Save me SS: What can I do in my 20s to make up for a horrendous college experience?

[drakeisfire]

Won't get too much into my college experience as the past is the past but my college was like high school. You had the "popular kids" who got all the fun, got all the girls and the "college experience" and then you had a guy like me who had no big social circle, never got laid and was miserable.

I am still going by day to day thinking about how miserable I am now due to what I missed out on in college. Even the idea of getting older doesn't appeal to me because I don't see the fun of partying in my 30s and doing "adult" type parties with wine gallas as opposed to having fun. I feel like I need to do something to mentally get out of this issue I am having.

Currently I have a corporate 9 to 5 and make good money but the issue is that I am not having social fun in life. I am not running into as many party people or people who I feel can help me get the life I want of parties, sex and a lot of friends.

So my question to you guys is, what can I do in my 20s to be fulfilled and make up for a horrible college experience so I do not grow into a bitter old man?

What things do I need to do?

 

[marmel75]

Won't get too much into my college experience as the past is the past but my college was like high school. You had the "popular kids" who got all the fun, got all the girls and the "college experience" and then you had a guy like me who had no big social circle, never got laid and was miserable.

I am still going by day to day thinking about how miserable I am now due to what I missed out on in college. Even the idea of getting older doesn't appeal to me because I don't see the fun of partying in my 30s and doing "adult" type parties with wine gallas as opposed to having fun. I feel like I need to do something to mentally get out of this issue I am having.

Currently I have a corporate 9 to 5 and make good money but the issue is that I am not having social fun in life. I am not running into as many party people or people who I feel can help me get the life I want of parties, sex and a lot of friends.

So my question to you guys is, what can I do in my 20s to be fulfilled and make up for a horrible college experience so I do not grow into a bitter old man?

What things do I need to do?

Dude, just stop obsessing over it like a 13 year old girl does with Justin Bieber and move on with your life.

Whats done is done. You don't have any do overs, why the fvck are you so obsessed with the past?? Learn from what you did or did not do and dont make the same mistakes in the present and future.

You are wasting your time and emotional energy worrying over some stupid sh!t that is inconsequential and completely irrelevant to where you want to go and what you want to do moving forward.

Cut that sh!t out.

 

[Billtx49]

Won't get too much into my college experience as the past is the past but my college was like high school. You had the "popular kids" who got all the fun, got all the girls and the "college experience" and then you had a guy like me who had no big social circle, never got laid and was miserable.

I am still going by day to day thinking about how miserable I am now due to what I missed out on in college. Even the idea of getting older doesn't appeal to me because I don't see the fun of partying in my 30s and doing "adult" type parties with wine gallas as opposed to having fun. I feel like I need to do something to mentally get out of this issue I am having.

Currently I have a corporate 9 to 5 and make good money but the issue is that I am not having social fun in life. I am not running into as many party people or people who I feel can help me get the life I want of parties, sex and a lot of friends.

So my question to you guys is, what can I do in my 20s to be fulfilled and make up for a horrible college experience so I do not grow into a bitter old man?

What things do I need to do?

You can’t change your past. It’s not even worth whining about. What counts for you now is the attention you give to your present and gaining knowledge…

 

[drakeisfire]

Dude, just stop obsessing over it like a 13 year old girl does with Justin Bieber and move on with your life.

Whats done is done. You don't have any do overs, why the fvck are you so obsessed with the past?? Learn from what you did or did not do and dont make the same mistakes in the present and future.

You are wasting your time and emotional energy worrying over some stupid sh!t that is inconsequential and completely irrelevant to where you want to go and what you want to do moving forward.

Cut that sh!t out.

Dude, read.

I asked what I can do NOW, either give a good relevant answer or GTFO.

 

[drakeisfire]

How old are you? Asking seriously

23

 

[drakeisfire]

You can’t change your past. It’s not even worth whining about. What counts for you is the attention you give to your present…

Ya well the thread was asking what I can do IN THE PRESENT in order to impact how I feel in the future.

 

[sosousage]

Won't get too much into my college experience as the past is the past but my college was like high school. You had the "popular kids" who got all the fun, got all the girls and the "college experience" and then you had a guy like me who had no big social circle, never got laid and was miserable.

I am still going by day to day thinking about how miserable I am now due to what I missed out on in college. Even the idea of getting older doesn't appeal to me because I don't see the fun of partying in my 30s and doing "adult" type parties with wine gallas as opposed to having fun. I feel like I need to do something to mentally get out of this issue I am having.

Currently I have a corporate 9 to 5 and make good money but the issue is that I am not having social fun in life. I am not running into as many party people or people who I feel can help me get the life I want of parties, sex and a lot of friends.

So my question to you guys is, what can I do in my 20s to be fulfilled and make up for a horrible college experience so I do not grow into a bitter old man?

What things do I need to do?

omg boyo im exactly like u but i dont have good job.


you can find a plate and have sex with her

 

[marmel75]

Dude, read.

I asked what I can do NOW, either give a good relevant answer or GTFO.

It is a good answer because the threads you create about it are all tied together and come about because of your obsession about this whole "I missed out and i feel like crap about it" notion you have. The bottom line is you start living the way you want to live TODAY and stop worrying about the past.

If you think you can do that while still being obsessed over what you missed out on 5 years ago you are sorely mistaken. You can only look in one direction at any given time and your head is turned behind you instead of in front of you. Just like your body follows your head when you walk, your brain and subconcious mind follows your thoughts...keep obsessing about the past and you'll be stuck there the rest of your life.

You don't want to hear it but you need to hear it because it is the truth.

 

[fanatic22]

I've had sex with more girls since your last thread than I did in the entirety of my college experience

 

[Mike32ct]

Take a trip to Vegas.

 

[sosousage]

this thread is funny but true. i regret most of my pasts and i continue proscratinating and wasting time on things i shouldnt wast etime and i know i will regret it later just like i regret my past.






only way for me would be to stop wasting time on these things, THEN, fix my life and live in the present, HAPPILY

then you will have no flashbacks, etc. usually. unless u get sad

 

[drakeisfire]

It is a good answer because the threads you create about it are all tied together and come about because of your obsession about this whole "I missed out and i feel like crap about it" notion you have. The bottom line is you start living the way you want to live TODAY and stop worrying about the past.

If you think you can do that while still being obsessed over what you missed out on 5 years ago you are sorely mistaken. You can only look in one direction at any given time and your head is turned behind you instead of in front of you. Just like your body follows your head when you walk, your brain and subconcious mind follows your thoughts...keep obsessing about the past and you'll be stuck there the rest of your life.

You don't want to hear it but you need to hear it because it is the truth.

Well what can I do TODAY in order to move on from the past.

 

[drakeisfire]

What are you into? Do you have any passions? Feed them. Ever wanted to try something but never got around to it? Do it. Do you think you’re so masculine that the thought of yoga sounds gay? Try it.

Use your job as a means to support the lifestyle you want

I am into socializing with awesome people (on the younger end), smashing hot girls and all in all living the popular life but fear that the window of opportunity for that has passed. That is my worry dude, people around my age (mid 20s and on) SUCK!

They all "grow up" past their college days and treat college as the best time, seeing the things I wanna do as "stuff you should have done in college".

I have always wanted to work at a nightclub or cool party venue but find it impossible to find a way in.

I have always wanted to be in the "in crowd" with all the hot girls in it, have no idea how.

I have always wanted to get over 1k+ followers and 500+ likes on my Instagram account, no idea how.

TBH I've wanted to live the Wolf of Wall Street lifestyle on top of all of that too.

I want to experience the social experience I missed out on in college but worry if time has passed me by for that due to how much people suck after college (fun wise).

 

[sosousage]

I am into socializing with awesome people (on the younger end), smashing hot girls and all in all living the popular life but fear that the window of opportunity for that has passed. That is my worry dude, people around my age (mid 20s and on) SUCK!

They all "grow up" past their college days and treat college as the best time, seeing the things I wanna do as "stuff you should have done in college".

I have always wanted to work at a nightclub or cool party venue but find it impossible to find a way in.

I have always wanted to be in the "in crowd" with all the hot girls in it, have no idea how.

I have always wanted to get over 1k+ followers and 500+ likes on my Instagram account, no idea how.

TBH I've wanted to live the Wolf of Wall Street lifestyle on top of all of that too.

I want to experience the social experience I missed out on in college but worry if time has passed me by for that due to how much people suck after college (fun wise).

Wolf of wall street life style is meme and you would die of cardiac disease after all these stimulant drugs

 

[Magotrox]

Read "The Book of Pook"; and the "The Rational Male" (by Rollo Tomassi).

 

[ohrein]

You didn't miss anything. High school was awkward and terrible for more people than not. I enjoy being thirty more than I did partying playing in bands in my early twenties. Work on your health and career now, that's my advice!

 

[Billtx49]

They all "grow up" past their college days and treat college as the best time, seeing the things I wanna do as "stuff you should have done in college".

They’re all maturing normally, living in their own present according to their current needs, and seeing their past as being in the past. Try it.

 

[skinnyguy]

I am into socializing with awesome people (on the younger end), smashing hot girls and all in all living the popular life but fear that the window of opportunity for that has passed. That is my worry dude, people around my age (mid 20s and on) SUCK!

They all "grow up" past their college days and treat college as the best time, seeing the things I wanna do as "stuff you should have done in college".

I have always wanted to work at a nightclub or cool party venue but find it impossible to find a way in.

I have always wanted to be in the "in crowd" with all the hot girls in it, have no idea how.

I have always wanted to get over 1k+ followers and 500+ likes on my Instagram account, no idea how.

TBH I've wanted to live the Wolf of Wall Street lifestyle on top of all of that too.

I want to experience the social experience I missed out on in college but worry if time has passed me by for that due to how much people suck after college (fun wise).

Maybe your destiny is to be a married guy who works a 9-5 and comes home to his wife. If you want to live a playboy life, stop whining about the past and work out 2 hours a day, try to become a club promoter in Vegas, or start dealing drugs. You can’t life the playboy lifestyle if you’re working some 9-5 corporate job.

 

[RangerMIke]

@drakeisfire What are you passionate about? Do you align with any causes you really care about... Politics? Environment? Healthy Eating? Art? Cosplay? I'm not judging.... sh!t anything.... Then seek out groups that share your passion and get involved. Basically what you should have done in college.... college is filled with organizations you can get involved with an this is how you build a social circle. Me.... I'm concerned with environmental issues, green space renewal in cities, job training in secondary education, and biking ... and I works with 4 groups that are involved in these. But you do it to get involved, so you have to be interested in hat you are doing... take a leadership role in these groups and the chicks will come.

Also, take up yoga. Best decision of my life doing that. I've been practicing for 3 years now and the results are phenomenal. Plus the chicks are great.

 

[The Diver]

Also, take up yoga. Best decision of my life doing that. I've been practicing for 3 years now and the results are phenomenal.

Hey mate, why it's the best decision in your life, and what kind of phenomenal results are you talking about? Cheers.