Got a girlfriend but i feel unhappy and want to change my physical flaws

[ImprovingJuan]

i'm 41. i think that if i fix myself i can find someone that i feel really attracted too. She is 48, and she's attractive for her age but in my mind i want to think that i can find someone better, and frankly it seems that our relationship is kinda an open one, i don't think she's that into me and i'm not that into her.In a week we see each other 2/3 days, and i don't feel the need to be with her. Maybe i'm used to my loneliness.

But you guys are going to say,but you are ugly, beggars can't be choosers. If you don't settle for a woman that likes you and soon, you'll be forever alone. I say f*** it, if that's the way its gonna be than be it. I ask myself this, if she was 30 or 40 would she be into me? I'm sure she wouldn't. I know for a fact that late 30's and early 40's don't like me so why should i settle for someone who if she was younger wouldn't settle for me?

Help me out changing my looks, if you guys tell me nothing can be done and that i have feminine looks and i look like a low t tranny than i have to accept it. What's wrong with my face and why can't i attract someone that i am into and is also into me?

Is it the bald head? The bug eyes? The bulbous nose? What surgery would help me?

thanks

 

[Rainman4707]

if you guys tell me nothing can be done and that i have feminine looks and i look like a low t tranny than i have to accept it. What's wrong with my

Why would we tell you that?

 

[ImprovingJuan]

that's what i was told in the red pill forum. i don't agree of course but i accept every POV. Every criticism no matter how bad it is has its own truths and should not be dismissed entirely.

 

[TheProspect]

i'm 41. i think that if i fix myself i can find someone that i feel really attracted too. She is 48, and she's attractive for her age but in my mind i want to think that i can find someone better, and frankly it seems that our relationship is kinda an open one, i don't think she's that into me and i'm not that into her.In a week we see each other 2/3 days, and i don't feel the need to be with her. Maybe i'm used to my loneliness.

But you guys are going to say,but you are ugly, beggars can't be choosers. If you don't settle for a woman that likes you and soon, you'll be forever alone. I say f*** it, if that's the way its gonna be than be it. I ask myself this, if she was 30 or 40 would she be into me? I'm sure she wouldn't. I know for a fact that late 30's and early 40's don't like me so why should i settle for someone who if she was younger wouldn't settle for me?

Help me out changing my looks, if you guys tell me nothing can be done and that i have feminine looks and i look like a low t tranny than i have to accept it. What's wrong with my face and why can't i attract someone that i am into and is also into me?

Is it the bald head? The bug eyes? The bulbous nose? What surgery would help me?

thanks

I guarantee you changing your attitude will do more for you then obsessing over your physical insecurities.

Do yourself and your girlfriend a favor, dump her. Then work on yourself. How do you work on yourself? In your case, I don't know... If your 41, and you've been on this forum for 12 years, and you're posting pathetic threads like this I'm not sure what anyone here can say that would get you to stop wallowing in your own self pity. There's no doubt you've came across practical advice in your 12 years here, it's your responsibility to apply it.

 

[shesabranchswinger]

How the hell can you be on here for 12 years and still be a Don Juan. What hell does a guy have to do around here to become a master Don Juan around here. Hell if you went to college instead you would be a rocket scientist with a phd. I'm starting to wonder about this place something fishy it's not passing the sniff test.

 

[ImprovingJuan]

How the hell can you be on here for 12 years and still be a Don Juan. What hell does a guy have to do around here to become a master Don Juan around here. Hell if you went to college instead you would be a rocket scientist with a phd. I'm starting to wonder about this place something fishy it's not passing the sniff test.

having a title that you get by being a member for x years means nothing. Dating is much more complicated and frustrating than staying here on the forum and posting **** and giving advice and looking cool.

 

[shesabranchswinger]

having a title that you get by being a member for x years means nothing. Dating is much more complicated and frustrating than staying here on the forum and posting **** and giving advice and looking cool.

But you don't have either from what you say and what your avatar says?

I admit I must have been good looking enough as a youngster cause half the stuff I have said to women should not have got me into bed with them. And as a man I could tell women are attracted to me physically and that's a foot in the door. But there is always a better looking man with more to offer so I don't rest on my laurels.


Case in point you have a girlfriend already so you know you can get a woman. Now go out there and be somebody. If I were you feeling how you do. I would be out there meeting new women since your already in an open relationship might as well reap the benefits of it since most quality women would not want an open relationship. Sounds to me like your in a win win relationship for what you want. You could se her 2 or 3 times a week like you are then go out and meet new ones 2 or 3 times a week. That way your not desperate for a woman cause your already spinning one plate that meets some of your needs. Go out and get some of your other needs met.

You still have not answered the question how are you only still just a Don Juan after 12 years I'm just wondering?

 

[ImprovingJuan]

But you don't have either from what you say and what your avatar says?

I admit I must have been good looking enough as a youngster cause half the stuff I have said to women should not have got me into bed with them. And as a man I could tell women are attracted to me physically and that's a foot in the door. But there is always a better looking man with more to offer so I don't rest on my laurels.


Case in point you have a girlfriend already so you know you can get a woman. Now go out there and be somebody. If I were you feeling how you do. I would be out there meeting new women since your already in an open relationship might as well reap the benefits of it since most quality women would not want an open relationship. Sounds to me like your in a win win relationship for what you want. You could se her 2 or 3 times a week like you are then go out and meet new ones 2 or 3 times a week. That way your not desperate for a woman cause your already spinning one plate that meets some of your needs. Go out and get some of your other needs met.

You still have not answered the question how are you only still just a Don Juan after 12 years I'm just wondering?

I dont feel like being with her and i cant attract the ones that i want. For me its a pretty ****ty situation. i keep thinking now that she wasted her youth with who she wanted, now that she's old and damaged goods she plays this fool right here: Me!!! No, i deserve better. I want better.

 

[shesabranchswinger]

I dont feel like being with her and i cant attract the ones that i want. For me its a pretty ****ty situation. i keep thinking now that she wasted her youth with who she wanted, now that she's old and damaged goods she plays this fool right here: Me!!! No, i deserve better. I want better.

You can't always get what you want, but if you try sometimes you just might find you get what you need jagger. I feel ya so if she's playing you and you know it but she doesn't know you know. Then your not the fool she is and play her back till you get what you need from other women. Or man up and clip her wings give her her walking papers nicely and move on to the next phase of your life weather that's single for the rest of it or not.

They all waste their youth with what they want some of them get it. The ones that don't realize around their 40s and 50s that their looks are gone and now they can only rely on their substance and unfortunately most that made it that far on looks have no substance so they turn to cat lady's or pick up an AFC.