I recently went exclusive with a girl I was dating. We have had an absolute blast the past month or so hiking, dining, whitewater rafting, paddle boarding, etc. She's a HB/8.5. We see each other every 3-4 days. We text in-between our dates but not incessantly. The chemistry is really good between us. Lot's of fun. There is a lot of mutual attraction and the conversation is good. I throw her a lot of crap regularly and am huge on C&F. l tease her a lot. I’m 10+ years older than her.
We had a great time paddle boarding about a week and a half ago. We came back to my place and ate some dinner and then had really great sex as we always do, just saying. We then walked my dog to the dog park and there were a few people there. There was one very good-looking woman (maybe 40?) there talking with another woman. As we were leaving, I did glance (for the record: no smile, no eye contact, no "hi," no wave--just a glance) at the woman for maybe 2-3 seconds. My girlfriend who was maybe 10 feet me starts yelling fairly loud “Do you see something you LIKE Dash!!??” It was kind of embarrassing but I shrugged it off as to not make a scene then and there to draw more attention, and actually started laughing, and then calmly walked out of the park. As soon as we were out of the fenced dog area and were walking home, she kept on me about what I liked about the girl. I said all I did was glance at the group and down played it. Finally, I said ok, I like the way she wore her hair just to end the conversation. I reminded my gf I was with her--and her only and to just drop it. She continued to barrage me with other nit-picks after which I said firmly "I'm not apologizing for anything because I didn't do anything wrong. Drop it." She then started walking 20-30 feet behind me and my dog, kind of pouting. I kept telling her to come with us but she wouldn’t. Finally, I turned towards her, still standing 20 feet away and said very firmly"I don't care for your behavior or attitude, now come on." She just stood there 20 feet behind me, now with her mouth literally open. So, I started walking home alone. I get home and she shows up 5 minutes later, laughing to herself. She goes upstairs, changes into nicer clothes she initially came over with, and heads for the door. I called her name (I was going to tell her to never, ever call me out in public like that again), but she said she had no interest in anything I wanted to say. I offered her a ride home but she said she could get one (I doubt it). She walked out the door and left. She lives maybe 1.5 miles away along well-lit roads so I assume she just walked home. Basically, I just let her walk. Didn't come after her, nothing. She was behaving badly, I called her out on it, and she left on her own accord. It's been NC by both of us since (about 10 days).
I’m absolutely baffled by the bizarre behavior especially after the awesome day we had. She seems to be wildly jealous and was always asking (somewhat jokingly) how many women hit on me today or approached me. Really put the hard sell on me to be exclusive so about a week before this fight I said "We could try it."
I think there's a really good chance she's BPD or a "Borderline" as they're called as she meets many of the classic signs.
Has anyone had a similar experience? Outcome? Was she a Borderline? I’m wondering if this is a benign event due to bad timing, PMS, whatever. Seems really extreme. I kind of feel like I got the electric chair for having an overdue parking ticket. Ok, I "glanced" at a hot chick. People look at attractive people. It's human nature. I'm thinking this is what I would have to look forward to many more times if I were to be with her long term. I'm also thinking she may have some serious psychological/emotional issues. Blows because we had a really good connection before this fight.
Any thoughts appreciated
Thank you.
Dash
