LTRs are lackluster to me unless there are intimate stories behind them

[Listen_to_Olly]

Maybe I have watched one too many movies but I feel like sex, one night stands, and relationships are lackluster if not useless to me unless there is a damn intimate story there. I treat sex as just that, sex, but I feel like the most important thing for me in a relationship is what I feel a woman tells her friends about how she met me.

I feel like if a woman cannot describe us meeting in an intimate or at least somewhat romantic way, it's not worth the trouble.

Like I cannot get how rich ugly guys can ever be happy in relationships knowing that the chick only wants them for the money, at least don't marry her.

In the same fashion, I cannot understand how significantly older guys can consider anything serious with much younger women (18-22) unless we're talking Ben Affleck screwing Emily Ratowski or whatever on Gone Girl.

I don't know why I feel this way about relationships but I think for me, it is about respect.

If I meet a girl in my late 20s, she HAS to fall for me and love me like she loved her high school love interest.

If I meet a woman, it can't just be about my resources, she has to advertise the sh-t out of me.

If neither I or her can tell an intimate story about how we met and how special the whole thing was about us sleeping with each other, then it is staying strictly to just sex and nothing else.

As I hit my 30s, that is what matters to me.

I feel like if I was rich, the last thing I would want a girl to know is that I was rich.

We have to meet, ****, and do things the way she did in high school and college.

The thought of me having to pay for a date with a woman that gave that pu$$y away for free in college is enough to make me vomit.

Like if we met and ****ed without money even being mentioned, then I could consider an LTR with her but if not then I would even bother with it.

If we are to get serious, she HAS to see me in the same light high school girls saw the most popular guy in high school. I am not her husband, I am the guy she brags about sleeping with, being with, and whose life she brags about being a part of. There has to be a damn good story we should be able to tell about how we got together and it better not involve money.

In fact if I ever got rich and started meeting women, I would AUTOMATICALLY assume they were all gold diggers.

The very thought makes me believe that I will die alone.

 

[bigneil]

Like I cannot get how rich ugly guys can ever be happy in relationships knowing that the chick only wants them for the money, at least don't marry her.

What is the difference between that and a good looking broke guy who knows his chick only wants him for his looks? When you think about it you realize there is no difference. If she is with him, he had what it takes.

I agree with most of your points. If you don't have some love at first sight type moment early on, the relationship won't have what it takes to last.

 

[bigneil]

In the same fashion, I cannot understand how significantly older guys can consider anything serious with much younger women (18-22) unless we're talking Ben Affleck screwing Emily Ratowski or whatever on Gone Girl..

Have you seen The Most Interesting Man Alive (an old man)? Or Hugh Hefner (dated girls 60 years younger)? Or Donald Trump (25 years older than Melania)? Or James Bond (average age 44)? Or People's Sexist Man Alive (average age 42). For men, on average, they are their most powerful at age 50. They are their best looking around age 35. Your best days are ahead. Stop celebrating broke, gay male bartenders.

In fact if I ever got rich and started meeting women, I would AUTOMATICALLY assume they were all gold diggers.

The very thought makes me believe that I will die alone.

In that case, you should focus on having more to offer. You are projecting your own feelings of worthlessness onto other men. Women want to be the prettier one. Be the one with more resources.

 

[Listen_to_Olly]

I have alternated between spinning plates and LTRs for the past few years.

I get in relationships for companionship, not to have my emotions validated. Maybe try not expecting a fairy tale beginning? The last LTR I was in I banged the girl the first time I met her (we talked sporadically online before that) and we got in a relationship two months after that, she ended up being one the most loyal and fun girls I have ever been with. No woman has ever made me laugh so much in my life. If I expected a Disney fairytale beginning or dropped her from LTR consideration because she banged me on the first date (a red flag to many) I wouldn't have experienced such a fun relationship.

My point is keep your standards, but drop these expectations (of a magical, storybook first encounter). They seem to do nothing but depress you.

Other than that, I don't know what else to say to such a weird, sappy post.

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That's desirable, she didn't try to leech money off of you when starting out and she didn't try to suck up your wallet before ****ing you.

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

That's what I'm saying. Not necessarily something intimate. But I do NOT want to be liked or loved for my straw man stats. I do NOT want a girl to like me for what I exist on paper. She has to like me for me; my personality, quirks, my hobbies, what I'm passionate about, etc. That's why I absolutely hate the argument of people overvaluing money or any of that crap. I literally see worthless bums with girls who are better than them. I know they like those guys because of all those things though.

I don't have much right now because I'm still in college. But I don't particularly like telling people what my achievements are or what I am striving for, because then they would just want me for that, or make fun of me for what I want to achieve. The problem is finding that person. I'm young though so I can probably find someone soon enough though. I got my eyes on one girl actually.... We'll see what happens. Part of me wants to ask for advice on here, but I know damn well the responses I'll get and I know damn well what I would say to myself too lol. The timing just has to be right... or maybe it doesn't, who knows lol.

Yeah I feel you on that one OP. I don't need some crazy story or anything, but they gotta like me for me and not for something I give.

 

[Listen_to_Olly]

That's what I'm saying. Not necessarily something intimate. But I do NOT want to be liked or loved for my straw man stats. I do NOT want a girl to like me for what I exist on paper. She has to like me for me; my personality, quirks, my hobbies, what I'm passionate about, etc. That's why I absolutely hate the argument of people overvaluing money or any of that crap. I literally see worthless bums with girls who are better than them. I know they like those guys because of all those things though.

I don't have much right now because I'm still in college. But I don't particularly like telling people what my achievements are or what I am striving for, because then they would just want me for that, or make fun of me for what I want to achieve. The problem is finding that person. I'm young though so I can probably find someone soon enough though. I got my eyes on one girl actually.... We'll see what happens. Part of me wants to ask for advice on here, but I know damn well the responses I'll get and I know damn well what I would say to myself too lol. The timing just has to be right... or maybe it doesn't, who knows lol.

Yeah I feel you on that one OP. I don't need some crazy story or anything, but they gotta like me for me and not for something I give.

Good reason but I feel like I need to still have that story.

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

Good reason but I feel like I need to still have that story.

I'd much rather have a story of 'we met through mutual friends' rather than 'we both swiped right' or some other stupid petty crap lol