Where would you suggest meeting these type of women?
The reality is for young men, trying to improve their station in life is no easy feat. Advancing their careers, aggressively learning new things, investing in their finance and health - all this is immensely time consuming. But of course like attracts like and so a man, as a general rule, needs to be a certain standard if he wishes to attract and keep beautiful women from the upper echolens of society.
It's catch-22. Most advice aimed at finding the hottest women requires time (e.g. cold approaching), something the time poor young man can I'll afford if he is truly trying to invest in himself.
Club/tinder girls don't interest me anymore. The low hanging fruit no longer satisfies. I came from nothing so the idea of matching with a upper middle class woman definitely appeals. Im basically Littlefinger, without the psychotic tendencies. Id marry for love (i have accepted marriage will be necessary to lock down woman high up the social ladder) but I am still practical. I'm considering a website called elitesingles but am still sceptical that truly "high quality" women would ever need to use online dating
In my experience all my friends who are dating women I'd consider marriage quality met them at university or in the first few years of work. I went to an "elite" university and started my career at an "elite" firm that recruits hundreds of graduates a year. Now in my late 20s I'm finding it a lot harder to meet the standard of women (certainly in terms of social background) that were abundant in my days as a student and in my early career. I'm beginning to feel as if I may have actually missed the boat.
To be frank its a bit of a crapshoot on the surface. If you want to meet more affluent people, including the sort woman you envision you have to go where
affluent people go. That means spend the money to live in an area where they live and matriculate at places within that area that they also frequent. You can go to the local coffee shops, say, but the coffee shop on the Upper East Side in Manhattan say is going to a light years different crowd than the coffee shop in Queens. That's the way it is.
If you have ties to an elite university, see about getting involved in alumnae functions and groups. If you are still in proximity to that school, enroll in an ad hoc class you are interested in to expand your knowledge and as a benefit give you exposure to the social environment on campus or find something associated with the school where you can serve as a volunteer.
What I see going on here and elsewhere with young single men is this realization (and disgust) with the expected norms set forth by society. Call it what you like. Some call it the female imperative, some call it societal constraints, some call it blue pill or whatever but it's all the same sort of thing. Men who become aware of the system or feel left out of the system become disenchanted and rebel against it. But in the process they can get left on the outside looking in. They throw the proverbial baby out with the bathwater.
The problem, as you have noted
@BeTheChange is that the most desirable women actually buy into the norms and expectations and they tend to go through life phases looking to meet those expectations. So at university these women date with the goal of seeking husbands and building futures, and they choose a man and get married toward the end of their university experience or early on in their working years as you note. My mother did this, my grandmothers both did this, my sisters all did this, my girlfriends all did, and I did too. So during the decade of a man's 20s the best women are actively getting selected by men for marriage and the market reflects this over time. It is what it is. I certainly think many men are simply swept along as well and fall into the expectation unawares (or perhaps they want this as well), but it doesn't turn out all bad for these men as some here might like us to think.
I know too many happy marrieds who have been together too long and who are pleased as ever that they made their choices in their youth. Couples who have raised children together, suffered death and loss of parents together, met life head on together and come through it stronger and with deep gratitude for their partners. OK enough soap box. Back to the question posed...
Affluent areas, alumnae groups, charity endeavors, volunteer endeavors, university class, fitness classes in an area with the sort of people you'd like to meet (yoga, ballroom dance, runner's clubs, cycling groups, surfing groups, etc.) art openings, wine tastings, fine dining groups, church or synagogue in the sorts of areas where people you'd like to meet attend, etc. etc. Even if you don't meet a woman immediately doing such things you need to meet the types of people socially who live as you would like to live and make friends. By expanding your social contacts you will expand both your social network and your sphere of influence. You'll meet people through your social networks. You should mention what a nice girl so-and-so appears to be, how nice it would be to know a woman like her. You should also take advantage of social circles with your buddies who have already met women you deem marriageable. These women have friends and aquaintances. Mean while keep working on yourself and maximizing your own personal potential. In doing these two things you'll find yourself creating what you seek because you'll put yourself in a place where opportunity and preparation can meet up. You absolutely can manifest this desire now that you have identified the desire. You can do it purposefully and yet experience it organically. Trust the process and trust yourself.
I've given this advice to others before around here and been confronted with the response of "...but I don't WANT to be like THOSE people...I think THOSE people are fake", etc. etc. etc. Please note that such an attitude is one from a person who doesn't believe in his own worthiness to have or experience things THOSE people have or enjoy, it is a self-disqualification and it suggests the need for further personal growth to feel one is worthy to be accepted by THOSE people whoever THOSE people may be.
I don't believe you have that attitude, BTC but some do. There is no reason in the world why you shouldn't enjoy the fruits of life as you envision it. Set your goals, take the appropriate actions and make it so.
Cheers, BE
