How the hell do most avg mid to late 20s men have dating lives???

[guru1000]

So why is it you go on dating sites and you can use a picture of a 7.5/10 male and you are guaranteed to get zero replies or messages and you use pics of a 9-10/10 and you get tons and tons of messages and replies all over?

Supply and demand.

OLD economics <> Reality economics

In the last 12 months, how many women have you approached?

Probably like 7 or 8

LOL.

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

If I counted how many different people here have told me I was extraordinarily handsome, gorgeous, etc... in the last 10 years, it might take me an entire month to total the numbers

Could it be that girls want something OTHER than looks?

Something that YOU DON'T HAVE?

 

[bigdave17]

Damn dude, if you spent only 10% of the energy you spend rationalizing your failures on actually approaching and TALKING TO PEOPLE you would be a lot more successful.

I talk to people all the time. I make new friends on a consistent basis. I wish I had more free time so I could hang out with new people but I work so damn much. I met 5 new people last night at this bowling place and bar right afterwards - all 5 liked me quite a bit and instantly.

The problem here is that you're putting the easy process of talking to people and making friends on the same level as getting a hot 25 year old to go out with you. People don't have any standards for making friends - if you're genuinely a nice person, they will want to be around you. A hot 25 year old has 23590235823058205285032852305820532053825032 dating options - you have to qualify a billion different things for her to want to make time to see you.

 

[bigdave17]

Could it be that girls want something OTHER than looks?

Something that YOU DON'T HAVE?

things that people talk about are important to getting girls

Looks - check
Body - check
fashion sense/style - check
Money - check
intelligence - check
character/morals - quadruple check. I'm the most loyal and loving friend/son/brother/etc... you will ever find. I support damn near my entire extended family in Armenia to this day and I ask for nothing in return

 

[bigdave17]

Supply and demand.

OLD economics <> Reality economics

dude outside of online dating, I don't have many options. I live in the suburbs in Chicago. I don't see hot women my age outside of gyms, bars and online dating

and I'm glad you at least admitted that you need to be a 10/10 to stand out in OLD (or any dating for that matter). These 6 and 7 females nowadays know they can punch way way wayyyyyyyyyyyyyy above their league if they just hold out long enough. Why settle for a 7.5 when you can get a 10/10?

besides, I'm only 5'10 5'11 ish and my hair sucks. I have a patch thinning in the crown and mild recession on the temples. I'm getting surgery done this year but if I was a woman, I would want the guy who has naturally perfect hair that never recedes at all

 

[Alvafe]

How can someone NOT have a dating life ? You gotta be a real creep/weirdo to not have one.

actually that is pretty simple, just be extreme naive/ shy/ never take initiative, or put a too high bar for you go after girls, always looking for that 9-10, never go out, have a defeating personality, a victimist personality, too lazy to even date.

have any of these and you are set, now you can see and understand what you shouldn't do so you can date someone

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Hate to be a d*ck, but the c stands for "closing."

Awesome .

 

[flowtheory]

Question to which I often wonder..

On both OLD and real world, why is it that women feel they expect and will only accept that top 1% of man? Even if they themselves are merely average?

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Question to which I often wonder..

On both OLD and real world, why is it that women feel they expect and will only accept that top 1% of man? Even if they themselves are merely average?

Who cares, phvck them .

 

[Chev.Chelios]

jesus christ, let's all fly to Daves city and take him out for a weekend for the 9s and 10s <3

 

[flowtheory]

jesus christ, let's all fly to Daves city and take him out for a weekend for the 9s and 10s <3

How interesting would that be to rendezvous at a random location in the world then actually go out in to field and see who actually knows what they’re talking about.

 

[bigdave17]

Question to which I often wonder..

On both OLD and real world, why is it that women feel they expect and will only accept that top 1% of man? Even if they themselves are merely average?

thats their nature

online dating, they're looking for top 0.001% of men. That classic male model type who is 6'2 and ripped is beyond incredibly rare. I rarely see anybody who is much better looking than me and I'm only like a 7 to 8/10

 

[Igetit!]

things that people talk about are important to getting girls

Looks - check
Body - check
fashion sense/style - check
Money - check
intelligence - check
character/morals - quadruple check. I'm the most loyal and loving friend/son/brother/etc... you will ever find. I support damn near my entire extended family in Armenia to this day and I ask for nothing in return

Wow,that's.....that's quite a list there. And you have "checks" by each one of those....looks,body,fashion,money,etc,etc.

That's a pretty good list,but I notice one thing you left out.......

CONFIDENCE.

Having everything you mentioned above without confidence is like having a shiny,brand new car with all the latest gadgets,gizmos,technology,and sleek design..........but with an EMPTY gas tank. Doesn't matter how good it looks,how fast it can go,or how many "compliments" it gets....if the tank is empty,you're not going to get very far.


So everything you put "checks" by......body,money,fashion,intelligence,morals,good looks.......without CONFIDENCE,all those things together don't mean sh*t.

Anyway,I noticed you left that off your list.

So......you put checks by money,body,looks,and morals......

Does confidence get a "check" too?

 

[Chev.Chelios]

Dave wtf as in older guy try and go to the clubs and bars in your city, befriend all the playerz.. and join the rsd circles, start throwing party's and chit which is the better use of your money.

post epic stories on social media and create a poon funnel.

 

[djthiago1]

actually that is pretty simple, just be extreme naive/ shy/ never take initiative, or put a too high bar for you go after girls, always looking for that 9-10, never go out, have a defeating personality, a victimist personality, too lazy to even date.

have any of these and you are set, now you can see and understand what you shouldn't do so you can date someone

Summing up, creep, weirdo, AND dumb. Thanks haha

 

[bigdave17]

Dave wtf as in older guy try and go to the clubs and bars in your city, befriend all the playerz.. and join the rsd circles, start throwing party's and chit which is the better use of your money.

post epic stories on social media and create a poon funnel.

I go out 2 to 3 times a week. My best friend is a multi multi millionaire 42 year old good looking super muscular alpha dude. @guru1000 he is very similar to you actually

I also vacation 7 8 times a year, go to the best concerts, sports events, festivals, restaurants, etc... etc... etc... I'm not a social hermit by any means whatsoever. I've always been very active socially and made tons and tons of friends and had people like me everywhere I went.

 

[Chev.Chelios]

that's great then, your already doing way better then many of us but youre just lacking in the poon department?

 

[bigdave17]

that's great then, your already doing way better then many of us but youre just lacking in the poon department?

I've been doing everything people tell me to do have women in my life for many many years and been succeeding massively at everything except the women, which has been an incredible failure.

 

[Chev.Chelios]

it's easy dave, really easy. so easy it'll make your head spin.

 

[bigdave17]

it's easy dave, really easy. so easy it'll make your head spin.

I was making 150K in a cheap area (this is like 500K in NYC) and had a 2500 square foot house and 70K luxury car at 24-25. Think about that for a second- the avg 24 year old is just graduating college and probably doesn't have 2 pennies in his name.

I've been doing the going out 2 to 4 times per week/parties/clubs/restaurants/festivals/sports events/concerts/vacations 8 times a year in the most amazing locations for 5 years now. Just an amazing amazing lifestyle...I've been very blessed. Meanwhile I can't even get a date with anybody decent.