It has nothing to do with arrogance. Did you see what I said here (and say often in my posts) that it is all about kindness, friendliness, service, and on and on. Women know me as a kind, friendly guy but they also respect me as a man.
Never forget that well-balanced women are ONLY attracted to men who know they are superior to them.
As a woman I must say that the importance of this cannot be overstated. I would offer the argument that it is better to be respected than loved. Both is best of course, but you must command respect as a man or the woman is going to come to realize you cannot lead her. If you cannot lead in a relationship as a man then the relationship with either fail or devolve into something akin (or exactly as) the henpecked husband with "Miss Bossypants" for a partner.
No real man that I am aware of is willing to deal with a "Miss Bossypants" type. There are plenty of those types of relationships around because there are very few real men around. But for the man who sculpts himself into a superior man there are better options and choices that become part of his world. However you will not see these choices and options unless you become the superior type man. It isn't arrogance at all. It is how one exists in the world as a man, how a man comports himself in his sphere of influence and how he conducts himself and his life. Real men are rare. Superior men are rare. It is as much the internal self development as it is the external trappings of the appearance of success. I've seen beautifully dressed rich men supplicate to their women (perhaps more so if said woman is seen as a "trophy") just as I've seen regular people.
What you must develop at your core is character.
Character is the single most attractive thing to great women...who will themselves have character. And women with character are going to have standards. High standards. But a superior man will meet the standards of a high value woman. Women naturally gravitate to a man who can lead her. That implies that she is in fact looking for a man who she considers better than herself, as she is looking for a man she trusts enough to defer to, to follow, to submit to. So she can assume her natural place as his mate at his side, looking to him for leadership in the relationship.
If you look at great marriages over time you'll see a trend. The woman is most secure and happiest with a man who she can defer to and assist in his own affairs. Look at the relationships of the following men and you'll see what I mean:
-Ronald Reagan
-Rodger Staubach
-Winston Churchill
-Ray Bradbury
-Paul McCartney (first wife who died)
-Dr. Phil
-Jay Leno
-Steve Jobs
There are many others who are not as famous or accomplished who similarly achieve high satisfaction in their relationships and their lives because they choose to become exceptional. It is the exceptional men who the exceptional women become visible to.
Character is most important in my view.
