The hotter they are, the more insecure?

[El Payaso]

It always seems like the hot ones are the most insecure. Even though they have a train of orbiters lined up, receive lots of compliments everyday and approached by countless men, they usually seem to have more insecurities than the less hot ones.

Why is this?

 

[Solomon]

The hot ones are more narcissistic make no mistake this whole "insecure" thing is a myth

are hot women insecure? not in public in private the next morning after a drunken coke binged hookup sure...

 

[Red Legg]

NO.In my experience the "hot ones " feel like a goddess and EXPECT to be worshiped at all times,most men will oblige them and bow down before the pvssy pedestal and worship the goddess,so when a man comes along and does not worship that man stands out the goddesss gets pissed and wonders why and chases the dude to try and make him worship....they are not insecure at all quite the opposite really.They expect you to bow down.More of an entitlement mentality.

 

[BeExcellent]

It always seems like the hot ones are the most insecure. Even though they have a train of orbiters lined up, receive lots of compliments everyday and approached by countless men, they usually seem to have more insecurities than the less hot ones.

Why is this?

It has everything to do with how they are valued and validated growing up and as young women. Lots of pretty girls are raised spoiled. The are indulged by their parents, told they are the most beautiful girl in the world, treated like princesses and stuff like that. And they ARE pretty. They get a sense of entitlement. As a woman who was NOT raised this way I was stunned when I started to realize this is how so many women are brought up. My girlfriends in college educated me about it, and I know of one cousin in my own family who was raised like that (who was, is, and always will be an insecure HOT mess).

But out in the real world pretty by itself isn't enough to make a quality person. So what happens is that these hot women eventually run into someone hotter, or someone with a better body or whatever, and suddenly they can see that they AREN'T the most beautiful girl in the world, even if they are very pretty and/or very hot. This threatens what they were raised to believe (their core belief), and so they become competitive, neurotic and insecure.

In my family (there were 4 sisters and we are all pretty and fit) looks were never emphasized. In fact I think in my family it was too much to the opposite extreme. Although all of us were/are beautiful women, that was never what my parents focused on. Rather my parents required character, impeccable manners, high grades & academic achievement, work ethic, intelligence, and emotional stability. There was discipline in the home and structure. As my sisters and I discovered that we were pretty relative to many other women, it was kind of like a cool bonus, and we each appreciated that oh, by the way, we happened to be pretty in addition to being accomplished. So that creates a different, more grounded attitude.

If you want to find hot women who also have good character your best bet to look in places where people of character hang out. Can you stumble across a hot woman with character in a bar or club? You can, because single women with character go out sometimes too, but your percentage chance of that is relatively low. You go to a volunteer organization or an exercise class, or church (not a 100% play - but higher % than the bars and clubs) or some other type activity that attracts people with certain character traits and you will find people with the sort of character you want. Then sort for looks.

Most men screen on looks first where ever they run into women, and then try looking for character (if character matters at all) second. When you approach it that way you'll see it exactly as you are witnessing. Hot women rarely have character. What if you sought out environments in which certain character traits are already selected for, and then screen for looks?

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

It really depends. The ones that are hot even when they dress badly and don’t wear makeup and are really popular aren’t insecure at all and actually have high self esteem. But the ones who do have low self esteem typically do so because they are only valued for their looks and nothing more, plus those don’t look as good without makeup or nice clothing. They don’t have much personality either.

It really depends on white TYPE of ‘hot’ you’re talking about.

 

[BeExcellent]

The ones that are hot even when they dress badly and don’t wear makeup and are really popular aren’t insecure at all and actually have high self esteem.

This is so important to understand. High self esteem women don't feel the need to impress. They simply are as they are, which is attractive in and of itself. You'll find them to be giving and kind more often than not too. And if they are also very physically attractive? They go off the market quickly and often are wifed up young. This further skews the singles scene because the best women aren't in it by and large.

 

[wifehunter]

Most HB10s are too busy being chased and worshipped by white knights, to work on their passions and goals. So, they end up not being the full package, just an empty shell.

Deep down, they know they have little to offer, because one day those looks will be GONE

 

[mrgoodstuff]

NO.In my experience the "hot ones " feel like a goddess and EXPECT to be worshiped at all times,most men will oblige them and bow down before the pvssy pedestal and worship the goddess,so when a man comes along and does not worship that man stands out the goddesss gets pissed and wonders why and chases the dude to try and make him worship....they are not insecure at all quite the opposite really.They expect you to bow down.More of an entitlement mentality.

They'll be insecure if you don't bow. You can do well thought out and nice things for them and they view it as submission. Never do extra for a females cause you think she's hot.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

This is so important to understand. High self esteem women don't feel the need to impress. They simply are as they are, which is attractive in and of itself. You'll find them to be giving and kind more often than not too. And if they are also very physically attractive? They go off the market quickly and often are wifed up young. This further skews the singles scene because the best women aren't in it by and large.

The best wives usually aren't the best looking. A great wife will go to war for you. A good looking one will be worrying about herself and how it makes her look.

 

[wifehunter]

The best wives usually aren't the best looking. A great wife will go to war for you. A good looking one will be worrying about herself and how it makes her look.

Yeah I'd take a cute HB7, no makeup, hiking, cargo pants wearing chick, over a prissy spoiled HB10! Any day of the week.

Low maintenance, is the goal.

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

You'll find them to be giving and kind more often than not too.

I find this to be a person characteristic rather than related to looks. The high self esteem girls I was referring to tend to be more down to earth types than caring and giving. So they can still be bitchy if the guy can’t take a hint or something.

 

[Von]

It has everything to do with how they are valued and validated growing up and as young women. Lots of pretty girls are raised spoiled. The are indulged by their parents, told they are the most beautiful girl in the world, treated like princesses and stuff like that. And they ARE pretty. They get a sense of entitlement. As a woman who was NOT raised this way I was stunned when I started to realize this is how so many women are brought up. My girlfriends in college educated me about it, and I know of one cousin in my own family who was raised like that (who was, is, and always will be an insecure HOT mess).

But out in the real world pretty by itself isn't enough to make a quality person. So what happens is that these hot women eventually run into someone hotter, or someone with a better body or whatever, and suddenly they can see that they AREN'T the most beautiful girl in the world, even if they are very pretty and/or very hot. This threatens what they were raised to believe (their core belief), and so they become competitive, neurotic and insecure.

In my family (there were 4 sisters and we are all pretty and fit) looks were never emphasized. In fact I think in my family it was too much to the opposite extreme. Although all of us were/are beautiful women, that was never what my parents focused on. Rather my parents required character, impeccable manners, high grades & academic achievement, work ethic, intelligence, and emotional stability. There was discipline in the home and structure. As my sisters and I discovered that we were pretty relative to many other women, it was kind of like a cool bonus, and we each appreciated that oh, by the way, we happened to be pretty in addition to being accomplished. So that creates a different, more grounded attitude.

If you want to find hot women who also have good character your best bet to look in places where people of character hang out. Can you stumble across a hot woman with character in a bar or club? You can, because single women with character go out sometimes too, but your percentage chance of that is relatively low. You go to a volunteer organization or an exercise class, or church (not a 100% play - but higher % than the bars and clubs) or some other type activity that attracts people with certain character traits and you will find people with the sort of character you want. Then sort for looks.

Most men screen on looks first where ever they run into women, and then try looking for character (if character matters at all) second. When you approach it that way you'll see it exactly as you are witnessing. Hot women rarely have character. What if you sought out environments in which certain character traits are already selected for, and then screen for looks?

Exactly.

Most "hot" women were always their entire life considered... valuable because of their look.

Even HOT girls want to be more than "look, trophy"

All the girls I date are afraid of being a "trophy" on my shelves.

HOT girls are the most insecured especially if they have only looks... because they were always validated on "look alone" .

Remember what this site say: "hot girl have free pass"

What do you think free pass those to you?

It makes you entitled, lower your self of worth etc... because you are glorified for no reasons of your own (except for been born lucky)

I am a man, I grew up in a world where I never had to raise a finger... I learnt how to cook at 22 years old or 24 when I moved out... yet every move I made I was considered a "amazing kid" by my parents.

Trust me...all my life I was fishing for insults or complains because all my life I was "perfect" just because I was breathing.

People with a concept of self... it turns them into insecure.

So you have the HOT girl who's afraid you only love her for her look.

On the other side, you have the SUPERHOT girls (super model looking) who are super easy because all the guys are afraid of them due to their "super hot look" (except some bad boys )

A girl with values and well raised might be less insecure or aim more at the good guys, and avoid the C carousel.

Still remain: girls are insecure by nature, hot girls are even more insecure because they afraid you are only in their look (they might feel they have only that going for them... look at porn actress.. They all hot and selling their body with issues)

So yeah... they might all be "so godly" in public.. But they all have to take a break at the bath room, they have all their issues.

People who feel they have nothing to offer from the inside, and only to offer from the outside (external validation) are insecure.

Ugly girl are also insecure that's why they work more on their "inner offering aka better personality or in bed etc"

People put women on pedestal... even Disney said the princess is "always the most beautiful women physically" .

Look is easy to compare and like wifehunter said: it's goes away.


Guy will tend to go at their HB level or lower to feed their own ego. That's why "average" girls have more "sexual pressure" from the male group.

The 1% exist because they only 1%... the 99% or 80% are always fishing among the same 99 or 80.
The famous saying: 20% of the saleforce sales more than the other. 80%

If you feel, you can't be a 1% or a 20%... you'll play with 80%.

There is less competition in the 1 or 20 but sure they stronger.

At the end.. You'll always deal with insecurity.. You want one that doesn't drive you nuts if you looking for LTR

 

[Red Legg]

They'll be insecure if you don't bow. You can do well thought out and nice things for them and they view it as submission. Never do extra for a females cause you think she's hot.

No they won't....they can get 1000 just like you..they will only feel insecure if they genuinely like you and you don't bow...but that is rare for them to encounter.

 

[devilkingx2]

Hot girls that are insecure are probably nuts. Like, it's everyone's wet dream to meet an HB9 that is absolutely convinced that she's an HB6 that would be lucky to get a guy who was a 7 out of 10, but the truth is that a girl that delusional is probably insane.

I think self esteem and attractiveness are two different attributes that can go together but don't have to, you'll find ugly girls convinced they're goddesses and you'll find hot girls convinced that they're mediocre at best.

As for whether or not hotter girls have lower self esteem, I'd say girls that put more effort into their appearance do so for the same reasons men do, either a belief they're not attractive enough(insecurity), narcissism or a thirst for attention. So if you see a girl wearing a full face of makeup at the supermarket expect one of those 3 things.

 

[sosousage]

Hot girls that are insecure are probably nuts. Like, it's everyone's wet dream to meet an HB9 that is absolutely convinced that she's an HB6 that would be lucky to get a guy who was a 7 out of 10, but the truth is that a girl that delusional is probably insane.

I think self esteem and attractiveness are two different attributes that can go together but don't have to, you'll find ugly girls convinced they're goddesses and you'll find hot girls convinced that they're mediocre at best.

As for whether or not hotter girls have lower self esteem, I'd say girls that put more effort into their appearance do so for the same reasons men do, either a belief they're not attractive enough(insecurity), narcissism or a thirst for attention. So if you see a girl wearing a full face of makeup at the supermarket expect one of those 3 things.

Tbh i wouldnt care about gym if i could attract girls without it

 

[marmel75]

It always seems like the hot ones are the most insecure. Even though they have a train of orbiters lined up, receive lots of compliments everyday and approached by countless men, they usually seem to have more insecurities than the less hot ones.

Why is this?

A lot of times they are...because they are used to people acting and treating then a certain way and they think if a hair is out of plave or their makeup isnt perfect they wont be able to elicit the same responses.

Also if they can't get you to react the way they are used to having guys react around them they start to wonder why thats happening and if there is something wrong with them...cue hair...makeup...clothes they have on...etc

Basically they get so much attention that when they fail to get it they think there has to be something wrong with them

 

[RichardTheFrog]

A lot of times they are...because they are used to people acting and treating then a certain way and they think if a hair is out of plave or their makeup isnt perfect they wont be able to elicit the same responses.

Also if they can't get you to react the way they are used to having guys react around them they start to wonder why thats happening and if there is something wrong with them...cue hair...makeup...clothes they have on...etc

Basically they get so much attention that when they fail to get it they think there has to be something wrong with them

That sounds like the mind of an infant.

 

[Glassguy]

This is so important to understand. High self esteem women don't feel the need to impress. They simply are as they are, which is attractive in and of itself. You'll find them to be giving and kind more often than not too. And if they are also very physically attractive? They go off the market quickly and often are wifed up young. This further skews the singles scene because the best women aren't in it by and large.

Agreed.

Women who are educated, independent (financially and emotionally) and have their life in order AND are very attractive don't need as much validation. They are more outcome indifferent because they may WANT a man but don't NEED a man to survive.

Same as a high value man with the same attributes.

When women are able to be happy on their own, no matter how hot their looks are.......they are much less insecure than a woman with the same looks that has a mess of a life, poor education and finanially looking for their next male victim.

Just my $.02.

 

[CMNILS87]

What sounds like insecurities is really fishing for attention. “Omg my butt is so big”, oh no baby it’s perfect. Oh thanks babe.

Her: My butts so big eeew
Me: Hmm, well I wasn’t going to say anything, butt.....

Women are weird that they just bring that **** up in the middle of a convo

 

[RichardTheFrog]

What sounds like insecurities is really fishing for attention. “Omg my butt is so big”, oh no baby it’s perfect. Oh thanks babe.

Her: My butts so big eeew
Me: Hmm, well I wasn’t going to say anything, butt.....

Women are weird that they just bring that **** up in the middle of a convo

Again...

Sounds like the mind of a toddler