Told my ex to move on. I keep looking at her insta story...
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She didn’t cheat or anything like that. She’s very loyal. Doesn’t go out partying that much-every once in a while for a friend’s birthday. Got a long with my family. So no “STUFF”.
Yea, I admit I still care about her but that doesn’t mean I care about her in a romantic way.
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In what way do you still care about her, and why?
Would a "friend" agonize over what another "friend" thinks when they view their Instagram stories?
What. Are you transforming into the nonsexual Daddy mode now? Stop the stalking and go complete NC…
How is that dad mode? You’ve never fallen out of love with a girl but still cared about her as a person?
Still think you're in denial because you're definitely still in love with her.
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Why does everyone keeps coming down on OP. I think it's more than normal to still be curious about an ex after a breakup.
Right, but it prolongs a mans emotional healing time. Borders on masochism to keep doing it to yourself.
Hold up. Y’all think this behavior is normal (looking at her every post knowing she can see that you’ve looked) ? Especially coming from someone who told their ex to move on? Isn’t this beyond curiosity at this point?
Yep, like I said earlier it borders on masochism, but more probably it’s an obsession.
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And going out of their way to post on an internet forum asking for advice about it?
Yes, it's normal. Perfectly normal. Is it healthy? No. Is he in denial about his feelings for her? Probably. We've all been there. It's ok. No shame. The real question is: Do you listen to the advice you requested or do you keep asking for it while defending yourself repeatedly against the advice?
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To a man of VALUE, time is a precious commodity.. Why would you waste another 6 months or a year of your time, being curious about your ex and SLOWING down the healing process!
In the end, she is going to MOVE ON.. and you are going to move on.. So why waste anymore time lingering over her posts, her pics, obsessing about her.
Yes it's a hard thing to do, especially when you have emotionally bonded with a person.
So why not just take on board the advice given, from people who have been in this exact situation and have managed to get over an ex, the quickest and easiest way possible.
If op applied full NC on all platforms, including social media, he could be over this chick in no time, and using his time better spent on things that really matter!
In the end, she is going to MOVE ON.. and you are going to move on.. So why waste anymore time lingering over her posts, her pics, obsessing about her.
Yes it's a hard thing to do, especially when you have emotionally bonded with a person.
So why not just take on board the advice given, from people who have been in this exact situation and have managed to get over an ex, the quickest and easiest way possible.
If op applied full NC on all platforms, including social media, he could be over this chick in no time, and using his time better spent on things that really matter!
That's the thing though I have moved on. I'd rather be single than with someone who makes me have doubt.
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I have moved on from my ex too.. Do you know how many times I check her Insta or her social media? NEVER
Got better chit to do!
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She posts a few times a day. Almost every day. Music, her dog, etc. and I'll look at just about everyone.
That’s obsessive behavior in an attempt to keep your internal emotional connection with her.
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Not to say I disagree with you, but why not just speak up if that's the case?
No point in asking OP because he'll just deny everything...
