Girlfriend away for 2 months + roommates

[Kharg]

So my girlfriend (we've been together for about 2 years) is away on a 2 month internship. She found a place to stay at which is super cheap for where she's at, but the problem is that she has 3 roommates, 2 of which are guys. All 3 of these roommates are friends, and they are trying to be nice to her and invite her out when they go to hang and stuff. From what she's told me over the phone they really like to throw parties. I've been feeling really insecure about the whole thing lately. She living with 2 guys I don't know, who like to throw parties a lot, which obviously means she will be around alcohol a lot. Not sure how I feel about the whole thing. My girlfriend is very attractive, so I'm pretty much expecting her roommates (assuming they're straight) to hit on her. This combined with alcohol and maybe weed makes me feel a little unsure about how ok I am with all of this. I'm a great actor, and I've acted like I'm ok will all of it. As far as she's concerned I'm cool, and she thinks I have no worries about the whole thing. As you can probably tell I am worried. I just didn't want to show her any signs of insecurity. I trust her, but I obviously don't wanna be naive either. She's in a perfect scenario for cheating to happen. She could cheat on me, and I would literally never find out unless she told me because she's so far. Have any of you experience with something like this? How did you dealt with it? I think I'ma keep playing it cool because I feel like there's literally nothing else I can do. It's kind of a tough spot to be in. Maybe I am being insecure, but there's a fine line between being insecure and naive. I don't know. Advice would be appreciated

 

[wifehunter]

That's a tough one. But, if you make it through, it says something. Sucks for now though.

The roomate guys are likely orbiters and will chase her, which will ultimately turn her off. You can rest easy knowing most guys, no matter how good the look or size of their wallet and other stuff, are likely frameless chodes.

Try paragraphs next time. Put some of those emotions into spacing text out.

 

[Desdinova]

Women live in the moment of how they feel. She will fvck one or both of the guys if she feels any sort of attraction toward them. Keep an eye out for a change in her behaviour. If she develops new interests or changes her communication with you, then you'll know something happened.

 

[lizardking82]

I will second @Desdinova in this one. Observe for possible changes in behaviour when she comes, especially sexually. If the way she BJs you or rides you or moans changes...she cheated.

 

[Murk]

I will second @Desdinova in this one. Observe for possible changes in behaviour when she comes, especially sexually. If the way she BJs you or rides you or moans changes...she cheated.

Bit harsh, women are always evolving and changing it up, one of my ex gf's started to growl when I fvcked her like a low pitch growling that i thought was hilarious and weird. I think I remember her saying she thought it was sexy, this was like 6 months in. Do you think she was cheating (serious question)?

 

[lizardking82]

Bit harsh, women are always evolving and changing it up, one of my ex gf's started to growl when I fvcked her like a low pitch growling that i thought was hilarious and weird. I think I remember her saying she thought it was sexy, this was like 6 months in. Do you think she was cheating (serious question)?

I would say any sudden change in behaviour is related to sth. People don't just change without a reason. Couples have a tendency to grow a common way of how they like sex over time. When a woman knows how her man likes her to moan and move and suck, she will not change that. She will do that as the whole act of pleasing her man. If your woman suddenly starts moaning differently, I would have great doubt that she is cheating. There is no way to prove this in most cases, I think, but I see it as a sign that something is wrong.

 

[wifehunter]

Women live in the moment of how they feel. She will fvck one or both of the guys if she feels any sort of attraction toward them. Keep an eye out for a change in her behaviour. If she develops new interests or changes her communication with you, then you'll know something happened.

If she's like most chicks, she's garbage anyway, and not sutable for an LTR.

Yeah, if she has no emotional control, this is inevitable. Who wants to be with a 'loose cannon' anyway?

If she's going to let her emotions make her decisions, she has no integrity. Which is the case for most females. No surprise there, and no value either.

Chicks with no self-control end up as whales.

 

[Murk]

If she's like most chicks, she's garbage anyway, and not sutable for an LTR.

Yeah, if she has no emotional control, this is inevitable. Who wants to be with a 'loose cannon' anyway.

If she's going to let her emotions make her decisions, she has no integrity. Which is the case for most females. No surprise there, and no value either.

Chicks with no self-control end up as whales.

This guy knows.

 

[skinnyguy]

Yo man, I’ve lost two girls from jealousy.

The best thing you can do is to ENCOURAGE HER to hang out with her roommates and get to know them. She will become more attracted to you if she knows you’re secure. If you act jealous she will fvck another guy.

 

[highSpeed]

Bit harsh, women are always evolving and changing it up, one of my ex gf's started to growl when I fvcked her like a low pitch growling that i thought was hilarious and weird. I think I remember her saying she thought it was sexy, this was like 6 months in. Do you think she was cheating (serious question)?

You're kidding yourself if you think there will not be moments of attraction, plain and simple. If they're together and spend enough time together, something could easily happen. Add in some alcohol, the right mood, the distance from you, this is a good recipe for a fling. I'm not telling you anything you haven't already thought of though, otherwise you wouldn't have created this thread. What do you do about it? That's the better question. I'd honestly prepare for the inevitable and start to line up other chicks but if you're the good guy sort, emotionally prepare yourself for the dear john letter/phone call/text/date one of these days. Harsh response but guys and girls? They usually don't do the friendship thing very well, that darn old p*nis gets in the way.

 

[Kharg]

I've read all of yours posts, and it seems that the majority thinks she will cheat. I do understand that's a possibility. I do feel proud of myself though because I haven't showed her a single sign of insecurity or jealousy. I have actually been encouraging her to have fun and go out with her new friends. My acting skills have been 10/ 10. As far as she knows I don't really care what she does or who she hangs out with. If I act insecure I will only be pushing her away, and that will make it even more likely for cheating to happen. I do believe she loves me. She's been over there for about 2 weeks now, and she's called me pretty much every night to tell me about her day. She even cried when she left for the internship because she said she was gonna miss me. Still, I don't wanna be naive. That's the problem. There's a very fine line between trusting her and being naive. She's in the perfect scenario for cheating to happen. Girl living with 2 guys (and another girl I guess, but still), they throwing lots of parties (so alcohol and possibly weed involved), she being far away, so she could pretty much get away with it because it's very unlikely I'd ever found out unless she confessed. I guess I could hook up with other girls around here, but I don't know how I feel about that. What if she doesn't cheat? I'd feel like the biggest ******* in the world. Cheating on her only because I thought she would cheat herself. Tough spot to be in for sure.

 

[lizardking82]

I've read all of yours posts, and it seems that the majority thinks she will cheat. I do understand that's a possibility. I do feel proud of myself though because I haven't showed her a single sign of insecurity or jealousy. I have actually been encouraging her to have fun and go out with her new friends. My acting skills have been 10/ 10. As far as she knows I don't really care what she does or who she hangs out with. If I act insecure I will only be pushing her away, and that will make it even more likely for cheating to happen. I do believe she loves me. She's been over there for about 2 weeks now, and she's called me pretty much every night to tell me about her day. She even cried when she left for the internship because she said she was gonna miss me. Still, I don't wanna be naive. That's the problem. There's a very fine line between trusting her and being naive. She's in the perfect scenario for cheating to happen. Girl living with 2 guys (and another girl I guess, but still), they throwing lots of parties (so alcohol and possibly weed involved), she being far away, so she could pretty much get away with it because it's very unlikely I'd ever found out unless she confessed. I guess I could hook up with other girls around here, but I don't know how I feel about that. What if she doesn't cheat? I'd feel like the biggest ******* in the world. Cheating on her only because I thought she would cheat herself. Tough spot to be in for sure.

Listen, my man, she accepted this situation knowing she would be living with two guys. She was fully aware of this and still went. This is not the type of behaviour someone that's looking forward to the future with you does, trust me.

 

[Roober]

Gone for 2 months? Sounds like a free pass to have some fun yourself

 

[skinnyguy]

Gone for 2 months? Sounds like a free pass to have some fun yourself

Yup. If he doesn’t, his gf will probably think he’s a beta chump who can’t get laid lol