out cause she fvcks other guys.

We don't know that.

We haven't been told any of the background, assuming the OP even feels confident he knows the full story (but I guess he does given how close they apparently are).

In general, men have a tendency to think that marriage was "invented by and for men"... but this naive ignorance is exactly what a creature like a female would want the male of the species to believe, that it's all his idea and all is for his benefit. A girl with a lover can have kids, but no security. A girl with a lover and a provider can have both kids and security. In the animal kingdom cuckolding makes perfect sense. Then you add on the fact that humans can experience boredom, and with any big or small thing in life, while cheating is a thrill. Voila...

 

[mrgoodstuff]

We don't know that.

We haven't been told any of the background, assuming the OP even feels confident he knows the full story (but I guess he does given how close they apparently are).

Thats what i read from his info. Hanging with his single friends was a source of support cause shes hoing.

 

[AttackFormation]

Thats what i read from his info. Hanging with his single friends was a source of support cause shes hoing.

And a woman in a parallel forum is saying she is just banging uber drivers as a source of self esteem because he kept his habit of fvcking chicks from before the relationship or picked it up during. Both of you going off speculation and both of you taking one party's side only because they're your gender.

We can't know until there's more info.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

What’s interesting is my friend is a good looking very well educated guy with high social status in the different social circles he’s involved with here in LA, but what I’ve observed through my red pill lense between he and his wife has been upsetting. She clearly controls the frame and is very dominate with him. I remember at the wedding I asked him if i could give a speech and his response was “let me ask my boss”....
I checked with him a bit later and he told me “she said no”...****ing c*nt, this is a guy I’ve been very close with since 6th grade.

I absolutely agree with you it’s about control. Women are so brainwashed that they actually believe it’s their right and the right thing to do to boss their men around and dominate them but by doing this they are actually turned off by their men, who due to brainwashing don’t know any better either, and in turn go out an hoe around. Women are morons man...

btownbuck2012,

Did your friend start this cheating or was it his wife? I was assuming she was stepping out on him and starving him to the point where he's jagging off more than he's having sex. To try to balance things a little and get his needs met sometimes he hang with his single friends and occasionally will partake in a babe. But at home she's the boss, she does what she wants, fvcks who she wants when she feels like it and he's barely getting anything from her.

Can you expound upon this point?

 

[btownbuck2012]

btownbuck2012,

Did your friend start this cheating or was it his wife? I was assuming she was stepping out on him and starving him to the point where he's jagging off more than he's having sex. To try to balance things a little and get his needs met sometimes he hang with his single friends and occasionally will partake in a babe. But at home she's the boss, she does what she wants, fvcks who she wants when she feels like it and he's barely getting anything from her.

Can you expound upon this point?

You pretty much nailed it. That’s been my assessment of what’s going on without directly asking.

That night she was drunk and talking to me downstairs she blurted out “that man puts me on such a pedestal”, referring to my friend. This was immediately followed by her rubbing my arm saying “you look good Jon”.

The next day my friend shoots me a text asking if I think he has a right to be angry at her for her drinking and coming home drunk and throwing up. I was like hell yeah you have a right to be mad dude. He even told me he’s had to tell another guy to back off. What’s truly ridiculous is he defends her behavior as if she’s this poor little thing who can’t say no to other men’s advances. He’s also very possove of her and I’ve seen on more than a few occasions him very quickly verbally reprimand her after she makes some flirtatious comment to a guy right in front of him.

Now my theory here is that his trying to cheat on her when we go out is basically him trying to save face and his own dignity in spite of what she’s doing. If he didn’t care about her behavior and cheated on her too i wouldn’t think much of it. At that point it’s like well if they are both comfortable with it then whatever, but he is clearly bothered by her behavior and she is a 6 at best. A chubby little Mexican girl. My friend on the other hand, has been approached randomly on the street and asked if he models or would be interesting in modeling.

I’m amazed at how men like my friend can be in such a position of weakness with a women who should, frankly, feel fortunate to have him.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

You pretty much nailed it. That’s been my assessment of what’s going on without directly asking.

That night she was drunk and talking to me downstairs she blurted out “that man puts me on such a pedestal”, referring to my friend. This was immediately followed by her rubbing my arm saying “you look good Jon”.

The next day my friend shoots me a text asking if I think he has a right to be angry at her for her drinking and coming home drunk and throwing up. I was like hell yeah you have a right to be mad dude. He even told me he’s had to tell another guy to back off. What’s truly ridiculous is he defends her behavior as if she’s this poor little thing who can’t say no to other men’s advances. He’s also very possove of her and I’ve seen on more than a few occasions him very quickly verbally reprimand her after she makes some flirtatious comment to a guy right in front of him.

Now my theory here is that his trying to cheat on her when we go out is basically him trying to save face and his own dignity in spite of what she’s doing. If he didn’t care about her behavior and cheated on her too i wouldn’t think much of it. At that point it’s like well if they are both comfortable with it then whatever, but he is clearly bothered by her behavior and she is a 6 at best. A chubby little Mexican girl. My friend on the other hand, has been approached randomly on the street and asked if he models or would be interesting in modeling.

I’m amazed at how men like my friend can be in such a position of weakness with a women who should, frankly, feel fortunate to have him.

So she was cheating over him for "power". This is what they can do when you are more attractive then them. It causes a power swing which makes them feel better about themselves. Makes her look better with her voodoo she runs. You see the entire world looks better than him in her cloudy glasses.

Their relationship is pretty toast. But he can techinically swing the dynamics. His wife has to get zero or near zero of his time and attention going forward and he can put his poker chips back into HIMSELF and with babes who are deeply into him.

He needs to stop taking up for her. Stop overlooking her poor distasteful and disrespectful behavior and take responsibility. Because he's not being responsible for allowing this to go on like this.

I know the game she's running on him. This is the same game many evil wives run on their husbands who have drive and personal power, it allows her to drain him and take it for herself.

Ignore her, stop helping her, lie to her, don't be reliable, stop worrying about her. Worry about yourself. If he had any chance in hell with this witch this is what he'd have to do anyway. Supporting or supplementing her is going to kill him.

 

[btownbuck2012]

So she was cheating over him for "power". This is what they can do when you are more attractive then them. It causes a power swing which makes them feel better about themselves. Makes her look better with her voodoo she runs. You see the entire world looks better than him in her cloudy glasses.

Their relationship is pretty toast. But he can techinically swing the dynamics. His wife has to get zero or near zero of his time and attention going forward and he can put his poker chips back into HIMSELF and with babes who are deeply into him.

He needs to stop taking up for her. Stop overlooking her poor distasteful and disrespectful behavior and take responsibility. Because he's not being responsible for allowing this to go on like this.

I know the game she's running on him. This is the same game many evil wives run on their husbands who have drive and personal power, it allows her to drain him and take it for herself.

My friend is a very driven and intelligent guy. He’s got some pretty legit connections out here in LA. I do think he’ll end up rich one day which is why I’m out here tbh cuz I’d like to work for him when he makes it lol...but he’s very blue pill with his wife. So much so that I really do hope she wont be his downfall.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

As a friend you can help him to see this is what he has to do, because if he ever cared about her, this will HELP her. To see that he won't help that poor behavior. Let her fall on her azz.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

My friend is a very driven and intelligent guy. He’s got some pretty legit connections out here in LA. I do think he’ll end up rich one day which is why I’m out here tbh cuz I’d like to work for him when he makes it lol...but he’s very blue pill with his wife. So much so that I really do hope she wont be his downfall.

If he focus on her or put a lot of priority on her she can't help but to be his downfall. He needs to separate his image from her. From what I know now I'd stop helping her, because she's not helping me. It's the interim before parting ways. He can simply stop helping or doing anything for her and stop giving her time, attention and priority. Get his image individual from her.

Help you friend to see he can't let anyone do him like this, not even his own mother. His wife is getting off on destroying him.

 

[btownbuck2012]

I know the game she's running on him. This is the same game many evil wives run on their husbands who have drive and personal power

Yeah and for a while I turned a blind eye to him trying to bang other chicks because I thought it was wrong and so I distanced myself from it. But because of what an absolute c*nt his wife can be, when he and I recently went to San Diego I was all for him trying to get p*ssy.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Yeah and for a while I turned a blind eye to him trying to bang other chicks because I thought it was wrong and so I distanced myself from it. But because of what an absolute c*nt his wife can be, when he and I recently went to San Diego I was all for him trying to get p*ssy.

It's not biblical advice, but in the world he's doing the right thing. He can't keep taking those damages and not taking care of himself.

 

[Spaz]

He has confirmed that he jerks off way more than he has sex, although when we go clubbing out of town he is right along with us single guys trying to get laid. He is very possessive and insecure about his wife’s behavior but he has no problem fu*cking around on her. I think he majorly resents her and his alpha frame he holds up around his friends is simply him trying to maintain his dignity because he can’t around her, based on what I’ve seen.

It's not only ur friend, but the vast majority of modern males r in similar situations.

I bet 99% of you here r at one point or the other were in the same shoes as he is/was.

And if u r not willing 2 dismiss women who r disrespectful then it can only get worst 4 you.

Leadership is not only leading wisely but also the ability to dismiss a person that steps out of line.

Some lines cannot be crossed and a man should hold on to that principle. Most men fail in this area bcoz of fear.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

It's not only ur friend, but the vast majority of modern males r in similar situations.

I bet 99% of you here r at one point or the other were in the same shoes as he is/was.

And if u r not willing 2 dismiss women who r disrespectful then it can only get worst 4 you.

Leadership is not only leading wisely but also the ability to dismiss a person that steps out of line.

Some lines cannot be crossed and a man should hold on to that principle. Most men fail in this area bcoz of fear.

The reason we are in this position is not by accident. This is a program run by the masses on ALL MEN. To take any man once he's become married or in an LTR and put him under her control.