Meeting women: Its all about who you know, job, timing...

[oc16]

This might sound like common sense and cliche, but so true.

Wonder why that 5'8" guy, with a gut and average at best looks is always with a cute girl on his arm. He probably works in the restaurant industry, is a DJ or maybe hes a teacher where women outnumber men 3 to 1.

What about the 6'2", jacked good looking guy who struggles with women. Maybe hes an engineer, or State Trooper where most of his colleagues are men.

None of this has anything to do with game/lack of.

Alot of your success with women has to do with your career field and who they in turn know, etc, etc.

 

[Mike32ct]

Absolutely.

I love being an engineer, but I work with dudes, married women and WGTOW single cat ladies.

I took ballroom dance classes for five years. Also plenty of dudes, married/taken women and over 55 yo WGTOWs.

I need to be reincarnated as a restaurant guy lol.

 

[cola]

But that's no excuse.. Engineer guy could easily make opportunities to meet women.

Meetup.com is clutch .. Its essentially an open invitation to a new social circle.
Craigslist has a local events section
Facebook has an events section..

Its easy to put yourself in the proximity of women in 2017.

In Baltimore we have charm city social which is coed sports geared towards ppl new In town or someone who just wants that team atmosphere.
I'm sure most states have something similar.

Become a regular at a bar..
2 beers a couple times a week at the same bar..

I really believe every man should have a bar where you can walk in sit and the bartender knows the order already..

Grocery store
Dry cleaners
Gym
Spa
Wal-Mart
Target ..
Post office

Women are everywhere...you approach a girl or two a day while during errands.

 

[wifehunter]

Swimming in chicks on uber/lyft.

 

[MatureDJ]

As a retired engineer who also went to an all-boy school from the age of 10 and then studied engineering where I can remember all 5 women in my engineering classes, LOL, I concur! The thing that got me pissed off was that typically the women that showed interest in me and were impressed that I was an engineer were fat - like, what the h3ll is having a good career about to impress women when it's only the sh!t that's impressed!

 

[MatureDJ]

Become a regular at a bar..
2 beers a couple times a week at the same bar..

I really believe every man should have a bar where you can walk in sit and the bartender knows the order already.

A very good friend of mine that is finally getting married a decade before he can start going on Medicare, LOL, became somewhat of a Norm from Cheers, and being a decent 40+ man who didn't have a problem with dating 40+ women (he would not have had a problem getting into the right stepdad situation, but it never happened, and he was happy getting them to spread their legs, and only got freaked out by grannies ), it seemed that he was on everyone's short list of who to set up with these mature women, and his attitude for the initial meeting was like, "yeah, bring her here and we'll talk".

 

[Trump]

Love guys who drop imposing statements to make themselves feel better. "I have no game so I'm going to pick some scapegoats, let everyone know about these scapegoats, and make myself feel better."

I know Engineers who have the hottest wives. I know State Troppers who have the hottest wives. I know good looking waiters who have no idea how to talk to women. I know make teachers who are virgins. I know DJs who don't know who to hug women.

But hey, let's blame outside factors for our ability not to be able to talk, attract and sleep with women. That way the pressure is off of us, its society's fault.

 

[RichardTheFrog]

Love guys who drop imposing statements to make themselves feel better. "I have no game so I'm going to pick some scapegoats, let everyone know about these scapegoats, and make myself feel better."

I know Engineers who have the hottest wives. I know State Troppers who have the hottest wives. I know good looking waiters who have no idea how to talk to women. I know make teachers who are virgins. I know DJs who don't know who to hug women.

But hey, let's blame outside factors for our ability not to be able to talk, attract and sleep with women. That way the pressure is off of us, its society's fault.

I have the best job in the world for attracting women. I'm a property manager and basically my only responsibility is to collect rent a couple times per month. I have basically 100% of my time to myself.

So why can't I get them?

I blame the women. They are stupid. Their brains are full of nonsense.

 

[corrector]

But that's no excuse.. Engineer guy could easily make opportunities to meet women.

Meetup.com is clutch .. Its essentially an open invitation to a new social circle.
Craigslist has a local events section
Facebook has an events section..

Its easy to put yourself in the proximity of women in 2017.

In Baltimore we have charm city social which is coed sports geared towards ppl new In town or someone who just wants that team atmosphere.
I'm sure most states have something similar.

Become a regular at a bar..
2 beers a couple times a week at the same bar..

I really believe every man should have a bar where you can walk in sit and the bartender knows the order already..

Grocery store
Dry cleaners
Gym
Spa
Wal-Mart
Target ..
Post office

Women are everywhere...you approach a girl or two a day while during errands.

Yeah, but that feels really awkward to do if it's out of your "mental mode" for what you are doing. If you are doing your errands, then you are in a mental comfort zone that you are doing what you have to do and what you are suggesting blows that comfort-zone to the point of becoming a distraction to the errand itself, unless the approach is directly related to the business itself. I mean you have to have some good nerves to do these approaches. It can't feel like you are walking through a mine-field. If you don't have the nerve, you can't do the approach.

If you just meet someone at work, or in a social circle then it's much more natural and organic.

Second of all, you don't know how the lady you are approaching is going to react, especially if it's a racist white woman. There are posts/threads on here of women calling security or the police, and any trouble with police can jeopardize the OP's employment. You also have potential sexual harassment suits at work if you do something there.

 

[cola]

Yeah, but that feels really awkward to do if it's out of your "mental mode" for what you are doing. If you are doing your errands, then you are in a mental comfort zone that you are doing what you have to do and what you are suggesting blows that comfort-zone to the point of becoming a distraction to the errand itself, unless the approach is directly related to the business itself. I mean you have to have some good nerves to do these approaches. It can't feel like you are walking through a mine-field. If you don't have the nerve, you can't do the approach.

If you just meet someone at work, or in a social circle then it's much more natural and organic.

Second of all, you don't know how the lady you are approaching is going to react, especially if it's a racist white woman. There are posts/threads on here of women calling security or the police, and any trouble with police can jeopardize the OP's employment. You also have potential sexual harassment suits at work if you do something there.

Ok I feel you.
But I'm as big and black as they come standing at 6'1 245 lbs with a beard that comes to my chest & tattoos all over both arms and my neck..

Never had a chick panic or get scared when I approach

"*deep eye contact*Hello my name is Chris, I thought you looked stunning today. Id love to arrange a meeting so I can see if your mind is as beautiful as your face"
*hands phone*
"Can you put your number in here for me"?

This is my default canned daygame sh*t. A line I'd use quickly at the grocery store or at 7 eleven.
Never got a bad reaction from this. They all freakin' melt.

Worst I get off this is "I'm sorry I have a boyfriend, but that was so sweet"..

Many times it gets the number.

 

[Masculinity]

Absolutely.

I love being an engineer, but I work with dudes, married women and WGTOW single cat ladies.

I took ballroom dance classes for five years. Also plenty of dudes, married/taken women and over 55 yo WGTOWs.

I need to be reincarnated as a restaurant guy lol.

Visit some college campuses. The graduate degree areas are loaded with women who aren't undergraduates. Also, supermarkets, coffee shops, restaurants, parks, gyms, etc. are all good places to meet women.

 

[ThisNThat]

Ok I feel you.
But I'm as big and black as they come standing at 6'1 245 lbs with a beard that comes to my chest & tattoos all over both arms and my neck..

Never had a chick panic or get scared when I approach

"*deep eye contact*Hello my name is Chris, I thought you looked stunning today. Id love to arrange a meeting so I can see if your mind is as beautiful as your face"
*hands phone*
"Can you put your number in here for me"?

This is my default canned daygame sh*t. A line I'd use quickly at the grocery store or at 7 eleven.
Never got a bad reaction from this. They all freakin' melt.

Worst I get off this is "I'm sorry I have a boyfriend, but that was so sweet"..

Many times it gets the number.

Hm, interesting...I've heard day game is pointless because I hear women constantly stay they wouldn't want to be approached while they are out shopping or running errands because they aren't there to BE approached, but to "get in and get out."

They aren't in that mode and will likely resent you for approaching, and if you do...they are short and curt with their responses

I recall trying to chat up a woman where I was waiting for some coffee to be brewed. It was the Christmas holidays and while we were both waiting, there was an awkward silence so I decided to break the ice. I asked her what she ordered, and she didn't really seem to want to engage...I think she looked at me and said, "Pumpkin Spice" and I said, "I've never tried that, is it pretty good?" and she didn't even make eye contact on my 2nd question...and she goes, "Yeah"

It was like trying to force a conversation, so I didn't bother further. So that's where Meetups and other Facebook groups come in handy because people are there to BE approached.

Of course, where I live, most women in my age bracket have wedding bands on their fingers or have a boyfriend to come home to. So it's all moot.

 

[SmooveMooves]

I recall trying to chat up a woman where I was waiting for some coffee to be brewed. It was the Christmas holidays and while we were both waiting, there was an awkward silence so I decided to break the ice. I asked her what she ordered, and she didn't really seem to want to engage...I think she looked at me and said, "Pumpkin Spice" and I said, "I've never tried that, is it pretty good?" and she didn't even make eye contact on my 2nd question...and she goes, "Yeah"

It was like trying to force a conversation, so I didn't bother further. So that's where Meetups and other Facebook groups come in handy because people are there to BE approached.

Yeah, I feel you bro but this is where you have to be able to pickup on social cues.

-Does she look friendly and easy going?
-Does she seem willing to talk?
-Would she be the type of woman interested in me?
-Is she with anyone?
-In a rush?
Etc.

Of course if your just asking any random woman you're going to get blown off. I find most women are polite even if they're uninterested.

 

[ThisNThat]

Yeah, I feel you bro but this is where you have to be able to pickup on social cues.

-Does she look friendly and easy going?
-Does she seem willing to talk?
-Would she be the type of woman interested in me?
-Is she with anyone?
-In a rush?
Etc.

Of course if your just asking any random woman you're going to get blown off. I find most women are polite even if they're uninterested.

The first two, there's no way of really knowing unless you open your mouth to talk to her.

TYPE of woman that would be interested? Not sure how that's relevant.

She wasn't with anyone, unless they were on the other side of the store or mall.
In a rush, didn't seem it really.

There's just sometimes no way of knowing these things until you engage in conversation.

 

[corrector]

I know Engineers who have the hottest wives. I know State Troppers who have the hottest wives.

How do you know their wives?

I know good looking waiters who have no idea how to talk to women. I know make teachers who are virgins. I know DJs who don't know who to hug women. [/quote

But hey, let's blame outside factors for our ability not to be able to talk, attract and sleep with women. That way the pressure is off of us, its society's fault.

Ok I feel you.
But I'm as big and black as they come standing at 6'1 245 lbs with a beard that comes to my chest & tattoos all over both arms and my neck..

Never had a chick panic or get scared when I approach

"*deep eye contact*Hello my name is Chris, I thought you looked stunning today. Id love to arrange a meeting so I can see if your mind is as beautiful as your face"
*hands phone*
"Can you put your number in here for me"?

This is my default canned daygame sh*t. A line I'd use quickly at the grocery store or at 7 eleven.
Never got a bad reaction from this. They all freakin' melt.

Worst I get off this is "I'm sorry I have a boyfriend, but that was so sweet"..

Many times it gets the number.

That's great! It looks like you are approaching randoms with this daygame strategy. What types of girls do you approach? Would you also approach Asian, Indians, Blondes, etc.... as well as black women? Are they like hb7+ or less as far as the success rate goes? You see, when you see people who are Black and successful at this then it just knocks the wind out of any perceived ethnic issues (i.e. the belief that some minority women (Asians/Indians, etc.. are hypogamous and throw themselves at white men because they believe they have most of the resources in society, etc......) are off-beat when you see a brother pulling these types of babes.

 

[Milano]

Ok I feel you.
But I'm as big and black as they come standing at 6'1 245 lbs with a beard that comes to my chest & tattoos all over both arms and my neck..

Never had a chick panic or get scared when I approach

"*deep eye contact*Hello my name is Chris, I thought you looked stunning today. Id love to arrange a meeting so I can see if your mind is as beautiful as your face"
*hands phone*
"Can you put your number in here for me"?

This is my default canned daygame sh*t. A line I'd use quickly at the grocery store or at 7 eleven.
Never got a bad reaction from this. They all freakin' melt.

Worst I get off this is "I'm sorry I have a boyfriend, but that was so sweet"..

Many times it gets the number.

Just curious, how many times does it lead to actually getting the tip inside them

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Hm, interesting...I've heard day game is pointless because I hear women constantly stay they wouldn't want to be approached while they are out shopping or running errands because they aren't there to BE approached, but to "get in and get out."

They aren't in that mode and will likely resent you for approaching, and if you do...they are short and curt with their responses

I recall trying to chat up a woman where I was waiting for some coffee to be brewed. It was the Christmas holidays and while we were both waiting, there was an awkward silence so I decided to break the ice. I asked her what she ordered, and she didn't really seem to want to engage...I think she looked at me and said, "Pumpkin Spice" and I said, "I've never tried that, is it pretty good?" and she didn't even make eye contact on my 2nd question...and she goes, "Yeah"

It was like trying to force a conversation, so I didn't bother further. So that's where Meetups and other Facebook groups come in handy because people are there to BE approached.

Of course, where I live, most women in my age bracket have wedding bands on their fingers or have a boyfriend to come home to. So it's all moot.

For "day" game or meeting in grocery stores, coffee shops, etc. I'd pick up on the babes who had a noticed interest in me, either via a long gaze or a "double take", and I'd simply start with "hello" and flow from there. I'd usually notice something about what she was doing there and talk about that.

 

[Mike32ct]

Love guys who drop imposing statements to make themselves feel better. "I have no game so I'm going to pick some scapegoats, let everyone know about these scapegoats, and make myself feel better."

I know Engineers who have the hottest wives. I know State Troppers who have the hottest wives. I know good looking waiters who have no idea how to talk to women. I know make teachers who are virgins. I know DJs who don't know who to hug women.

But hey, let's blame outside factors for our ability not to be able to talk, attract and sleep with women. That way the pressure is off of us, its society's fault.

Some engineers have a very cynical sense of humor. I'm one of them. Think Dilbert cartoon. It might not come across well in my posts.

But on a more serious note, in different post, you talked about the importance of height and hair, and I absolutely agree with that. I don't know the height/hair configurations that these guys with hot wives have, but I have no doubt that they are favorable. I personally know a 6'3" full head of hair engineer with a hot wife.

Not a complaint or "whine," just an honest observation.

 

[ThisNThat]

For "day" game or meeting in grocery stores, coffee shops, etc. I'd pick up on the babes who had a noticed interest in me, either via a long gaze or a "double take", and I'd simply start with "hello" and flow from there. I'd usually notice something about what she was doing there and talk about that.

Hm, never had "the gaze" from a woman out in public, so I just strike up a conversation regardless. Usually it's not an approach, but more due in part on whether we're stuck in a line or waiting in a waiting room somewhere.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Some engineers have a very cynical sense of humor. I'm one of them. Think Dilbert cartoon. It might not come across well in my posts.

But on a more serious note, in different post, you talked about the importance of height and hair, and I absolutely agree with that. I don't know the height/hair configurations that these guys with hot wives have, but I have no doubt that they are favorable. I personally know a 6'3" full head of hair engineer with a hot wife.

Not a complaint or "whine," just an honest observation.

Does your engineer have "normal" conversations, or does he imply his intelligence with his discussions?