NOFAP MONTH OF JULY.

[resilient]

day15

I have a beach bonfire w/potluck that I'm going to tonight with loads of single people and a private pool party event tomorrow afternoon with around a dozen or so people.

It'll be the first time I'll be with the shirt off since gaining 20 pounds of muscle the last few months. HEEEEYYO! Lol.

I know it sounds vain as hell, but it'll be good to celebrate the success from putting in the time and hard work in the gym after the main plate kicked me to the curb, heh.

It'll be interesting to see how the Jedi skills are coming along.

Good hat tip @TheMonkeyKing about IOIs received as a result from abstaining, I'll be sure to be more game aware.

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

Day 8

Had to note this while I remember.
I had a very vivid dream last night of a chick I used to go to school with, probably one of the most beautiful chicks I have ever known. Like, I really fancied her back in the day. Charlie, I think her name was. Obviously thoughts and feelings for this girl have been sitting there in my subconscious all this time; my memory of her face is literally photographic, like even down to the beauty spot on her cheek.

Weirdly I haven't given her a thought for probably nearly 20 years. Sounds bizarre but I think this nofap does have profound effects on the mind, improving memory, tapping in to the archives, recalling events and people from the distant past.

Kind of plays in to my experience the last couple of days. Find myself only noticing the most beautiful women when out and about. Normally (previously), it was like I'm walking around like a sex-starved teenager, eyeing up anything and everything that passes me by. Now, it's like I'm not going to bang just any woman; I'm going to bang the hottest women. Like nofap is reminding me of my own worth and standards. This dream I've had has just clarified that for me.

 

[resilient]

day16

I went to the bonfire last night. The only single women were terribly fat. GROSS! The ones that were half-way decent were there with their boyfriends. I got some strong eye contact from some of the taken women..... is this normal in NoFap or just general normal behavior by women when you gain muscle and have an extra dose of confidence?

hmmm.....

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

is this normal in NoFap or just general normal behavior by women when you gain muscle and have an extra dose of confidence?

Fairly standard behaviour when a fit and confident man is around. Gets embarrassing at times. You know as well that sometimes they'll diliberately not check you out.

Probably nofap is contributing. A good test I find is to see how women you already know change their behaviours, which some definitely will. Particularly maybe those who previously showed no interest and suddenly start.

 

[narcissist]

Day 44 boys.

 

[lizardking82]

I will start today, meaning I did not fap yesterday, so this is somehow the second day and I intend to see how far I can keep it and will report changes in behaviour from women I know or new women in general (thanks to @TheMonkeyKing for bringin' that to my mind).

 

[narcissist]

Day 45.

It is interesting. Whenever I have sex with a girl, when I cvm it stings just a little bit, because I haven't been fapping. Also the next day I always feel like sh1t. Complete dopamine shortage I suppose.

 

[resilient]

Day 45.

Congrats, narcissist. You're half way to ninety days if you're doing the full reboot buddy. I think that goal is well within reach without having to go into the desert in hard-mode.

day17
The pool party was fun yesterday. I definitely think the NoFap challenge is helping in social interactions. I talked to the cutest girl at the party for a while. I was nervous at first, but calibrated quickly and corrected my body language, tonality, and listening skills. I.e. no slouching, no leaning in too much, maintaining eye contact. I took the effort to socialize with everyone there so I didn't let myself be a wallflower.

 

[OJN_98]

Although we're halfway in the month already, I'll give it a whirl.

 

[narcissist]

day 46

 

[Dingo]

No sex this weekend so fapped....

 

[ChristopherColumbus]

No sex this weekend so fapped....

20 pushups pronto!

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

DAY 11

ENERGY/EXERCISE
Have had a flat-line in energy the last couple of days, but think this is owing to exercise fatigue. Took a rest yesterday and more alert again today. Pretty much haven't rested fully since last Wednesday, which was probably a day too long. Rest every fourth day where possible going forward.

SLEEP
Sleep also slightly off the last few days, but stayed up too late at the weekend and slept until midday on Sunday, which has thrown everything off a bit. Must stick more closely to normal hours unless going out.

OBSERVATIONS
Social anxiety is almost nonexistent now. Am having extended full on conversations with my peers that seem like they would go on for hours.
I am starting to observe what lack of confidence looks like in strangers, especially men. Looking at almost everyone I walk past, most men will look down or avert their gaze. It's very easy to see men who are knackered from fapping/low energy, unhappy in general or lacking confidence. And men who are confident or at least content are very easy to spot. It's like developing another sense for gauging people's moods / self esteem. Or probably just being more observant and in tune again generally. Less navel gazing, in a very literal sense.

WOMEN
Didn't go out at the weekend as have been hitting it hard lately. Couple of quite weekends to recharge in time for August.
Main thing so far is the quality of women checking me out is shifting upwards. Solid 8's and 9's now regularly checking, double-taking, or looking sheepish. Even the odd 10. Sevens minus, when I bother checking, now void of all attitude, mostly avoid eye contact altogether.

Keen to see how things develop. Going to keep this going. Definitely through August, preferably until the next time with a girl; whichever takes longer.

 

[Infern0]

Im back on this properly now guys, as the past few months i have to be honest ive been a sad sack of ****. Not sure if i mentioned before but in the past i did have a serious addiction to porn, so going off nofap has devestating results for me, the weekend before last, depression was getting prtty serious, i also had to basically tell a plate to get lost, the kicker was i actually really liked this one, and she did me but i had to get rid of her because i knew id become toxic... sucks.

Its a weird one, knowledge is one thing but taking action is another "alpha" behaviour becomes natural when you get away from the pmo, but when you are jerking to porn, for me beta behaviour becomes natural!


Anyway onto the better news I am on day 12 of nofap!

Really pleased to be seriously back on the journey, and the mindshift is already notable.

From experience though, i dont expect too much in the early goings, my serious streaks in the past have seen huge changes on a MONTHLY basis, not weekly. Nofap is a marathon, not a sprint.

Glad to see so many guys taking part in the thread though, nofap IS legitimate, one of the best things you can do as a man is get that drain out of your life.

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

Seems like the timelines of effects/benefits/withdrawals will vary, especially owing to dependence and severity of habits and addictions. Personally, I've been cutting down for about a year now. Would say going cold turkey without any prior attempts is likely to fail; but that's to be expected. As with everything, gradual withdrawal is more likely to result in success.

Anyone else get pissy and short fuse. Tell me what helped you

Hormones and endorphins readjusting. Still early days. I find I'm more calm in general and have more patience for people, but I am also making a conscious effort on those fronts, and it does seem to be coming easier these last week.

Day 12
-More vivid and extremely erotic dreaming. Also randomly getting turned on by women I see. Natural libido slowly returning.
-Two pornstars (ironically) checking me out on the train last night. Good fun to ignore while all the other guys gawp. That kind of highly augmented look never really does anything for me anyway.
-Some Margot Robbie-looking dime piece gives me a stare at the station this morning. Damn, I need to go out just walking in town and talk to these birds when I don't have somewhere to be.

 

[Bayne05]

I actually started last week Saturday. I've once lasted a full month before. Hardly fap now, I only do it when I know I have tons of work to do and I won't have time to sex my fvckbuddies.

 

[narcissist]

day 48. Almost at the 50 day mark.

 

[resilient]

day20

I've been having trouble sleeping lately. I went to bed earlier the last few nights and my mind stays active. I don't know if this is related with nofap. However, I've been feeling low and less motivated. My homies are all married and off on their own being couples chilling with other couples. So, it's usually up to me to initiate and plan something like catching up with a beer, movie, etc.

I got soft-next by a plate in between last and this week so I'm back to zero plates. I've withdrawn attention since, yet still bothered by it a little. Oh well, nothing I can do about it. The solution is to keep hitting the gym, guitar, and approach someone new.

Going to another event tomorrow... might be some new faces... we'll see.

 

[narcissist]

day20

I've been having trouble sleeping lately. I went to bed earlier the last few nights and my mind stays active. I don't know if this is related with nofap. However, I've been feeling low and less motivated. My homies are all married and off on their own being couples chilling with other couples. So, it's usually up to me to initiate and plan something like catching up with a beer, movie, etc.

I got soft-next by a plate in between last and this week so I'm back to zero plates. I've withdrawn attention since, yet still bothered by it a little. Oh well, nothing I can do about it. The solution is to keep hitting the gym, guitar, and approach someone new.

Going to another event tomorrow... might be some new faces... we'll see.

keep at it brother. There will be ups and downs. But the highs will be higher and the lows will be insignificant. This is not the same as all your friends who went off and got married. If you stick at it you will win. You will be successful.

 

[narcissist]

day 49