Reyaj
Master Don Juan
I had met a very attractive girl from Pakistan about a month ago at a network event. She is divorced with a kid. Her ex is muslim and they were arranged. She considers herself as a liberal Muslim, but none the less she is still muslim. She prays 5 times a day (or tries to), fasts during Ramadan etc.. Well long story short, I got her to meet up with me for what I thought was going to drinks. Turns out she doesn't drink either, barely let me make contact with her (I tried to hug her and she pulled her body away from me and tapped my back). I nexted her..I'm not sure of that. India has moved away to some degree from arranged marriages and they still do not have anywhere near the level of soft porn we have here on tv.
The thing is I could have stuck this out and wasted time and money, but I think it's normal for people to have sex after a bit if they are attracted to each other. This is why I am very surprised to hear so many western men on here hold being a virgin in such high regard once a woman is an adult.
Des I responded in BOLD in the quote above. Good stuff btw man.I'm guessing you meant 25-35. I didn't say these men were high value, I said that these men are willing to marry. A guy who's single past 35 is obviously going to be more resistant to getting married quickly.
Yes 25-35. Thank you for clarifying, I agree.
No. Age is only a disqualifier if the woman sees the man as unattractive. At that point, age is only an excuse used to avoid dating him, because the real reason is that he's not interesting, confident, well established, or doesn't take care of himself.
If a woman is interested in dating an older man, then age becomes "nothing but a number".
Society's opinion and influence can go both ways. Some will say age is just a number, and others will say that an age gap of over 10 years is "disgusting" and "gross". A woman will take the opinion that suits how she feels about the man in question.
This is where I potentially disagree or need more empiricial data to come to a conclusion. I find that many women are influenced.. influenced by their friends, family etc... I think once you get into her heart (to use an AFC woman term) then you trump any outside influence. However getting to a woman's heart requires some time and effort. If you start engaging a woman and she knows the big age gap right away and then hears negatives from her friends and/or family she may backwards rationalize her interest in you. Do you disgaree?
You're implying too much logic when it comes to women. I firmly believe that a man can make a girl break her Christian vow of celibacy if he's good enough of a seductionist. I've never done it, but I could see it working. The man has to have total self-control over his sexuality. He could easily tear down her barriers one at a time by pushing just a bit further each time they become "intimate". However, she may feel guilty after losing her virginity. He would have to be prepared to do damage control afterwards.
The idea of waiting for marriage to have sex is IMO not the worst thing that could happen. If the woman isn't a rotten bytch and is well-behaved, I could see it being fine. If the man is NOT a virgin and has good self-control over his sexuality, then I could see it working as well. For a man who's desperate for sex, he will get tired of waiting for her to give up her pvssy. For a man who's a virgin, he's basically in the same boat as her. It is possible to be a confident virgin, although peer pressure can ruin a man's self-perception. Society frowns upon men who are virgins and implies that they haven't lived up to their manhood.
I agree here however as someone who is NOT a virgin and am used to having intimate physical relationships with women, I would find a woman who I'm invested in a relationship to not be paying dividends if she withholds sex. I'm willing to wait a while if the woman is a virgin or has some other sexual issue (I was with a woman who was raped before) but sex has got to happen man.
I guess the short of what I'm saying is that I don't know that it's worth the investment. Believe me I think slvts with high partner counts are worse but only in the sense of whether it's worse to freeze to death or burn to death kind of scenario. The women from these strict cultures would have other values that may conflict with that of westerners like you and me. Do you agree?
So yes, I can see abstinence before marriage working, but the conditions have to be favourable.