First Thread on SS - Break Up Last Night

[resilient]

Damn... solid advice in this thread. I needed to hear much of what was said here. Manning up will help a ton.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Damn... solid advice in this thread. I needed to hear much of what was said here. Manning up will help a ton.

Full throttle ahead. You know what to do.

 

[greatsnake]

her interest level wasn't as high as you thought.

 

[MT93]

her interest level wasn't as high as you thought.

Yeah agreed,

I genuinely think she may have tried, but something forced is never good, like the guys have said previously if it was real and her feelings for me were that intense, she would never have acted the way she did in fear of losing me.

I think it was a case of she really tried to want it but it was too forced.

I also believe she will feel a sense of relief now that its over and that's the hard part to understand.

 

[MT93]

her interest level wasn't as high as you thought.

My problem with this is that she acted and spoke like it was....(telling me she loved me, so lucky, doesn't deserve me, girls would kill for someone like me, never letting me go again, this time shes ready, blah blah blah)

S*it the day we broke up we went dutch and booked a trip to Barcelona ffs?

So backwards....

Why not just be real?

My main focus now is ensuring this doesn't happen to me EVER again. Seriously, I really want to improve on this aspect of my life, hence why I'm here

I want to become someone people are scared to lose.

 

[greatsnake]

My problem with this is that she acted and spoke like it was....(telling me she loved me, so lucky, doesn't deserve me, girls would kill for someone like me, never letting me go again, this time shes ready, blah blah blah)

S*it the day we broke up we went dutch and booked a trip to Barcelona ffs?

So backwards....

Why not just be real?

My main focus now is ensuring this doesn't happen to me EVER again. Seriously, I really want to improve on this aspect of my life, hence why I'm here

I want to become someone people are scared to lose.

become the prize.

 

[greatsnake]

My problem with this is that she acted and spoke like it was....(telling me she loved me, so lucky, doesn't deserve me, girls would kill for someone like me, never letting me go again, this time shes ready, blah blah blah)

S*it the day we broke up we went dutch and booked a trip to Barcelona ffs?

So backwards....

Why not just be real?

My main focus now is ensuring this doesn't happen to me EVER again. Seriously, I really want to improve on this aspect of my life, hence why I'm here

I want to become someone people are scared to lose.

how do you become the prize? become a person that adds to people's lives, put yourself first, spin plates, go from having a scarcity mentality to abundance mentality.

 

[MT93]

how do you become the prize? become a person that adds to people's lives, put yourself first, spin plates, go from having a scarcity mentality to abundance mentality.

I thought I did add something to peoples lives. That's the problem greatsnake...

Went to a wedding yesterday with some friends from my team, there take on it is that I'm too superficial and rather than go for someone with looks I need to start thinking outside the box??????

Kinda p*ssed me off slightly as it makes me sound very shallow..

My mentality has always been, I go for someone because when I see them, I know straight away 'I want you'

That was the case with this chick, and the last 6 or 7...

 

[Spaz]

Tell her she got the wrong house lmao

Hahaha

Right kind of attitude.

It's safe to bet that your superiors at the office knows what's going on and are actually seeing how you handle yourself - I do this, I'm pretty sure yours would and I'm sure so will you....one day.

You'll do fine with this mindset.

Everyone here has given excellent advice.

Soldier on brother.

 

[MT93]

Hahaha

Right kind of attitude.

It's safe to bet that your superiors at the office knows what's going on and are actually seeing how you handle yourself - I do this, I'm pretty sure yours would and I'm sure so will you....one day.

You'll do fine with this mindset.

Everyone here has given excellent advice.

Soldier on brother.

More than likely, the first time we split I took it much harder and they did have a chat with me with regards to it affecting my performance, especially as I had just moved into the management role.

This time I ensured that wasn't the case, my job is one of my biggest achievements and something I'm incredibly proud of and she doesn't deserve to taint that for me...

Thank you for the support brother, I'm giving it my best, very much ups and downs at the moment.

 

[Spaz]

I trust you'll do well, and so will your superiors.

Often I've said this to my own management staff, applies towards everything, I hope this helps you as it does for me;

Success = Ur core values(imparted by parents etc) + How u think + How u do things.

When you fail in anything, it always boils down towards "how u think".

Most men will keep on changing " How they do things" and not knowing why they keep on failing. What they were lacking was knowledge - how they think.

Just by being on this forum, your knowledge has grown, and in turn this will contribute towards "how u do things", it's more then likely you'll notice small successes along the way.

Keep at it.

 

[MT93]

I trust you'll do well, and so will your superiors.

Often I've said this to my own management staff, applies towards everything, I hope this helps you as it does for me;

Success = Ur core values(imparted by parents etc) + How u think + How u do things.

When you fail in anything, it always boils down towards "how u think".

Most men will keep on changing " How they do things" and not knowing why they keep on failing. What they were lacking was knowledge - how they think.

Just by being on this forum, your knowledge has grown, and in turn this will contribute towards "how u do things", it's more then likely you'll notice small successes along the way.

Keep at it.

Of course, I really am determined to change- looking over certain things and it now makes sense why majority of my previous RS ended up in smoke...

Continuing to do the same things, I will always receive the same results.

That's why I'm here, because I want to learn and I want to improve as a man.

My plan now is to revert back to myself, focus on health, focus on career and finances, appearance etc

If I manage to smash some plates on the way, fantastic, but it is not a primary objective currently....

It just happens to be such a shame that it didn't work out with this bish, because I really thought this was it.

Mike

 

[ohrein]

This thread is why I love this place. You are all awesome.

 

[MT93]

F*cked up....

Made a dreaded mistake yesterday fellas, went out to watch the game, ended up getting mortally wasted.

Bumped into one of my best friends and his Mrs (we used to go out as a 4 now and again after I introduced my ex to the group)

After a little bit of chit chat, my friends girl started talking to me about the ex, how she knew i shouldn't have trusted her, seen her texting lads etc (really p*ssed me off aswell cause id had a few sherberts) and telling me how she had been messaging saying they should all get together and go out, asking if my best friend can go and drop her off somewhere, like wtf?

I reacted, I bit. And I feel such a fool.

I text her

Me - "Can you please stop trying to organise things with my friend group, and asking for favours off my mates, sort ya own s*it out with your own people"

Her - Ok Hun

Me - D*ckhead

Her - Grow up

I'm expecting a roasting here from u guys, and deservedly so... Never have I cracked before and text.

Feeling very very stupid.

Have a lot more anger for this b*tch this time round though.

 

[resilient]

You need to move on with your life and let her move on with hers.

If it hurt when your friends brought her up you could have changed the subject or politely ask them not to talk about her.

You broke no contact to text her voicing your complaint made you look immature and you called her names. Do better. Be the bigger man and let all the hurt and rejection go. No matter how much she hurt you, you should still be a gentleman and leave her alone while you’re angry with her.

Just walk away.

Do something else constructive with your time to think and talk about her less.

 

[MT93]

You need to move on with your life and let her move on with hers.

If it hurt when your friends brought her up you could have changed the subject or politely ask them not to talk about her.

You broke no contact to text her voicing your complaint made you look immature and you called her names. Do better. Be the bigger man and let all the hurt and rejection go. No matter how much she hurt you, you should still be a gentleman and leave her alone while you’re angry with her.

Just walk away.

Do something else constructive with your time to think and talk about her less.

I know man, I think the drink had an influence on it aswell to be honest, not blaming it on that though, it is solely my fault.

Really hacked off with myself.

 

[btownbuck2012]

Me - "Can you please stop trying to organise things with my friend group, and asking for favours off my mates, sort ya own s*it out with your own people"

Her - Ok Hun

Ugh, what a f*cking kunt.

 

[btownbuck2012]

but in her eyes it was ok because she threw you some shyte and pushed you away first to justify what she knew she was going to do..

This type of behavior is the biggest red flag I can think of when vetting other people, both men and women, to bring into your life. Absolutely toxic.

 

[btownbuck2012]

My problem with this is that she acted and spoke like it was....(telling me she loved me, so lucky, doesn't deserve me, girls would kill for someone like me, never letting me go again, this time shes ready, blah blah blah)

S*it the day we broke up we went dutch and booked a trip to Barcelona ffs?

So backwards....

Why not just be real?

This is the hardest thing I’ve had to wrap my head around too. I still struggle with it tbh. It’s utterly dumbfounding how f*cked up people conduct themselves.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

I thought I did add something to peoples lives. That's the problem greatsnake...

Went to a wedding yesterday with some friends from my team, there take on it is that I'm too superficial and rather than go for someone with looks I need to start thinking outside the box??????

Kinda p*ssed me off slightly as it makes me sound very shallow..

My mentality has always been, I go for someone because when I see them, I know straight away 'I want you'

That was the case with this chick, and the last 6 or 7...

So you picked for raw physical attraction and didn't get to know them.