How many dates without action before you eject?

[newtothis92]

Been dating a girl I work with (did topic about her before). Known her 2 years, had some drama and up and down moments. I've been on 6 dates now, even on the first date she was being a pain in the ass and at the end of the night said 'I don't kiss on first dates'. After 6 dates the most we've done is kiss. I have a good time with her but she's very insecure and has been treated **** before.

 

[Billtx49]

It varies, but my standards are not even a kiss on first date = eject, no sex by third date = eject.

 

[lizardking82]

The answer to this question is "it's situational" and the way you should act in this situation, in my opinion, is stop giving her free drinks and more of your time (which is exactly what she wants) while she gives you not even a remote chance to ***** (which is exactly what you want at first).

 

[newtothis92]

I reiterated to her I'm not trying to be her friend and backed off after no action on 6th. Her 'I was going to invite you over my house x day'. bla bla

 

[marmel75]

I reiterated to her I'm not trying to be her friend and backed off after no action on 6th. Her 'I was going to invite you over my house x day'. bla bla

Anything on her part to keep you on the hook OP. Playing with you must be fun like a cat does with a mouse before it dispatches it.

 

[The Duke]

I reiterated to her I'm not trying to be her friend and backed off after no action on 6th. Her 'I was going to invite you over my house x day'. bla bla

Her covert response tells me she knows exactly how this game works and what the expectation is and doesn't want to comply. She has known you for 2 yrs, been on 6 dates and nothing but a kiss.........that's about 3 dates too many.

Just focus your attention on other girls, this one might come back around. Don't explain, just let her figure it out.

 

[newtothis92]

I'll cancel our date for the week and won't mention rescheduling then. **** it

 

[NSX-R]

So you want sexualy this woman , been on 6 dates with her and had only small kisses ? And how do you enjoy your time with her after so many dates ? Talking about the down Jones or what ?

 

[newtothis92]

2 of them wasn't exclusively us two, altho we spent most of the date 'day' together. But 4 together, alone. And yeah.. only ****ing kissing. Not good enough.

 

[RichardTheFrog]

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[newtothis92]

The fact we know eachtother and work together I've given her some leeway. But I think it's becoming a piss take, all my friends think I should give it up.

 

[R.U.G.]

Low interest brother. Next the b!tch. She's just keeping you around for entertainment. No kiss on the first date, low interest. No kiss on the second date, very low interest. Save your money.

 

[Mazer]

No kiss on first date is never a good sign. You are not escalating properly or she isnt attracted to you. I usually eject if there is no kiss after the second date and it has to be a kiss thats passionate and she has to be amazing. There are plenty of other women I could be spending my time with that want to kiss me. How passionate are your kisses? Is it full blown make out where she cant keep her hands off you or just a peck? Have you touched her in different areas of the body?

You guys have been friends for two years?! Most women would jump at the chance to "finally" bang him out if she was sexually interested. Sounds like she is using you until Chad comes along. I would pull back, dont ask her out on anymore dates, let her chase you, eventually fit her into your calendar one more time and escalate, grab a drink, go for sex, no dinner bs. If it doesnt happen, its never going to. Put her right back into friendzone and let the bish chase.

 

[R.U.G.]

No kiss on first date is never a good sign. You are not escalating properly or she isnt attracted to you. I usually eject if there is no kiss after the second date and it has to be a kiss thats passionate and she has to be amazing. There are plenty of other women I could be spending my time with that want to kiss me. How passionate are your kisses? Is it full blown make out where she cant keep her hands off you or just a peck? Have you touched her in different areas of the body?

You guys have been friends for two years?! Most women would jump at the chance to "finally" bang him out if she was sexually interested. Sounds like she is using you until Chad comes along. I would pull back, dont ask her out on anymore dates, let her chase you, eventually fit her into your calendar one more time and escalate, grab a drink, go for sex, no dinner bs. If it doesnt happen, its never going to. Put her right back into friendzone and let the bish chase.

Could of sworn I stated the same above.

 

[RichardTheFrog]

I don't even like kissing.

I don't get the point of it.

 

[ohrein]

I don't even like kissing.

I don't get the point of it.

What? It feels good and it's part of bonding. I love a woman who knows how to kiss.

 

[wifehunter]

Turn it around....Turn those tables...be the guy who won't put out.

SHOCKER

 

[Mazer]

Could of sworn I stated the same above.

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[RichardTheFrog]

What? It feels good and it's part of bonding. I love a woman who knows how to kiss.

To me, it's similar to massages. They just aren't worth very much.

I've had girls who were licensed massage therapists give me a massage and it did nothing for me.

 

[ohrein]

While the first date kiss and third date sex rules are fine, they're pretty well accepted in the dating world, I wouldn't focus on just those. A woman might like you but you've failed to escalate properly. She will keep going on dates with you and sleep with you if keep escalating and break through any ASD. It's a mistake to say, well, it's the third date and she didn't have sex with me so I should next her! Look at her interest level. Look at her attraction to you. Most importantly, look at your own behavior! Escalate! Focus on her reaction to things, not the stats. You should be trying to play a woman like an instrument, not following a scripted plan and giving up when it doesn't just fall into place.

I actually messed up with my girlfriend by not escalating quickly enough. She told me later on when we were dating that she wasn't sure if I was even interested in her in that way. We didn't kiss until third date. Don't be me!