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weve texted a little bit before she cuddled as lame as it sounds with me last night no kiss. she just broke up with her bf. what should I text her ask her on a date?
 

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You've been here long enough to know what to do....
 

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weve texted a little bit before she cuddled as lame as it sounds with me last night no kiss. she just broke up with her bf. what should I text her ask her on a date?
The next meeting you should gain ground. She can't use you as her cuddle guy and go fvck someone else .
 

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A classic 70s sitcom about folks finding romance on a cruise ship. Each episode was new set of folks finding love, while having the regulars as the crew. I was a late tweener watching this on Saturday night until my friends & I got bold enough to start hanging out at the teen disco, LOL.

 

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she broke up with her bf of 10 years like 3 weeks ago. I mean she told her sister I was hot.... we get along good and all I just dont wanna come on to strong
 

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seriously. here is the story. went to a bar with friends couple weeks ago saw her danced with her. she told her sister I was hot i got her number.... asked her out she said I literally broke up with my gf today so its honestly a bit soon. I said ok your right much to soon. ok fast forward to Friday 3 weeks later . went out on a party bus saw her danced with her again. slow dance song. I can swing dance a bit so it was also a little but of that. on the van ride home she was cuddling a bit with me. ok fast forward to yesterday. we went out on my buddies boat. she is obviously attracted laughs at all my jokes flirts a bit. I can feel the vibe. but I dont wanna text her again and look like I'm trying to hard. what should I do?
 

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Red Flag: Too Soon
What?!?!? If she broke up with her bf, he's the last person she wants to think about. She's obviously still in the relationship if she's not allowing a rebound or plate to enter her life.

Red Flag: No Kiss
Da Fuq is this? U kidding me?!?
She's wasting your time. If she's resisting a kiss from you now she'll be even more resistant against you from getting near her lady parts.
Just drop her azz and find someone else.
The more she rejects you, the more it's damaging your ego.
 

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Red Flag: Too Soon
What?!?!? If she broke up with her bf, he's the last person she wants to think about. She's obviously still in the relationship if she's not allowing a rebound or plate to enter her life.

Red Flag: No Kiss
Da Fuq is this? U kidding me?!?
She's wasting your time. If she's resisting a kiss from you now she'll be even more resistant against you from getting near her lady parts.
Just drop her azz and find someone else.
The more she rejects you, the more it's damaging your ego.
If you have paid any attention to Ryan's posts, he is not one to escalate. He gets emotional quickly but does not get physical quickly. He basically does the exact opposite of what some of us do to get a woman chasing us.

Ryan is a relationship hunter, not a pvssy hunter. He fails to understand that its the physical aspect that we escalate to get the hook in a woman's mouth, then take it away and in no way, shape or form do we carry a frame that portrays us looking for a "relationship". We understand that once we get a woman craving us, SHE will be the one trying to push for exclusiveness and a relationship.

This is not a knock to Ryan as I have been super direct with him in PMs when he reached out to me over the last chick that ghosted him.

No physical escalation = no sex.

No sex = woman doesnt feel led and loses interest. Woman loses interest = no relationship.

On the other hand.....

Physical escalation = sex.
Sex = the stirring of emotions within the woman. Those will build the more you smash her = she brings up relationship talk between week 2 and month 2, depending on her level of self esteem and options of men in her life.
 

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I've hung out with her a total of 3 times didnt try to kiss her. she knows my intentions. as we were in a crowded bar every time and on a boat full of people. she texts me but I mean they were together for 8 years and we have mutual friends and kind of know each other its not like they were a quick fling. they are apparantly completely broken up now. she thinks I'm hot she told her sister that. she told me it was to soon literally the day they broke up. so I backed off. this was 3 weeks ago i hung out with her again this past Friday and sat. been texting a bit
 

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If you have paid any attention to Ryan's posts, he is not one to escalate. He gets emotional quickly but does not get physical quickly. He basically does the exact opposite of what some of us do to get a woman chasing us.

Ryan is a relationship hunter, not a pvssy hunter. He fails to understand that its the physical aspect that we escalate to get the hook in a woman's mouth, then take it away and in no way, shape or form do we carry a frame that portrays us looking for a "relationship". We understand that once we get a woman craving us, SHE will be the one trying to push for exclusiveness and a relationship.

This is not a knock to Ryan as I have been super direct with him in PMs when he reached out to me over the last chick that ghosted him.

No physical escalation = no sex.

No sex = woman doesnt feel led and loses interest. Woman loses interest = no relationship.

On the other hand.....

Physical escalation = sex.
Sex = the stirring of emotions within the woman. Those will build the more you smash her = she brings up relationship talk between week 2 and month 2, depending on her level of self esteem and options of men in her life.
just curious what does self esteem have to do with it?
 

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I never went for a kiss but the first time we danced she broke up with her bf that day so I feel like that's fair
 

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I've hung out with her a total of 3 times didnt try to kiss her. she knows my intentions. as we were in a crowded bar every time and on a boat full of people. she texts me but I mean they were together for 8 years and we have mutual friends and kind of know each other its not like they were a quick fling. they are apparantly completely broken up now. she thinks I'm hot she told her sister that. she told me it was to soon literally the day they broke up. so I backed off. this was 3 weeks ago i hung out with her again this past Friday and sat. been texting a bit
3 dates and no attempt for a kiss? Go re read the bible... write this statement on your forehead...

It's easier to ask for forgiveness than permission

I met a girl at a work function yesterday who was lukewarm all day. More drinks at the end of the night. I went for it, then I woke up her hotel room this morning.

My point is... if you make a move and she backs off, you apologize. It's simple, but she now knows your serious. Better than letting a flame burn out and it very rarely comes back.
 

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I never went for a kiss but the first time we danced she broke up with her bf that day so I feel like that's fair
Escalation is a delicate balance between coming off as a creep, and acting like a friend.

I would invite her out again, for a kino-esque type of date (dancing?), then do the triangular gaze trick....and go in for the kiss with calm confidence........thats what I would do.

Good luck
 

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3 dates and no attempt for a kiss? Go re read the bible... write this statement on your forehead...

It's easier to ask for forgiveness than permission

I met a girl at a work function yesterday who was lukewarm all day. More drinks at the end of the night. I went for it, then I woke up her hotel room this morning.

My point is... if you make a move and she backs off, you apologize. It's simple, but she now knows your serious. Better than letting a flame burn out and it very rarely comes back.
did you read what I wrote? lol none of these were dates I happened to be at an event I was invited to in which she was there. we have not been on a date yet just around each other because of mutual friends
 

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we texted a bit sunday just small talk. she mentioned we all should go out to a bar that everyone frequents. key word said said all of us. lol this was sat and I said was "sure I would be down". that was the end of the conversation. should I maybe shoot her a text? I dont want the flame burning out. I know for a fact were all on going to a concert the 14th that's in a little less then 2 weeks
 
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