Advice insight thnx

[Meektrop]

Aight DJ's im in a predicament but a little back story I am 29 just got back stateside after a long stint overseas in a very expensive area so I don't even have stable housing yet... I work in a gentleman's club been there a few months after getting back at first my goal was to just save up and figure out my next move I have no problem getting attention from the girls I would just play them along and take the money they offered me it's a good job for a confident attractive guy and let me also mention I haven't even ****ed one girl there yet no matter how hard they want it im not after that at this point in my life

But now my DJ's im feeling a certain way call it oneitis call it love but I actually caught feelings for one of the girls she liked me her friend kept hinting it to me I was flirting with another girl she even came up and said "your mine not hers" and that just sort of hit me like that made me pursue her I went against the pimp mentality and bought her a gift!!! She liked it got her number started texting now and then always me initiating and im investing my time with her helped her out with some personal issues and to thank me she gets drunk and says she cant go home so I get a hotel room take her there and honestly I was way too tired to **** so we just talked make out and give a little tit play o left her with a hickey fast forward a couple weeks later she cools off a bit mainly cuz we were getting to affectionate @ work I agreed never got another chance to **** but when I get her alone I get some good kissing and body play in last weekend's shes drunk again but wants to go to a club so I get her there I was grabbing her ass in the street she tells me shes gonna punch me one day if I keep doin that she goes on to say shes not that kind of girl im like fine then she goes deeper she admits she likes that I'm affectionate but she is emotionally ****ed up so I tell ask her should I just back off she says no that killed me mood I let her go to the club alone I opted to go to the gym instead I called her a couple of hours later to make sure she was ok. She wanted to see me I could tell she was ****ed up I told her I was at the gym she said she would call me after she left the club never did I call her an hour or so later 3 missed calls text her of shes aight she texts back that she is... at this point im irritated so I just go get some sleep and thinking **** this ***** next night she adds me on fb cuz Idk I sent her a request weeks ago but so far im not attempting to contact her cuz I feel a certain way and I shouldn't reward that behaviour but at the same time I caught feelings for her so I am ****ed either way so DJ's I know I am going against all logic by pursuing this but what can I say the heart wants what it wants and im beating myself over it more that enough lol
any insight or advice would be appreciated

 

[Thorninmyside]

Aight dawg y'all need to punctuate n sh*it.

Come on man. You work in a gentleman's club, yet you don't know how gentlemen talk?

 

[Meektrop]

Aight dawg y'all need to punctuate n sh*it.

Come on man. You work in a gentleman's club, yet you don't know how gentlemen talk?

So sorry to offend you brother. I apologize for my lack of grammatical forte, I never learned.

 

[beforeimgone]

Yes, I fvcked her the first night I met her. She blew me and then blew my friend after she left my house. She's a classic slvt. After she blew me, she told me about all the guys that take her out and offered to get me something on their dime. I of course accepted.

This may not have happened with your girl, but I cannot guarantee it because most slvts act the same. If this hasn't happened to you yet, it will at the rate you are going.

Snap out of it, bud.

 

[Meektrop]

Yes, I fvcked her the first night I met her. She blew me and then blew my friend after she left my house. She's a classic slvt. After she blew me, she told me about all the guys that take her out and offered to get me something on their dime. I of course accepted.

This may not have happened with your girl, but I cannot guarantee it because most slvts act the same. If this hasn't happened to you yet, it will at the rate you are going.

Snap out of it, bud.

I get what you're saying. But to be completely honest I don't care about any of that except for the blowing my friend part. I'm not naive I know what I'm dealing with I mean I know exactly where I met her and what she does for a living, so there is no deception there. I guess I'm trying to pursue this as a pimp/boyfriend at the moment the only problem is I caught feelings early but I'm no overly jealous. Fact of the matter is so many failed LTR's with seemingly good girls on the outside i guess I'm trying something out of the box and im doing my best to keep my feelings in check and my frame reminding myself every now and then when she pops in my head "fvck that b1tch" and so on

 

[beforeimgone]

I get what you're saying. But to be completely honest I don't care about any of that except for the blowing my friend part. I'm not naive I know what I'm dealing with I mean I know exactly where I met her and what she does for a living, so there is no deception there. I guess I'm trying to pursue this as a pimp/boyfriend at the moment the only problem is I caught feelings early but I'm no overly jealous. Fact of the matter is so many failed LTR's with seemingly good girls on the outside i guess I'm trying something out of the box and im doing my best to keep my feelings in check and my frame reminding myself every now and then when she pops in my head "fvck that b1tch" and so on

Oh I see, you caught feelings for but you don't show that to her

 

[dk1990S111]

Ya definitely sounds like you are acting too needy from what you posted. Always initiating texts, helping her with stuff, and buying her gifts. And from what you said about not fvcking any of the girls there I assume you haven't fvcked her yet? Come on man

 

[Meektrop]

Ya definitely sounds like you are acting too needy from what you posted. Always initiating texts, helping her with stuff, and buying her gifts. And from what you said about not fvcking any of the girls there I assume you haven't fvcked her yet? Come on man

Yeah I haven't fvcked her yet. and that's where I fvcked up. I did too much at the start what I'm really looking at right now is damage control, like can I salvage this situation or is it a lost cause. I came off too nice, so I haven't initiated contact this week and not going to. I will see her day after tomorrow at work my question is should o confront her on the issue of last Friday or act all non chalant? My instincts are telling me to be cold till I get a chance to talk and call her out on her behaviour my main issue is saying she would call me back but didnt... maybe your right I am being needy in your eyes and others but it doesn't seem like that from my point of view but then again if I had all the answers I wouldn't be asking you for advice. Lol so I am intrested in pursuing this no matter the outcome I just gotta keep my self from getting any more emotionally invested until I get some receprication. But yeah I would like to know what you think I should do confront or ignore?

 

[Meektrop]

Oh I see, you caught feelings for but you don't show that to her

Yeah I appreciate you understanding that brother. But this has been going on for a couple months so the cats been out the bag unfortunately

 

[cola]

Tl;Dr

But if she works at the gentleman's club, forget her she's nuts. I work at a gentleman's club as well and all those chicks are batsh*t crazy.

Unless she's making the kitty easy to pet keep it moving. She ain't relationship material.
Any female in the adult entertainment industry you just pump n dump.

 

[Meektrop]

Tl;Dr

But if she works at the gentleman's club, forget her she's nuts. I work at a gentleman's club as well and all those chicks are batsh*t crazy.

Unless she's making the kitty easy to pet keep it moving. She ain't relationship material.
Any female in the adult entertainment industry you just pump n dump.

Absolute truth right here. But i got myself caught up in it knowing better, Maybe I'm a glutton for punishment. Either way ima ride it out and try not to get too messed up in the process. I appreciate your wisdom brother

 

[Meektrop]

Well i rode it out and it ended sooner than later she called me a ***** and i slapped her. Told me never to talk to her again... not the nest outcome but I'll live with it. On another note how would you deal with a girl calling you a *****? I don't think my way was right for the future

 

[marmel75]

Aight DJ's im in a predicament but a little back story I am 29 just got back stateside after a long stint overseas in a very expensive area so I don't even have stable housing yet... I work in a gentleman's club been there a few months after getting back at first my goal was to just save up and figure out my next move I have no problem getting attention from the girls I would just play them along and take the money they offered me it's a good job for a confident attractive guy and let me also mention I haven't even ****ed one girl there yet no matter how hard they want it im not after that at this point in my life

But now my DJ's im feeling a certain way call it oneitis call it love but I actually caught feelings for one of the girls she liked me her friend kept hinting it to me I was flirting with another girl she even came up and said "your mine not hers" and that just sort of hit me like that made me pursue her I went against the pimp mentality and bought her a gift!!! She liked it got her number started texting now and then always me initiating and im investing my time with her helped her out with some personal issues and to thank me she gets drunk and says she cant go home so I get a hotel room take her there and honestly I was way too tired to **** so we just talked make out and give a little tit play o left her with a hickey fast forward a couple weeks later she cools off a bit mainly cuz we were getting to affectionate @ work I agreed never got another chance to **** but when I get her alone I get some good kissing and body play in last weekend's shes drunk again but wants to go to a club so I get her there I was grabbing her ass in the street she tells me shes gonna punch me one day if I keep doin that she goes on to say shes not that kind of girl im like fine then she goes deeper she admits she likes that I'm affectionate but she is emotionally ****ed up so I tell ask her should I just back off she says no that killed me mood I let her go to the club alone I opted to go to the gym instead I called her a couple of hours later to make sure she was ok. She wanted to see me I could tell she was ****ed up I told her I was at the gym she said she would call me after she left the club never did I call her an hour or so later 3 missed calls text her of shes aight she texts back that she is... at this point im irritated so I just go get some sleep and thinking **** this ***** next night she adds me on fb cuz Idk I sent her a request weeks ago but so far im not attempting to contact her cuz I feel a certain way and I shouldn't reward that behaviour but at the same time I caught feelings for her so I am ****ed either way so DJ's I know I am going against all logic by pursuing this but what can I say the heart wants what it wants and im beating myself over it more that enough lol
any insight or advice would be appreciated

This is what happens when you don't fvck women when you have the chance. And what did this woman do to earn a gift from you? You might as well be one of those lame ass customers we read about doing sh!t like that and getting nowhere.

 

[sazc]

oh boy....

 

[RangerMIke]

You know what you are doing is wrong.... you understand the nature of women.... yet you do weak sh!t anyway. Sorry bother, you can not be helped. Read Book of Pook as many times as it takes until reality sinks in then you MIGHT have a chance if you are willing to work on emotional self control.

 

[Meektrop]

This is what happens when you don't fvck women when you have the chance. And what did this woman do to earn a gift from you? You might as well be one of those lame ass customers we read about doing sh!t like that and getting nowhere.

Eh, I'm not overly concerned with the gift it was store closing sale I didn't want to miss the opportunity I bought a lot of friends gifts that day. Not saying it was an undeserved gift just that it didn't mean that much to me

 

[Meektrop]

You know what you are doing is wrong.... you understand the nature of women.... yet you do weak sh!t anyway. Sorry bother, you can not be helped. Read Book of Pook as many times as it takes until reality sinks in then you MIGHT have a chance if you are willing to work on emotional self control.

Yeah, this. my emotions do run wild. That's my problem. Thnx brother

 

[wifehunter]

 

[wifehunter]

oh boy....

I loled

 

[marmel75]

Eh, I'm not overly concerned with the gift it was store closing sale I didn't want to miss the opportunity I bought a lot of friends gifts that day. Not saying it was an undeserved gift just that it didn't mean that much to me

It has no relevance what it meant to you...only in what she perceived it as, which is you are acting like lame ass customers who buy sh1t for her for no reason hoping they'll get laid and she knows how to play that game far better than you do to ensure you get nothing.

Consider your audience here.