Do all women become clingy when they fall in love?

[El Payaso]

Pretty much every girl I've dated became clingy once they started liking me. They want to text or call every day and those things are counterproductive to the relationship because familiarity breeds contempt and lowers attraction when you become too available.

 

[sosousage]

Pretty much every girl I've dated became clingy once they started liking me. They want to text or call every day and those things are counterproductive to the relationship because familiarity breeds contempt and lowers attraction when you become too available.

and then they dump you

its best to never let them be convinced they are our #1

 

[Billtx49]

Pretty much every girl I've dated became clingy once they started liking me. They want to text or call every day and those things are counterproductive to the relationship because familiarity breeds contempt and lowers attraction when you become too available.

I personally take it as an covert compliment when I get that kind of attention from a woman. You’re right though it is counterproductive if you’re too available with your reply’s. If she’s stage 5 over the top with it, she nexting herself.

 

[Bible_Belt]

I've always thought that guys tend to over-do the scarcity routine. If you have options (like women do), then you need to screen those options, and you can't do that by ignoring them. If I have the time, I'll text with a girl as much as I want to, with the objective of potentially disqualifying her, instead of worrying about the other way around.

 

[Urbanyst]

Pretty much every girl I've dated became clingy once they started liking me. They want to text or call every day and those things are counterproductive to the relationship because familiarity breeds contempt and lowers attraction when you become too available.

YES.

They usually want to call/text several times a day. When you go too long without responding they freak out.

Whenever I experience this I just prepare myself for the inevitable decline of the relationship because I know that situation is not sustainable and eventually things will degrade into drama or loss of interest or some other lame situation.

I would say.. once girls get clingy with you, that's the best time to start meeting new plates. You know. Just in case lol.

 

[wifehunter]

I'm soo scarce, I'm invisible.

They don't want to let you out of their sight, for fear of the competition. It's a sign of insecurity.

A man needs his space. Some, more than others.

 

[El Payaso]

It would be nice to meet a girl who can maintain a healthy sense of self and distance.

 

[Urbanyst]

It would be nice to meet a girl who can maintain a healthy sense of self and distance.

Also known as a unicorn.

Good luck lol.

 

[wifehunter]

It would be nice to meet a girl who can maintain a healthy sense of self and distance.

Marriage material there!

Most people have boundary issues. It's how we were brought up by our parents. Mine were always in my face, and on my case.

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

The solution is pretty simple. Just tell them that you need a little more space. Like "Hey listen, I like you and all, but I need some space. I appreciate that you care about me so much, but I just a little more time for myself", or something like that.

I personally find it pleasing when they're gushing for me like 'oh stawp it youuu' kind haha. Plus maybe I'm a bit lazy and don't want to put as much effort into the relationship, so she kinda does that for me.

 

[wifehunter]

The solution is pretty simple. Just tell them that you need a little more space. Like "Hey listen, I like you and all, but I need some space. I appreciate that you care about me so much, but I just a little more time for myself", or something like that.

Poor girls may interpret this as a breakup!

Remember... with chickies, the feeling thing, trumps logic and reason.

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

Poor girls may interpret this as a breakup!

Remember... with chickies, the feeling thing, trumps logic and reason.

Say it diplomatically then. Plan a date after that or something. Most of the time they don't get so hurt.

 

[wifehunter]

Say it diplomatically then. Plan a date after that or something. Most of the time they don't get so hurt.

over ice cream may work!!!

 

[lizardking82]

It would be nice to meet a girl who can maintain a healthy sense of self and distance.

You cannot meet a girl like that, but you can train a girl to be like that easily. You both will talk more and more up to the point of sex and then a natural cool off happens. If she wants to override that cool off period, you try and rewire her brain if you like her.

 

[noBSgames]

Marriage material there!

Most people have boundary issues. It's how we were brought up by our parents. Mine were always in my face, and on my case.

My current girlfriend told me the magic words she was OK with me going out with my buddies shes not one to have to know were I'm at 24/7 or if I don't text back as soon as she texts me she is going to freak out.. yes she knows sometimes I'm working so I can't respond right away.

 

[Von]

Mine find I text her too much , she even said.. She needs 24h to cooldown lol

But one time she did Text me the ....
When I didn't reply right away
First time she did that in 7months.

You want a girl who can be clingy but with a brain (hence not emotionally desperate)

 

[Trump]

Pretty much every girl I've dated became clingy once they started liking me. They want to text or call every day and those things are counterproductive to the relationship because familiarity breeds contempt and lowers attraction when you become too available.

I don't know about that. I know lots and lots guys who, when they meet nice good looking educated young single girls with little baggage and no kids, throw the kitchen sink at them to try and get them to commit because they want a wife and start a family.

And if you like them and don't throw the kitchen sink at them, you will regret you didn't do everything in your power to get them.

It's weird. Sosuave members go from "she's desperately in love with me after 2 dates, I need my space." to

"she has responded to my text, what do I do, what do I do, what do I do? in 45 seconds.

Find out what your aim is, your goal is, and go from there.

 

[Macaframalama]

Pretty much every girl I've dated became clingy once they started liking me. They want to text or call every day and those things are counterproductive to the relationship because familiarity breeds contempt and lowers attraction when you become too available.

Familiarity only breeds contempt, when given a reason to lose respect.

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

It would be nice to meet a girl who can maintain a healthy sense of self and distance.

You're assuming those girls would be attracted to you.

 

[El Payaso]

Familiarity only breeds contempt, when given a reason to lose respect.

Please expand on this.